I like this guy, but he is a family friend, and i don't know if I should tell him how I feel. I don't want to get into a relationship, and then it not work out, becase we go to their house quite alot, and I would have to see him every time. Tihs would also be my first relationship. I don't know what to do. Please Help. No Stupid Answers Please.
2006-10-04 13:54:40 · 15 answers · asked by Horselover_94 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, hon, there's no easy answer here :) Life is full of risks - this is just one of the bigger ones.
You could always tell your parents how you feel - and you need their assurance that if things go badly between you and "the guy," that you won't be expected to go to the friends' home for get-togethers. If you're old enough to date, I'm guessing you're old enough to be without a babysitter, so this shouldn't be a problem.
There are *always* risks getting involved with someone - you jog at the same time on the same street and how would you face him if you got together then broke up - you both work out at the same gym - you both work at the same place - you both go to the same church - you both hit the same club - if you apply this fear to every relationship you might ever have, you will never have a relationship :)
Chances are (statistically speaking), this relationship will not be the forever one for you. But you can also remember that if it doesn't work out for some reason, you can both be mature about it and part decently, if not as friends.
I wish you the best! You're going into an exciting time in your life. Remember, "courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgement that something else is more important than fear." (Ambrose Redmoon) Love, or the possibility of love, is always more important than fear (trust me, if fear ruled my life no way would I have had one child, much less two!)
2006-10-04 14:03:15 · answer #1 · answered by tagi_65 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's a good question. The down side is, the chances of you two making it forever is slim because you are so young. It would be awkward if you break up. The upside is, the chances that he will treat you with respect is great! You both know each other well and you can mature together. Who knows, you may break up, experience new things, and come back to each other in the future. Life is too short, go for it. Hopefully he isn't too intimidated by your family friendship. Beware, if you get into a relationship, agree to keep your problems to yourself. You don't want to cause friction between your families.
2006-10-04 21:02:37 · answer #2 · answered by willno74 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you next see him tell him you really enjoy his company and you guys should hang out sometime .. make it very casual. If he shows and interest then go out with him some time, preferably with another couple, but tell him you like him but don't want to mess the family relationship so you think it would be good if you maintain the relationship as friends and go out occasionally as well as see others ... DON'T "go steady" with him or anybody else right now..it is rare that the FIRST relationship a person gets into is the last one and they finally get married, so if you do go steady with him you WILL eventually break up and the family relationship is ruined...If you "occasionally" hang out with him and others and don't go steady then it should be OK ...
2006-10-04 21:06:39 · answer #3 · answered by MeInUSA 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just relax and enjoy a new experience, no need to make it a big deal, just get as close as comfortable using your good morals and values. Every experience is a memory in the making and also a chance to learn about yourself and how to navigate through this life. Just do what you want to do, weighing the outcome of your choices, regrets are forever.
2006-10-04 21:18:52 · answer #4 · answered by rebecca b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can totally understand the situation you are going through. About 2 years ago I was in the same situation! My advice to you is to try to figure out if he likes you back. If you think that he does, go out on a limb and ask him out. If it doesn't work out, there is always a way to patch up any friendship. Best of luck to you!
2006-10-04 21:02:57 · answer #5 · answered by sasuke_raven 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok for me the best thing that i can tell you is that u just have to tell him straight up that u like him and go with watever he wants
if he goes out with you and it does not work just make sure that you remain friends
just tell him how u feel it is better to get that dirt off of your sholders than to carry that weight forever
and if he rejects you do not feel bad i once went out with this girl that i knew for like 12 years and at first it worked but later on i still say her as a friend and we just remained good friends
so that is the best i can do for u
2006-10-04 21:01:18 · answer #6 · answered by Patrick Teh III 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well first you should get to know him better, if you dont already. Maybe you should give it a try. just tell him how u feel and if it doesnt work out just be close friends.
2006-10-04 20:58:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You ar too young. Don't embarrass yourself...these are family friends and will be around a long time. Just enjoy the company when and if he is there.
2006-10-04 20:57:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You seem to have weighed up your argument pretty well and that it probably wouldn't be a good idea to get involved.
Do you even know how he feels about you??
2006-10-04 20:56:54 · answer #9 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
does he like you? does he give you any signs he wants something more than friendship? if yes, just go for it...if not, you need to find a way to forget him, maybe avoid seeing him for a while...
2006-10-04 20:58:04 · answer #10 · answered by Mila 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋