well i'm 15, and i live with jsut my mom. my dad and mom never got married, my dad lives in toronto with my two bayb brothers and stepmom, i still have communication with trhat family alot. anyways my mom was with this guy for 10 years got married after 2 years he moved out after a yr of marrige and theyve been on and off and now my mom has low self esteem and just rambles on about how she needs a bf and stuff. its taking alot out of me, since i'm in highschool its setting a bad example for me. i'm really close with my aunt and uncle and dont know if i should go there for a while maybe. what should i do?
2006-10-04 13:37:10 · 15 answers · asked by hugznkizzez101 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Get out of the house. You need people that will put you first. Your parents shouldn't be bringing you into their problems. You should be their problem!
2006-10-04 13:39:58 · answer #1 · answered by Chris C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow - you have done some heavy thinking here. It seems like you have some good reference points. Can you talk with your dad about it? What do Aunt and Unc think? Would you bring either your dad's or mom's support money/insurance with you. Does this involve changing schools?
You might think along the line of a 1 week trial and up it after reviewing how it went with the other parties. You are mature enough to handle this.
2006-10-04 13:41:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get away from your mom because right now she seems to be focused only on herself leaving you with this feeling of frustration and emotional abandonment. If you have loving, stable relatives that you can stay with for a while I think you should do it. Although you love your mom you must take care of yourself and your own well-being. Also, your mother needs to get some help so that her life can become peaceful again, and she has to learn to make wiser decisions regarding you, her personal relationships and herself. I wish you well.
2006-10-04 13:55:04 · answer #3 · answered by Bethany 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless your mother is doing more than your sharing with us, I don't think she needs to be abandoned during her time of trouble. You're setting a bad example for yourself, during your life many things will go not exactly as you wish, you don't want to walk away every time something is not to your liking. When it comes to family you should be there for each other during good times and especially bad. After all, put yourself in your mother's place, suppose she was having difficulty with you, would you want her to up and leave you . . . think about it. Hang in there honey, it will get better and soon you'll be on your own.
2006-10-04 13:52:26 · answer #4 · answered by beautyofthesea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Mom is just feeling alone and I'm sure she has a lot in her cup. Maybe you could try talking to her but if you choose to leave please discuss it with you Mom first out of respect for her, don't just go. But if you are really stressed out, talk to your Aunt and Uncle and see if you can live with them. If you choose to move please do see your Mom on occasion, being a mother myself I would be devastated if I didn't see my daughters. I can see your point though, your Mom needs to put you first for a change and see to your needs. Being a teen isn't that easy.
2006-10-04 13:41:27 · answer #5 · answered by goodbye 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to her seriously about this and also talk to your aunt and uncle about taking you for a while. You have enough stress with high school and being a teen. If you feel uncomfortable talking one on one go to your counselor or aunt and say you need someone to be there. Good Luck!
2006-10-04 13:41:03 · answer #6 · answered by natmys333 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell your mom how you feel. Tell her because she will appreciate it more than if you just move out with out explaining to her why. Plus i know it feel like shes being self centered and she is but you sound like a smart 15 year old so help her out. try making her happy by hanging out wihyt her cause it will help you too. Biut DO tell her that you don't like it when she talks the way she does and that its taking alot out of you.
i hope that helped
2006-10-04 14:27:01 · answer #7 · answered by hopeincubus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I believe it is taking alot out of you but there is no way it can be a bad example for you because you just said it was.You know its wrong so dont follow moms footprints.No dont run to aunts and uncles.If you run over something this little you will run all your life.
2006-10-04 13:57:55 · answer #8 · answered by darlene100568 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the FIRST young lady I have seen on this site with her head set on straight!!!!!! Most I tell to grow-up,but in your case I need to tell your Mom to. Have you talked to your Aunt and Uncle about moving in??? If they say yes,tell your Mom you love her. That you have your own troubles and don't need hers right now. Good Luck. I'm impressed by your maturity.
2006-10-04 13:52:47 · answer #9 · answered by whataboutme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The last thing your mom would need is another guy problem. Instead of bailing on her, maybe do more things with her. Go see a movie or go shopping with her. Just let her know that you are there for her no matter what happens.
2006-10-04 13:53:49 · answer #10 · answered by Aubrey's mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is there anyone you can talk to? maybe a priest? a minister? how about the school counselor? if not then reach out to your aunt and uncle. perhaps they can help aleviate some of the pressure and get you some counselling. good luck. you're in my prayers.
2006-10-04 13:42:16 · answer #11 · answered by debarina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋