This guy and I have been friends for a while now and flirted with each other for a long time before that. Five months ago I got out of an almost 5 yr. relationship, eight months ago he got out of a 1 1/2 yr. relationship (both were bad). We've been out on one official date and been out drinking three other times. All four times I stayed with him, nothing happened any of the times between us. And that has what's really got me attracted to him, he's such a gentleman. Right now we are just friends but I would like to take it to anther level. I'm not sure if I should and how to do it. (I'm shy and so is he) Or should I just let things be and see if they blossom on their own?
2006-10-04 13:29:25 · 23 answers · asked by Brandi C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't take it to the next level. Stay where you are right now and get comfortable first. Let things happen slowly. If both of you are just getting out of a relationship, jumping into a new one this fast is not a good idea. Go slow. Do not sleep with him. Relax, have a good time with him and see how things progress.
2006-10-04 13:31:49 · answer #1 · answered by Trollhair 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say ... just let things be as they are. Let things blossom on their own accord. No use pushing the issue. Sometimes great friendships can be ruined by the other party not having the same feelings as the other and it puts a strain on the friendship part. I would just give it some more time and see how you both feel then. Good luck to you.
2006-10-04 13:35:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is so awesome that there are still guys out there who aren't only going for the "one thing". A man like this is definitely a keeper. But as you said you just got out of a long relationship not too long ago. So take your time and slowly move up to the next level. Talk to him because he sounds like the kind of guy who would cherish you. All girls need that. Talk to him and see how he would feel if you moved up to the next level. I have a lot of respect for a man who can wait for a woman.
2006-10-04 13:34:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand your stress. this way of element sucks. you recognize in basic terms that this is been an surprisingly long term considering which you have talked to him. this is attainable that he extremely is blowing you off. it is likewise attainable that he's not, and you will hear from him quicker or later and he will gush apologies and tell a narrative approximately what replace into protecting him away so long. (Such issues do take place. some weeks in the past i honestly experienced something comparable; a woman I talked to approximately thrice each and every week by surprise disappeared. After 2 weeks, I heard from her lower back, and found out that she had gotten in a combat along with her mom who had then decrease off her telephone. no longer something to do with me, and now we are back the place we've been.) ultimately, this is attainable which you will by no potential understand one way or the different. So what. There are different adult men available. Lotz of em. you would be high quality.
2016-12-08 08:34:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give youselves some space. You both got out of a serious relationship and getting into the next will only make it worse. Just give it time and if it is meant to be it will be. And if it isn't, at least you have a great friend. Just let time tell.
2006-10-04 13:32:54 · answer #5 · answered by jaaaam 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Next level
2006-10-05 01:28:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no rush, is there?
Friendship is like wine. When allowed to mature, the wine is finer. The best marriages are those whereby the people grew closer and closer by liking each other first. Remember that you want to like as well as love your life partner.
Let love take it's time in it's own way.
2006-10-04 13:34:56 · answer #7 · answered by YRofTexas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd let things stay as they are for the moment, unless you want to talk to him about it. It could be that he's just not ready for anything else right now and if you try and start something, he will run in the opposite direction.
If it was me, I'd have a conversation with him. I'd tell him that I like him and I'd like to date him but asking whether he would be interested and is he ready.
2006-10-04 13:32:14 · answer #8 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good friends are hard to find. Let things be and be responsive when the time comes.
2006-10-04 13:31:30 · answer #9 · answered by analyst 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe try dating him without going out drinking and crashing at his place. See what happens then!
2006-10-04 14:26:42 · answer #10 · answered by J.Z. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋