Can some explain to me, why is it nessesary for some people to invade ones personal space? Why is it acceptable sometime and not others? I am confused. This has something to do with me and some one I work with. I know that I do not send out signals, yet still it happens.
2006-10-04 13:26:24 · 17 answers · asked by ? 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I think people that invade other peoples spaces are not aware they are doing it or do not realize it is a problem. I do not like people invading my space. I will jokingly stretch out my arms and say, Ooh I gotta have my 3 feet of personal space. It really depends on the person and how close I feel to them and the situation that puts them in my space. If it is a close friend, most the time I don't mind but if it is a stranger or a casual acquaintance, I do not like it at all. My son's kindergarten teacher's assistant was a "close talker" (got that from Seinfeld) She would lean forward to talk to you. The more she leaned forward, the more I turned away or would lean back. Super nice lady but had no clue about personal space.
2006-10-04 16:59:15 · answer #1 · answered by buckking_99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When someone invades my personal space, I either back away from them, or speak up immediately and tell them that they are too close to me and need to back up themselves. A lot of people are either unaware of the fact that what I call "close-talking," can be very uncomfortable for the person on the receiving end of this behavior. This can be complete ignorance on their part. Some people will also use this as a tactic to "dominate" the person they are talking to and get their point across. It does not do anyone any good to try and invade my personal space, as I instantly go into defensive mode; and will ignore their words because of the uncomfortableness of the situation. If this is a new person I am dealing with, I will tend to stop them immediately; so that the invasion does not continue in any subsequent time. If you are unable to stop the situation at work, and the person is not "getting" your signals, you may need to go to your immediate supervisor and in turn HR, if this does not improve the situation. It is difficult enough to deal with all you have to deal with at work, without having someone making you uncomfortable for no good reason. Good luck and have a good night!
2006-10-04 13:47:05 · answer #2 · answered by Sue F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personal space preference sometimes varies by culture. Americans especially tend to be more comfortable with a larger space than other cultures. Same goes for physical contact accompanying communication.
If someone continually invades your space, you should subtely let them know so that it doesn't keep happening. Just take a step back until they get the message.
2006-10-04 13:37:31 · answer #3 · answered by SedaCanela 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dancing 5 ft aside isn't even dancing jointly. Goodness. Even interior the 18th century they danced extra heavily than that. Ever tried doing a minuet with a 5 foot rule? (until eventually you have stretchy palms). there is no longer something incorrect with dancing.
2016-10-15 12:57:43 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personal space should ALWAYS be respected. Getting close to people - especially touching them - should develop in stages, and if it is welcomed. Pay attention to other people's body language: Notice if they keep their distance or not, and if they touch people around them or not. Touching people you don't really know is a social NO-NO, and you can usually tell if the touch is welcomed or not. If someone recoils, or they don't return the gesture, they want you to back off. Everyone is different, but it's not too hard to learn social graces. It's a game that people should learn to play, because it's a necessary skill in social situations. You should keep your distance with co-workers, classmates and those who aren't single. My wife and I sure don't like people getting too close or touchy-feely becase many of us aren't like that.
2006-10-04 13:53:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quite often, people will "Invade" your "Personal" space for one of two reasons: either they are attracted to you, or they are establishing their "Dominance" over you. If you are not interested in this person, the best course of action is to back up and re-establish your personal space immediately. That ought to give this person a subtle hint.
2006-10-04 13:31:35 · answer #6 · answered by digitalquirk 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People have different ideas regarding personal space. Some of it is cultural. Some cultures stand closer than others.
2006-10-04 13:37:57 · answer #7 · answered by Diana S 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I work in customer service and pretty often I get people that seem to have avoided taking a shower for months. Ironically, those are the people who tend to get closer to me even though I'm constantly trying to keep a big distance...
Good question
2006-10-04 13:30:40 · answer #8 · answered by Sergio__ 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
some people do not understand the concept of personal space. I always fill those people in when they invade mine
2006-10-04 13:28:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personal space varies, culture to culture, and person to person. For me, the rule that applies is actually how comfortable I am with the other person :-)
2006-10-04 14:53:44 · answer #10 · answered by TK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋