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do you work as hard as you can at work during the day and keep up a household for yourself and kids and all it ever seems is that you are finding things they lost, taking them back and forth to little leauge, cheerleading practice and games, getting special little things that they just have to have, getting off the phone so teenagers can talk, virtually getting no computer time on your own computer, putting up with them using all your deoderant, shampoo, drinking your last diet cola in the fridge .. and you just are happy that you have a family and kids to do all these things for but do you ever wish you could just get a sincere THANKS MOM.. does anyone else ever feel like all you do goes unappreciated and do you think that they will ever realize when they get older how great they really had it all along???

2006-10-04 13:17:47 · 8 answers · asked by caligrl 5 in Family & Relationships Family

I have gone back on my question to add this.. thank you all for responding to this.. you have made me feel better and that I am not alone in feeling this way... thank you so much

2006-10-04 15:22:45 · update #1

8 answers

dont feel that way..we act like we dont appreciate it but really we appreciate it more than anything..we realize the things you do now..but we show our appreciation as we get older

2006-10-04 14:07:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

You hit the nail on the head with your descriptions!!

My children have finally grown to appreciate me. My 24 year-old daughter called me tonight because she has a cold and wanted to know what to do to treat it. My 18 year-old son called from basic training just to hear a friendly voice.

The rest of the time I am living in a home with no children. It is so nice to be able to put a diet pop in the fridge and it stays there until I want it!

I did suffer from the "empty nest" syndrome after my son left. It lasted about it a week - then the pure bliss of a quiet home took over.

2006-10-04 13:23:12 · answer #2 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0 0

It constantly amazes me that after guys/females depart the loved ones residence for one other associate they under no circumstances placed the pursuits in their kids first. The just one they recall is themselves. Your kids will undergo if you're no longer round on a steady foundation and why will have to you set up with that, in any case it was once she that left you. You relatively had no alternative within the topic and consider helpless on the quandary you might have now determined your self in. It could also be time to recall a difference on your existence, transfer jobs (I realize that is frightening and really tough) and transfer towards your loved ones. This manner you'll be able to have steady high-quality time along with your kids. You do not say how lengthy your associate has been in her present courting so that you under no circumstances realize confidently she is going to have an understanding of it's not all that she anticipated and turn out to be on her possess, candy justice I realize. At least then she might come to have an understanding of probably the most heartache you're now dealing with. Show her that you're robust and be observed to be towards your kids handiest this manner will you discover peace and be capable to contine via your existence with out remorse Good success and keep robust.

2016-08-29 07:49:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Big hug! Yes, we all feel it. And when they grow up and move away, maybe get married, start their own lives, boy do you feel left out, forgotten about and just not loved. So with that call your mom regularity and tell her how much you appreciate her. I call mine every Sunday like clockwork. This is the totally giving side of life, with little or no appreciation to show for it. I just hope when I leave this world, that the colors really are intense. lol

2006-10-04 13:22:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Oh yes, I do share your pain.

My thoughts are this, make sure when they do special things that you say thank you and show appreciation. It is important that children are taught to appreciate and say thank you. This is one of the most important lessons they can ever learn as children. This will help them as they build the many relationships in their personal and professional lives as adults. So even though you do special things for them because you love them, remind them to say please, thank you and to show genuine gratitude and what better person for them to start with than "good old mom." Let them know that you don't do for them for them to say thank you but it is very important that they recognize what you do for them and be grateful. My kids hate my going through this drill with them but believe it or not, it does work.

Good luck to you and your teenagers Mom. My motto "Parenting...the toughest job you'll ever love!" :-)

2006-10-04 14:48:49 · answer #5 · answered by curious51867 2 · 0 0

The thing with my kids is they think that i have to do those special things for them, that i owe that to them. They dont understand the things that you as a parent give up for yourself so that they can have those things. Just once it would be nice for them to ask what do you need mom(just once) but in my life everything that i do is for them, once in awhile my son who is 17 will come up and kiss me on the cheek (out of the blue) and tells me he loves me and you know what that makes everything worthwhile. i think when they are in our shoes as parents themselves they will appericate the things that we did for them growing up and they will see.

2006-10-04 13:27:06 · answer #6 · answered by jimmy fan101 2 · 0 0

Yes, and it does not stop when they move out.

2006-10-04 13:22:45 · answer #7 · answered by Connie H 3 · 0 0

I thought that was the job description........it's not?

2006-10-04 14:00:09 · answer #8 · answered by Sunbaby 4 · 0 0

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