For example: "for all that we have been blessed, a monetary gift is one we would suggest". Simple polite wordings like this to add on an invitation. Is there any web sites where I can find these wordings?
2006-10-04 13:16:46 · 21 answers · asked by abigailroxas 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
There is no polite way to say that.
Asking for ANY sort of gifts is rude. Asking for money gifts is EXTREMELY rude, regardless of how you say it.
What people choose to give you as a gift is up to them, NOT up to you.
There should not be any mention of gifts at all, in your invitations. Gifts are entirely beside the point. The point of the invitations is that you want to invite them to celebrate with you and partake of your hospitality. End of story.
2006-10-04 15:26:15 · answer #1 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋
DO NOT do this! It is absolutely rude and tacky. The phrase that you give as an example is just gross. People invited to weddings are not "obligated" to give a gift, it is their choice. Of course, most people choose to, because they want to choose something for the couple to have in their new home, etc.. If you happen to get some money gifts, fine. But DO NOT ask for them. I can't believe you would even think of such a crass thing.
2006-10-05 01:54:36 · answer #2 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a buddy who at present wrote in her invitation that she did no longer certainly want something and could like presents of money (i'm no longer precisely specific how she worded it) and it did no longer pass over nicely. human beings concept it replaced into rude. So perhaps you may sign in for some issues at purpose or something, yet no longer too many. then human beings could prefer to furnish your cash quite of a present, in the event that they don't have lots to make a choice from on the registry. additionally, I wager various human beings provides you with money as a present besides, without you even having to ask :-) i understand my destiny-sister-in-regulation have been given around $4000 which incorporates the two the bathe and reception. So i could propose you to no longer ask on the invitation, you will probably get money besides :-)
2016-10-15 12:57:14 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO.
You do not EVER put a gift request in an invite.... VERY BAD ETTIQUETTE.
You can tell your mom and your fiance's mom and they can spread the word.
FYI, shower would suck if you just got cards. Part of the fun is watching the bride open up presents. Not to mention some people (myself included) don't like giving money since it's like putting a price on the relationship you have.
2006-10-04 16:55:55 · answer #4 · answered by Laura 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Websites will explain to you how extremely rude it is to ask for money. Its bad enough to put your registry info in the invites. You should just not ut any info about gifts at all and then most people will give money since they will not know where you are registered. You can also have close family tell people you prefer money instead of gifts IF they are asked about it.
2006-10-04 13:50:22 · answer #5 · answered by Mommy-of-Twins 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You can try wedding invitation websites but honestly, this one will be difficult to write without dangerously coming off as crass or greedy.
From an invitee's point of view a gift is something personal between the giver and receiver. Having not been given any options but cash I would probably not feel very gererous.
My advice is to omit it entirely; Most likely you're going to get a lot of cash anyway.
2006-10-04 13:33:41 · answer #6 · answered by Hayseedless 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
There is no correct way to ask for ANY gift. Even though people do it, putting registry info in an invite is tacky, so you can see how asking for money would be beyond tacky. Don't do it, people will ask you and your parents where you're registered and that's when you can say that you aren't.
2006-10-04 17:42:19 · answer #7 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I really don't think you can without sounding tacky. Ask your parents and in-laws beforehand that if anyone asks them, tell them you two could really use money. This was it sounds as if it's coming from the parents and not you two.
Make sure you don't register anywhere--you're bound to get a lot of $$ that way. We registered still most of our gifts were money!
2006-10-05 03:15:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no polite way to ask for gift of any kind. You don't put that in your wedding invitations.
2006-10-04 16:04:27 · answer #9 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Not sure there is a polite way. The absense of "registry" info might give the guest a clue. Personally I think it is improper to invite with one hand and ask for a specific gift with the other.
2006-10-04 13:27:20 · answer #10 · answered by yolkyolk 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋