What are some subtle ways to get him to propose? We are both 28, have stable careers and have done many things in our life. The last 1.5 years have been great. We've talked little things here and there about marriage and the future and I have no doubt in my mind that this is it. However, I think he may need a push. How?
2006-10-04 13:07:13 · 13 answers · asked by mgirl883 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
put holes in the condoms
2006-10-04 13:09:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 8⤋
yeah I finally got engaged at 28 too! and my fiance is 10 years older than me. We were together for 3 years when he knew I had enough. All of my friends were/are getting married and I wanted to marry him. I was a complete bit** about the whole thing and made it quite clear if he didn't propose before Christmas I was out. I got the ring, he's happier than ever and so am I. He even said it was the best thing he ever did and I'm talking about a super stubborn construction worker here. Just be ready to leave him if you have to and state your case clearly. You don't want to be an old bride plus you dont want to have kids too old either you know. Hang in there a little longer and if you talk to him and get nowhere just find someone who wants the same things you do. 28 is the age where you have to stop screwing around and settle. Good luck, you may not even have anything to worry about, he could be ring shopping and just trying to throw u off.
2006-10-05 10:48:21 · answer #2 · answered by Jersey Style 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 25 and my boyfriend is 33. We've been dating a year and 1/2 and we both know and have talked about getting married. I'm not shy to ask him directly, like so when do you think we're going to get married and I tell him upfront, listen, I want to get married by our 2 year anniversary which is in May. Even if we don't have the big wedding reception then, let's get the civil stuff out of the way so that we can be "officially" married and move in together and then we can have the big fancy wedding reception in another year when we are settled and have enough money saved up. Don't be afraid to let him know where you stand cause who knows, you might not be on the same page...
2006-10-05 12:56:47 · answer #3 · answered by mzsaran 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same place and if you feel like I do, you don't want to force him to propose (cuz let's face it, that's just not romantic) but you don't want to wait forever.
Have a serious but non-threatening talk with him about the future. Tell him that marriage has been on your mind and you wanted to know what he thoughts are on the topic. No more little talk here, but nothing huge and earth-shattering either.
If you want to keep it quick and simple, just tell him "you do realize that if you were to ask me to marry you tonight I would say YES, right?" Not romantic or subtle, but it gets the point across without you actually proposing.
2006-10-04 21:34:14 · answer #4 · answered by Church Music Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to say that I don't believe being 28 and having stable careers and having been dating for 18 months means as much to a guy as it does to a gal.
The only advice I can offer that I think really works is to break it off and if he comes looking for you then that means 1-he does truly care for you and then 2- he will propose soon because he won't want to risk losing you.
I wish I could give you a miracle answer but I don't have one and I do know that guys do not like to be pushed or pressured into topics of that nature. They like to do things on their own, and you don't want to do anything to pressure him because I am sure you would be much happier knowing he did it on his own versus being married 3yrs down the road and being possibly unhappy and wondering if he married you because it was truly what he wanted or because you made him do it.
Good luck , I truly believe in that if you love something and let it go, ifit comes back to you, it truly was meant to be.
2006-10-04 20:17:32 · answer #5 · answered by fatima_mst 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can't force a guy to marry you and if you've been together for almost 2 years wait until you hit the 2 year mark and then gradually start talking about marriage and if he's iffy and dodgy then you know he's not ready and don't waste your time with someone who can't have a mature discussion about marriage.
2006-10-04 20:53:10 · answer #6 · answered by nabdullah2001 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Although I cringe to recommend Helzberg (I have had a HORRIBLE experience with them and my engagement ring), they have an option on their site called "Send a hint." It looks like an advertisement, but it focuses the "ad" on what you like, and they email it to whoever you want to receive it.
Casually point out other women's rings more often. Pause a little longer in jewelry store windows. Talk about the future. That's what I did with my fiance. He definitely got the hint. :-)
2006-10-04 23:49:06 · answer #7 · answered by Esma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would either propose to him or wait until he does. Or, you can talk about it. But I would not hint...that seems unnecessary to me and I don't know...hinting reminds me of high school, ya know? Anyway, I bought my fiance a white gold band 6 months after we get engaged and he wears it proudly. He loves it. If you want to propose to him you could even get him a ring. Screw tradition :)
2006-10-04 23:14:20 · answer #8 · answered by ixi26c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget all the game playing...look, either you love each other and it's going to work out, or it's not. Ask him if he wants to get married...TO YOU of course...and then give him some time to get used to the idea that you just proposed to him....
2006-10-04 20:59:03 · answer #9 · answered by Texanborn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My fiance and I were suppose to jump the broom today but unfortunately he changed the plans without me if you know what I mean but that is fine by me. I am starting to think that this is not the relationship for me. Everyone is saying that he may just be scared but this has been going on 5 years.
2006-10-04 22:06:48 · answer #10 · answered by CaramelSundae 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Christmas is coming and so are all the diamond advertisements on tv, when you are watching together make sure you say oh what beautiful diamonds. Good luck.
2006-10-04 23:40:06 · answer #11 · answered by kitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋