I find people respond better when I do not react to what they are saying. You hold things in so you do not react, but you forgot to respond.
A response is made with respect. It addresses the issue being discussed. It allows you to express your opinion. Learn to trust that you have valid opinions based on experience and learning. Share your wisdom.
How you respond teaches people about you. What your values are, what your experiences have been. Think about what you want to say, say it, and have confidence that you can choose to say the right thing. You can do it. Be the Teacher.
2006-10-04 13:24:59
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answered by Sunbaby 4
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Take a class in "Assertiveness Training". Holding things in is not the best way to handle your feelings or thoughts. They'll just come back at you and more than likely, with a vengeance. There are ways to communicate both without being offensive or hurtful.
2006-10-04 20:44:11
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answered by Paige2 3
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When something is bothering you, speak on it right then and there. Holding it in only builds up frustration inside you and then you just blow up all at once. I know because I am a person that used to do that. I used to hold my tongue and let people walk all over me and my feelings. But then I realized that those people are sleeping at night while I'm sitting at home worried and stressed out about a situation I could have handled when given the opportunity. It takes time to grow enough courage to speak your mind but once you get to that point, trust me, you will feel much better about yourself and be a better person for sure.
2006-10-04 20:11:25
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answered by missmozee 3
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It is hard, but a lot of times it is better to keep things in than telling the person the truth. On the other side of the coin, if you can't communicate openly with a person found someone that you can.
2006-10-04 20:09:42
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answered by tcmoosey 3
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Well holding things in is not communicating at all. If you can not talk to your family and friends and need to poor your heart out to a stranger, then look up my profile and send me an e-mail or IM and will talk things over with you
2006-10-04 21:11:20
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answered by kel 5
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Try to visualize the point would like to get across. When you realize that nobody can read your mind about what you really think is important or what you may desire, it will get easier. You are just as entitled as anybody else to let your ideas, thoughts, wishes known. Anyone who loves you will not reject your communication and if they do, that is their problem. Because you are being open and honest and communicative. Good Luck. You can do this. :)
2006-10-04 20:10:06
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answered by yowhatsup2day 4
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Hey... some of us our introverts. We don't have the need to communicate all our feelings to everyone we end up meeting (unless, of course, it's in answering yahoo.questions). It's OK to be an introvert! So, stop worrying about your communication skills unless you're doing yourself a disservice by not speaking up about things that are wrong in the world. Then feel free to SHOUT. Otherwise, go placidly amid the noise and haste and remember what truth their may be in silence...
2006-10-04 20:07:40
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answered by mJc 7
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When your not upset (mad) sit someone down and talk to them, let them know exactly how you feel. Try this with all of your family and keep the communication lines open. If you do this, and give others their chance to open up to you also, then things will come out in the open and not be so upsetting. I hope I helped!
2006-10-04 20:10:17
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answered by ? 6
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Do some self exploration and find out why you tend to hold things in. Are you uncomfortable in social situations? Do you tend to clam up for fear of being judged? Once you identify the problem, you will be able to better address the problem through counseling or self-help books.
2006-10-04 20:15:14
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answered by mad 3
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Practice conversations with yourself. Learn to say exactly what you intend to say. Do not let your emotions get in the way. If you are upset about something then wait until later to explain your point.
2006-10-04 20:09:11
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answered by physandchemteach 7
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