My boyfriend and I have been dateing for two years . We plan to get married after college . But he's always busy with work and school. I want the best for him. I found out that he's making money for my 19th birthday . To stay at disney land for two days. But I hardly get to see him. I miss cooking his dinner and spending time with him. I get really depress alot and cry . I love him with all my heart and I dont want to break up with him. But I want to spend more time with him. How can I show him how I feel and tell him. I dont want him to be upset. Please help . And please dont be rude.
2006-10-04 12:53:16 · 13 answers · asked by kitty 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I dont feel love anymore and I want to be with him.
2006-10-04 12:54:17 · update #1
Please help . Thank you so much.
2006-10-04 12:55:21 · update #2
And please dont be rude. I'm in alot of pain. And stress about this.
2006-10-04 12:58:00 · update #3
My parent's said they'll pay for everything . I just dont get it . I really care about him and I try to be a perfect girlfriend. I told him I dont care if we go . But he want's to go with me.
2006-10-04 13:09:00 · update #4
I'm so upset . I just wont eat or sleep. I'm so depress.
2006-10-04 13:11:13 · update #5
There's no one else . We had that talk before. I told him if he ever liked someone else . Just break up with me . But he said that he loves me and only me.
2006-10-04 13:17:42 · update #6
He doesn't even have time for his friends anymore.
2006-10-04 13:18:39 · update #7
I dont know what to do. I just dont want to get hurt agian.
2006-10-04 13:20:41 · update #8
I do everything for him , I treat him right and always take care of him.
2006-10-04 14:26:21 · update #9
I'am I wrong for feeling this way . I just get so hurt and upset.But I love him and when I try to leave him I just cant.
2006-10-04 14:28:31 · update #10
I've totally been there, except I let it get to the point where I actually cheated on the guy, because I needed to feel loved. Don't let it get to that point. Tell him about your feelings now! If you've been dating for two years and don't feel comfortable enough to tell him that stuff then maybe you aren't ready to marry this guy. Just say it straight out. Don't try to drop hints. Guys hate that. Say, " I feel lonely because you aren't around enough. I miss you and I'm craving time with you right now". Don't get mad at him though. He sounds like he has good intentions. He is saving money by working so much so that he can take YOU on a special birthday get away. Just appreciate him for what he does for you and be nice to him when you tell him how you feel. Guys respond better when their chicks are calm about stuff.
2006-10-04 13:02:26 · answer #1 · answered by sexy lady 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him. Here you are telling the whole world and you're not telling him. What to say? Try this...
Relationships take money, but they also take time and effort. You have to balance all three or the relationship WILL fail.
Disney land would be great but if it means not seeing you for 6 months while you work for extra money, I would rather just spend a quiet weekend in a nearby hotel. I'm sure we could book ahead and call around and find some good weekend deals. Remember you are working for me, but I need more than money, I want to share my life with you and that means spending more time with me. I am willing to do with a less luxury and extras to see you more.
Try that and be patient. Good luck.
2006-10-04 19:58:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Short Baby He does have a goal but from what you said it is counterproductive
What does he like about you physicaly ?
A mans testosterone is highest in the morning let him sleep at night attack him right after he takes a p1ss
Buy lingerie .No i am wrong buy two sexy lingerie pieces and ask him which one he likes the best
Get him to wear boxers at breakfast (make sure he has taken a p1ss)
At breakfast slip your feet into his crouch and rub
Break out the sex acts he likes that you understandably dont like to do all the time
chocolate lots of chocolate
Cuddel even if he is watching the game or playing a video game .Dont disrupt his game .Dont do a football or me moment .Instead stoke his fires pretend no dont pretend because you are going to be doing a gentle stealth form of foreplay by touching him when he plays his video game or watches football .
2006-10-04 20:07:49 · answer #3 · answered by bolounit1 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry that you feel frustrated. I would very much question that he does not have time for you. How much can a two-day stay at Disneyland cost. I would be very cautious of his excuses why he cannot be with you. I went to school full-time worked and 32 hours at the same time. I still had time for my social life (for my boyfriend). There was not a feeling of emptiness like you are feeling. There is something more to this.
2006-10-04 19:59:39 · answer #4 · answered by Wondering myself 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are secure enough about your relationship with this guy you should understand that you will have plenty of time to spend with him in the future. Just be understanding and loving towards him when you do see him, and try to resist the temptation of nagging him about not spending enough time together. Also find a hobby or concentrate on doing the best you can in college or with your career.
2006-10-04 20:00:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
uhmm, Well realy you need to talk to him eirther way. Theres nothing you can do by wishing this or that... So talk to him, explain, make sure he knows, that you love him and dont want to break up. But dont give breaking up an option eg> "I want to spend more time with you, I dont want to break up with you, if you cant find time we will have to break up", that isnt good, that will just want him to stop everything for you, and stoping his school work wont be good for him nor you, So talk and maybe he can change things. Make sure he knows that You love him "with all your heart". It will all work out, School = money, Work = Money, so eirther way, Alot of money one day :] Hope this will help you.
2006-10-04 19:59:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
At least he is working, and is still thinking of you for your 19th b-day. Ya it gets depressing, but the waiting in the long run will pay off.
If thinking of marrige after college; here is the test to see if it works before the long commitment.
2006-10-04 19:59:40 · answer #7 · answered by Drojan W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
take the time that you do get to spend together and just adore him, he sounds like a dream come true. think about it, he's not always busy running around with other girls or with his guys. he is preparing for the future. if you sleep on this dude......give me his number and I'll know what to do with him. .....my point is....dont sleep on this guy.
would you rather see him all the time, which means he would not be working towards the future.....or would you rather him work for your lives together so that, when you are older, you wont be struggling and working hard to make ends meet, with no Disney vacations...think about it sis.
2006-10-04 19:58:56 · answer #8 · answered by goldie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all I think it's great that you are in love with him. You need to ask yourself a few questions. You will be 19 and you are still young. Express your feelings to him let him know how you are feeling stop hiding your feelings. Tell him to be honest with you and let you know if there is somebody else. If you are in love like you say you are he will come around real soon.
2006-10-04 20:00:53 · answer #9 · answered by sassy s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you are wanting to spend more time with him then tell him that in your own ways if your wanting to marry him then your going to have to learn patience
2006-10-04 19:58:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋