I am having a second wedding ceremony for my friends and family,as our first wedding ceremony was overseas, we would like only cash gifts as we have everything else that we need, so im looking for ideas on how to put this into our invitations, what is a politically correct way to ask our guests for money instead of gifts? please only answer this question if you have done this yourself or if you genuinely have a good idea
2006-10-04 12:53:11 · 14 answers · asked by lavidamasespecial1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I have heard of people doing this before and it is not tacky! so stop with the tacky stuff, my friends and family will understand however i just need to find an appropriate way to ask so that i can add it to my invitations.
2006-10-04 13:03:29 · update #1
It your wedding do as you want this is really the best i could find for money that was cretive and not tacky about asking for a monetary gift.I also want to incclude that word of mouth and a wedding website is actually the best way to spread the message.
Now we are to be Mr & Mrs
We don't need a wedding list of dishes
We have the kettles, the toasters, the linen
All we lack now is a house to put it in.
If you would like to give us a gift,
We know of something that would give us a lift
Please donate your love to our own little 'Well'
How grateful we'd be, we just cannot tell.
To save you from looking, shopping, or buying.
Here is an idea, we hope you don’t mind trying.
Come to our wedding to wish us both well,
And make some use of our little wishing well.
Your wishes will be used to find a home of our own
Which we will have you to thank, when our family has grown
Now that we have saved you all of the fuss,
We hope that you will come and celebrate with us!
2006-10-04 17:57:43 · answer #1 · answered by movin12006 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
"I have heard of people doing this before and it is not tacky! so stop with the tacky stuff, my friends and family will understand however i just need to find an appropriate way to ask so that i can add it to my invitations."
Well guess what? It is tacky. As for those people who have done this before, those unfortunate enough to get thier invites thought they were tacky ... and greedy. The fact that you are looking for a polite way to say something like 'cash only' should be a big red flag that you are crossing over into a socially taboo area. The best way to get the word out is to have your parents, his parents, and members of the original wedding party spread the word about your situation. Just do not put it in print!
2006-10-04 17:29:19 · answer #2 · answered by Liz 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-03-18 04:56:43 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep in mind that people are not obligated to give gifts. (But, by God, I wish they were!!!) What you want to do is tell your parents this and have them spread the word. If YOU are called about it, then say, "Well, we are pretty set for material goods. We are really just working on building up a good foundation for our lives now. Thank you!" They may or may not get the hint, but at least you tried.
I wouldn't print it on your invites. People may get offended (as you have seen), or they may feel bad if they already bought you a gift. There probably are some who have bought you presents that they feel are just perfect, and saddening them is unnecessary. It may also make people feel pressured to give you more than they can really afford.
Remember: You can always return/exchange gifts, or sell them on amazon.com or ebay.
2006-10-04 17:05:30 · answer #4 · answered by Esma 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is no polite way to say that.
Asking for ANY sort of gifts is rude. Asking for money gifts is EXTREMELY rude, regardless of how you say it.
What people choose to give you as a gift is up to them, NOT up to you.
There should not be any mention of gifts at all, in your invitations. Gifts are entirely beside the point. The point of the invitations is that you want to invite them to celebrate with you and partake of your hospitality. End of story.
Source(s):
Book: Miss Manners on Weddings
2006-10-04 15:30:14 · answer #5 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Giving cash gifts at weddings nowdays is pretty much the norm, so just make sure you have a wishing well set up somewhere visible. At my wedding there was only one gift, and it was recieved graciously.
There really is no proper way to ask for money at the reception, and like I said, monetary gifts are pretty much normal nowdays.
good luck
2006-10-04 15:17:59 · answer #6 · answered by tiggerluv252000 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You don't have that option with sounding classless and ungrateful. The only polite way to request money directly is by requesting that they give money to a charity in your name, but that doesn't seem like something you would do given your question here...
2006-10-04 15:38:25 · answer #7 · answered by carobygirl 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I do not feel there is any good way for YOU to say this. Have close family or friends spread the word around. Most people will think of this on their own.
2006-10-04 15:30:07 · answer #8 · answered by Patti C 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You may not think it's tacky, but most civilized people do.
If you don't like the gift you get RETURN THEM and get cash or store credit.
2006-10-04 16:58:21 · answer #9 · answered by Laura 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
On your invitaions, ask for "No gifts please!" but at your recection, set up "wishing wells" for people to put money in. It's cute for decoration, and not takcy. And you can really get everyone involved, not just the attenting adults. You could even make a game at your reception like "Whichever table has to 'fullest' wishing well, receives a free dance with the bride/groom" or something along those lines.
best of luck!
2006-10-04 13:03:31 · answer #10 · answered by Pandora 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋