I am a single parent trying to juggle homework, dinner, baths, etc. for 2 kids. 10yr and 8yr. Ok my 10yr is a bright student never needs my help doing homework where as my 8yr is opposite, does anyone have any ideas for me??? I get totally frustrated trying to get him to understand math, it gets to the point where i am yellling at him, no i dont call him names but yelling is bad enough. i have tried getting my 10yr old to help but he doesnt respond to that as well....go figure, his sister is VERY patient. i find that i am just not patient with either one of them, i lose my temper quickly and i cant understand why? i see and hear myself doing this and i cant stop myself.......i dont want to make them feel inferior, but i know it stems from the way my father was towards me......please any advice at all.
2006-10-04 12:48:14 · 10 answers · asked by iluvluceee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
update: Please keep in mind I have 2hrs to do all of this for my 2-kids, and yes I am quite proficient in math.
2006-10-04 13:00:00 · update #1
update: He truly does need to bath every night he gets filthy daily to the point of leavin a ring around the tub :).....serioulsy. Also he has adhd but is doing well on a natural remedy I have researched and found to be making a huge difference
2006-10-04 13:02:36 · update #2
update: I am NOT giving my 10yr old a bath but with my son i do have to sit and make sure he cleans himself and doesnt destroy the bathroom with water everywhere......i dont bath him myself
2006-10-04 13:03:41 · update #3
update: We have structure, but in the midst of all of this my poor 10yr never gets any of my attention i am spending at least an hour 1/2 doing homework with him.
2006-10-04 13:05:36 · update #4
Oh my!! I thought I was the only one that went through that. I'm a single mom and my eight year old son is the same way. I didn't have the patience to sit down and help my son with homework, especially his math. Yes, I would quickly lose my temper and I would start yelling at him. Then after I would yell at him and it was all said and done I would feel terrible and feel like such a bad mother. I understand exactly what you are going through.
Well what I did to help better my situation was hire a tutor. He gets tutor by one of the teachers in his school and it's been the best thing I've done. I don't have to worry about his homework when we get home because his tutor takes care of it. A lot of us aren't teachers and we don't have the technique and patience to teach or help our children with homework, so we need to get help from those that are trained professionals.
I suggest you talk to your child school and find out if they offer tutoring or at least let you know of places that do. Good luck!!
**Please don't yell at your children anymore. I made that same mistake and it only made things worst. Love, patience, and a plan is all it takes.
2006-10-04 13:40:58 · answer #1 · answered by M & M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These current days with your children are hard, but you will be shocked at how swiftly the years will pass you by (honestly). You do not want to look back with regret when their 18th birthday arrives. Please don't yell at your 8 year-old about his homework. Really THINK about what you're doing to him. Stop. You are supposed to be his protector, his advocate, his hero. Yes, mom... his hero. So, shoulders back, hold your head up high and make a plan. Can you hire a highschool student to help him with his math homework? Have you talked to his math teacher yet? Many schools have after school homework and tutoring sessions. Also, kids do not have to take a bath every single night! Every other night should be fine unless they're playing in the mud every day. This is what I mean by making a plan. Sit down and make an organizational plan and try to follow it (be flexible though). Don't repeat the mistakes your father did. You are smarter than that' you are stronger than your father because of the pain you experienced; and you WILL do what's right for all your children. Take some time out for you, too, mom. You deserve a break now and then. Again trust me... these days will be gone before you realize it. Treasure them.
2006-10-04 19:58:27 · answer #2 · answered by mJc 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem so you're not alone, apart from my nine year old wanting help all the time when he should be doing homework all by himself (as the teachers have told me!). I'm hoping it will get easier, but they get more homework as they go through the years and I can't remember bringing that much home and getting help from my parents when I was younger.
As soon as they come home, have something ready for them to eat then set them down to do their homework. Spend a certain amount of time with each child to help them. Getting into this routine does help a little.
2006-10-04 20:00:04 · answer #3 · answered by Dragon Empress 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When our daughter was in high school in the National Honor Society, they offered a tutoring program after school. This was done for no cost to the students. Maybe the local high school in your area offers the same type thing. Often times young people will react differently to teens..maybe kinda like a mentoring program. Good luck
2006-10-04 21:25:02 · answer #4 · answered by JIM D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
speaking as a mother of a 3rd grader just take a deep breath and see if your school has a resource office and see if you can get someone to talk with him and help with his homework sometimes he might react different with other people in a different surrounding my son has a tutor that helps him with his homework 3 days a week for 2 hours a day good luck
2006-10-04 20:56:15 · answer #5 · answered by jo mason 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a tutor, yelling at your kids makes things worse and if you cant handle it get someone else to and why are your giveing a 8 and a 10 year olds baths?
2006-10-04 19:58:29 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just relax... take some deep breathes, make sure there are no disctractions, movies, tvs, video games, cell phones etc... have a cold glass of water next to you and just be patient try showing him some "shortcuts" or ways to make the problems easier... i hope you aren't gettin frustrated b/c you don't know how to solve the problems...
2006-10-04 19:51:28 · answer #7 · answered by swingorstrikeout 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call his school and see if they have a tutor that could help him. My son had to have one in the fourth grade. She was great and it really helped him.
2006-10-04 19:51:15 · answer #8 · answered by Jen G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a rapping math tape I used to have one. It teaches you how to multiply with a funky beat.
2006-10-04 19:51:47 · answer #9 · answered by peach49444 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
patience & love
2006-10-04 19:49:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋