i don't know why, but i find it quite ugly when the groom goes under her dress, and tries to get it with his teeth..especially when there are elder family members...?
2006-10-04 12:18:42 · 22 answers · asked by sasmallworld 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Thank the Lord, I found someone else that feels like I do. It's disgusting, and some grooms really get carried away. The polite way to do this is the bride slips the garter to her calf, the groom lifts her dress slighty and removes the garter. She's a bride, not some bimbo you picked up off the street. I think it's tacky when they act like they going for the panties too. So, no you don't have to have a garter toss, or you make it very clear to the groom what is and what isn't going to happen.
My husband was a gentleman, and my son-in-law was too. The garter was on the calf, and no one got a free peek show or a x-rated one either. THANK you so much for the chance to answer such a great question, some people love that kind of stuff, but I am in totally agreement with you. It's a wedding, and the bride is a lady-treat her as such.....
God bless us all.........
2006-10-04 15:25:25 · answer #1 · answered by totallylost 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not required. It is your wedding ... you make your own traditions!
We had the garter toss at my wedding and it was a Christian wedding wi/many elders. I wore hose and I did not put the garter "too high" up on my leg (probably right above the knee). My husband lifted my dress so as not to put me on display and he did not take it off with his teeth, just gently with his hands and then he tossed it into the crowd of bachelors. I did not much care for this tradition either, but it turned out just fine and it was just a tiny thing within the entire ceremonies overall.
2006-10-04 19:22:20 · answer #2 · answered by J.Z. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do not have to do anything you don't want to. Just skip this part. Have the bouquet toss if you are going to do that and then just go on with the reception.
If you would like to do the garter toss, you can take it off in private, give it to your new husband and he can toss it. The teeth thing is not tradition; it is just something someone came up with.
Best wishes on your wedding day.
2006-10-04 22:32:27 · answer #3 · answered by Patti C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I understand what you're saying. I think if you don't feel comfortable having your husband take off your garter with his teeth, then wear the garter lower on your leg, closer to your knee and have him tastefully remove it with his hands.
Also, we are getting married next June and we decided to auction off our garters to the guests instead of tossing them. It's a cool twist on the ''tossing the garter" tradition. Plus you never know how much a garter is going to go for when people are drinking....lol...My friend's was auctioned off for $500.00 that was used towards their honeymoon!
2006-10-04 23:58:47 · answer #4 · answered by shortydolphin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As the bride or groom, you would decide what you HAVE to do. If you hate the idea of a garter toss, by all means don't do it. Don't feel pressured to conform to wedding cliches if you don't want to. After all, you (or your family) is paying for it.
2006-10-04 21:12:18 · answer #5 · answered by Laura 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course you don't have to. The bride and groom decide what they want to do at their own wedding. You're still married, even if you haven't tossed the garter.
2006-10-04 19:20:53 · answer #6 · answered by Fleecie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm exactly the same. I'm getting married in a month and I think some things are better left out of the public eye! I find the whole predicament awkward. We aren't doing the bridal waltz or the throwing of the garter. Its our day, we've paid for it and we'll be doing it our way. I think you should do the same. If you're not comfortable with it, don't do it!
2006-10-05 10:58:34 · answer #7 · answered by lazy lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. It's your day. You don't have to do anything you don't want to. We did not do the garter thing, nor the throwing of the bouquet. Most of the people there were married anyway, and I did not want to see grown women/men scrambling on the floor all over each other trying to grab the garter or bouquet.
2006-10-04 23:40:15 · answer #8 · answered by Kaaren1969 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to do anything you don't want to do. There's no law that tells you you have to do this or that. It's YOUR wedding! I had a bouquet toss, but no garter. You can hand him the garter to toss, if you don't want him to go "under" your dress but still want to have fun with tossing it.
2006-10-04 19:21:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey there is nothing gross about that... it's tradition and you don't monkey with tradition : P you throw your bouquet and he throws your garter.. nothing wrong with that at all .. actually the elderly know this is typical in a wedding .. you're not at a club or something like that .. don't worry and have fun... you can put it kinda lower if it makes you more comfortable .. but enjoy your wedding most of all
2006-10-04 19:58:23 · answer #10 · answered by Soonie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋