My 11 year old daughter is throwing a fit, screaming at me and making faces.What should be her consequences?

Question

She complains and calls her brothers stupid. What should I do?

Answer 1

we all where once 11 and went threw that stage it is natural im 12 and i did that of course i got into trouble but sh eis getting older and meetin new people so she is changing just relax

Answer 2

My daughter is the same way - at times. When she decides to act like a 2 yr old here's what I do. Time-outs don't work on older kids the way it does for small children.
When my daughter complains about something or doing something or she is just being a brat, I take something she likes or likes doing away from her.
I let her know that there are consequences for her actions.
When she throws a fit and starts screaming at me like she's got a job and is paying bills, I ground her from everything. When that doesn't work I whip the cowgirl sh*t out of her and send her to her room. Sometimes my daughter has to be reminded who the adult is.
Once we've both calmed down then we talk about what's really bothering her.

Your daughter is 11 she may be in the beginning stages of puberty. You know, pre-pms? You should schedule an appointment with her pediatrician to find out if her mood-swing is indeed a result of pre-puberty. Good luck to you.

Answer 3

Awww.... Firstly shes getting to an age where they do start behaving a lil crazy. (i have a 12 year old brother, believe me i know what you mean!). Some of it is because of her age however....

That said, you might need to look at what she eats, adjust it to healthier stuff. Did you know scientists have made studies confirming criminal activity and anti social behaviour to foods that are bascially not good for our health? (coke pepso and just many other foods).

Now, you need to be strict, but you need to also explain why you are doing what you are doing. No point locking her in her room and she doesnt even know what she did (and usually kids do not know what they did even if its obvious).
So you need to go down to her level, and speak in a polite, not shouting, but firm tone, saying what she did wrong and make a "naughty corner" to where she is sent for 1 min.
If further problems keep happening tell her , that her fav toys (or whatever she likes best) is going to be taken away from her for a week or 2. But you have to tell her all this in advance, not start this out of the blue. I know this all may sound a little silly, but it has worked on MANY kids.

Is there a father figure in the family? It can be due to no father figure aswell, To which you need to compensate (at least as much as you can) by not letting your daughter walk all over you.

I think you really love your daughter "too much". Obviously you do, but what i mean is, you might feel guilty for punishing her thats why she is ending up like this.

Lastly, spend more "family time" with her and other kids if you have. Which involves having fun. These days kids do not get enough attention they need from parents who are usually busy, and that alone sometimes solves all the problems.

Im just a 21 year old and dont have kids. But i have had a lot of time spent with kids from cousins to managing lil ones in boarding school. And i was the most "loved" senior there because i simply listened to them and was strict (to an extent) when i had to be.

Best of luck :)

Answer 4

talk very quietly and get down on her level and look her in the face and calmly say you will not do this any more and then go in her room and take her favorite things away and start with the things that mean the most and if need be take everything out and just leave a bed in her room then let her figure out that things are not going to be like this anymore hope you find this helpful

Answer 5

I was having the same problem with my 7 year old. I tried everything and finally found only ONE thing that worked. I cleaned out her entire room except her bed, dresser, nightstand and some books. I took every toy, dvd, cd, electronics, and even the pictures off the walls. It was bare bones! She is much better now after earning things back slowly. Good luck!

Answer 6

Stand there and watch her throw her fits. Don't bat an eye. When you think she is finish, ask her if she's finished then go on with your punishment. If she still fits, stand there and watch her until she gets the point that throwing one doesn't phase you. Act like it's music to your ears. For example: When a baby wakes up and you run over to he/she to rock them back to sleep they won't go back to sleep because they have attention now, but if you don't look there way they will lay back down. Sounds good? That's my story and I'm sticking to it.

Answer 7

My 9yr,10yr and 14yr old started the same behavior with me and each other.There was no warning.Just started yelling at me and insulting each other.I was lost.I told them one day that they must be too grown to listen to me and they are not children anymore because children does not talk to their mother like this.I would never neglect my kids but I did tell them since they are so grown that they will cook their own food,wash their own clothes and get theirself up and ready for school by theirselves.They thought it was cool but when it came time for dinner I threw 3 pieces of meat on the table and told them to take their little grown butts and cook.Their eyes got wide,2 of them kept saying we cant cook,I said it aint my problem.Needless to say all 3 of them promised me they would talk to me with respect.So I started doing for them again.Every now and then 1 might start raising their voice at me and I say excuse me and they tone their voice down and say sorry.As far as name calling towards each other it could be normal sibling rivory to a extint.

Answer 8

Drop her off infront of a day care and say if your going to act like a child go in there and call when your mature.. take her out of the car then slowly drive off and if she screams and runs towards the car ask her if shes going to behave and she will say yes and then let her back in and drive back home.

Answer 9

She is changing from a babe to a young lady. Stop & try to remember how you felt at her age. So much is going on with her body. Maybe just make it a girls day & talk to her about growing up stuff & make it a special day just for her. She needs to know she's special & that your there for her no matter what. Let her know that she can come to you & talk to you about anything with out you judging her & mean it. Just talk out her problems and not freak out. This worked for my girls. They just need to know how special they are. Good Luck and I hope this helps.

Answer 10

You should tell her that that is not right and let her no that she cant talk to you like that and then try to have a little fun with her every now in then get to know her I should know I am 13 years old......