How many kids do you want,and why?

Question

How many do you want, How many is to many? Do big families look down upon these days? How many want big families but can't afford them?

Answer 1

my hubby and i want 3 or 4. however, in this day and age, how many you want and how many you can afford are two different things. we didn't want just offspring, we wanted a family. he comes from a family with 4 kids and i come from a family of 2. It gets pretty boring at Christmas in my family. I think the thing that sold us the most on having a large family was the very last scene of cheaper by the dozen.

Answer 2

I don't have any children, and most of the time I'm happy with that decision. Sometimes I think I might want one or two children someday--possibly adopted. I don't know if I can put a number on how many is too many...it depends on the time the parents have to invest, the financial situation, etc. I think large families are somewhat looked down on. I think people look and kind of raise their eyebrows...wondering why people would want that many children and whether the children are all getting enough attention. I came from a family of 5 and I liked it just fine--always a playmate around and I certainly didn't feel ignored.

Answer 3

I wanted five kids but, actually have four. I have 3 sisters and a brother and my husband has 3 sisters and a brother. We come from big families. Some people may look down on me but, as far as I am concerned I take way better care of my kids then some who don't pay any attention to their children. Having a big family has lots of pros and cons. For example Pros- it is never quiet. There is always somebody laughing and nothing better than the holidays. There is always lots of hugs and kisses and nothing can replace that.
Cons- The bad part is money can put a damper on things. However, money is not everything. There are things my kids don't have that some might but, they know that there is nothing more important than family. Something I wish more kids seen it that way and more parents would teach it!!

Answer 4

Biologically, one...which we just had 3 mos. ago.
Severe genetic abnormalities run in my husband's family (4 of 5 siblings have died), and reproductive issues run in my family. So, after a freaky pregnancy (told I had a miscarriage at 7 weeks, so didn't know I was still pregnant until 20 weeks(the theory now is I miscarried one of twins), spotting throughout, early dilatiion at 32 weeks (perhaps even a few weeks earlier), and a final delivery at 41 weeks (yeah, I was dilated for nine weeks...got to 4cm a week BEFORE I went into labor))), having a beautiful, smart, ridiculously strong baby girl with no problems/abnormalities is our miracle. We feel ridiculously blessed and we also feel like we played Russian Roulette and won; we don't feel like playing again.
We are considering adoption, though.
My best friend already has three and wants more. If people can afford a big family, I don't look down on it. Heck, I'm cheap myself, and I only have one. I shop at thrift stores, use target brand diapers, accept whatever friends want to give me, and let the grandmas buy the fancy stuff. I'd rather save the money for college than spend it on brand new clothes she'll outgrown in 3 hours. "Afford" is a relative word, but as long as you can feed, clothe, shelter, and raise the children lovingly, have as many as you want. If you have to go on welfare for the rest of your life to do it, don't have even one.

Answer 5

I have 2 natural children, a boy and a girl but would love to adopt many children in the future. My family and friends don't understand why I would want to have a houseful of kids and think that we are the perfect family the way we are, but I think that some people just feel a calling to do things in life. I have wanted to take care of children way before I ever even grew up myself. I would love to have a big family and though we are not financially ready at this time to expand our family, we will definitely have a larger family when we are ready to do so.

Answer 6

Sometimes what one wants or expects is very different from what they receive. In a million years, I never thought I'd have 4 children. After 2, I didn't even expect #3. And NEVER thought I'd CHOOSE to actually plan to have a 4th. People don't look down on me with 4 children, as they are really nice, beautiful kids. I do not rely on any government assistance either. I believe that it's God's plan as to how many children, etc....

Answer 7

I have 3 children now and I am pregnant with my 4th and this is my last child. I always wanted about 4 children, actually I would have loved to have a bigger family. Unfortunely, money is the big issue here and also, I can't go through being pregnant again. 4 is good enough...

Answer 8

My husband and I have talked about having 3 kids, possibly 4. I am the oldest of 4 and couldn't imagine not having a big household. It's so much fun and a lot of noise and you're never bored with a big family. No offense to anyone, but I think having only one child is kind of unfair. That child will never know what it is like to fight with siblings, they wont be able to share as much, it would be too quiet of a house, and I can't stand a quiet household!

Answer 9

I would love to have 5 children. We already have 2. I think we may be able to afford 5 kids if and only if my fiance and I BOTH finish what we started in our career goals. I plan on going back to college next year to become a registered nurse and he is almost certified as a mechanic. All he needs to do is take some sort of test to be certified. Anyways, I honestly think that after everything goes as planned, we can handle it.

Answer 10

I think that people should only have two children. One to replace you and your spouse. I think it is unfair to the children in large families. My grandfather was one of 13. He would say things like "you need to take care of your younger siblings, your parents cant do everything" Why was it OK for my grandpa to raise the rest of his siblings? Also each child has less one on one time with the parents. It just seems that the parents devotion to their children is spread too thin when there are many children.