okay, my bf and i have been going out for almost two months. He is very honest and he actually told me he "flirts" (like not SEXUAL flirt but a friendly flirt) with his girl friends. Okay, i "flirt" with my guy friends too sometimes, but it really bugs me that HE'S doing that with other girls, because its like I'm not good for him. I'm also worried because he cheated on his ex, but he promised me that it was a mistake and he was stupid. I need your opinion, guys especially, is friendly flirting cheating? and also, how can I tell my bf that its bugging me without him feeling attacked?
2006-10-04 12:10:49 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Is your name Ally(alli) not too sure on the spelling. Well anyhow i dont think thats okay. There is no "friendly flirt"... when i think of flirt i think of crush. you kinda like that person then.
Well i hope you make a good choice! Good Luck! (remember 2 months isnt that long) its only since when i started school.
2006-10-04 12:16:15 · answer #1 · answered by xoxox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok here is the real deal. To flirt is a action to which you want a response to Like to be flirted with as if you were to smile or toss your hair. It will lead to an end resolt. Perhaps cheating if you justify in your head that you have reasons.( bored, ignored, mad at them and other many many reasons. Playfull flirting will not hurt. Aslong as it is just playfull. Most men or woman who have cheated will cheat again.
2006-10-04 12:31:09 · answer #2 · answered by chris D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope definately not cheating. Me and my girlfriend have openly talked about this and we both say its fine. The reason it is fine is because we know that anything beyond talking, (touching, kissing, grabbing, sex is UNACCEPTABLE). I told her basically if it happens once i won't deal with it because i've been cheated on before. Everyone needs attention, despite what people say. Flirting is a way to satisfy your need for attention while not doing anything wrong in a relationship. You have no reason to not trust him until he does something. If he does anything unacceptable to you, drop him. He's not worth it.
-Understand, In life things happen like this. Don't dwell on it move on you'll find someone in the future that wil make you happier
2006-10-04 12:17:20 · answer #3 · answered by jgadominate 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have decide what boundaries you want to set. It seems like it makes you upset, so you need to do two things. First, you need to stop flirting with others, so that when you approach him, it isn't from a hypocritical point of view. Second, you need to explain to him how his actions make you feel.
I know I personally would say that either this stops, or we stop in your situation, because it's not going to get any better (and will probably get worse) if you don't express your concerns.
2006-10-04 12:15:27 · answer #4 · answered by nowayman72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEVER!! There are always going to be some low times in every relationship. You have to work through them, together!! It will make you a better person and a stronger couple!! Also,if you know you would get back together with them in the end, why would you want to take a chance and get some kind of disease and give it to the person that you are suppose to "love"? By the way, I am glad that you are not in that situation!!
2016-03-18 04:56:06 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex told me that he flirts and I told him I do too. That flirt turned into a cheat so I dropped him. He couldn't control himself and not act on it. If he has good control, then there is nothing to worry about. You may have the control, but if you do it too often you may be the one who has to watch what you do. So if you want him to stop then you need to stop.
2006-10-04 12:22:49 · answer #6 · answered by Ladybug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would anyone be In a relationship with anybody that flirts with someone else,I would not want to be In a relationship like that.
2006-10-04 12:15:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes it is. You are boyfriend and girlfriend for a reason. You are his and he is yours, no one else's. Flirting is still cheating. Leave others alone.
2006-10-04 12:14:21 · answer #8 · answered by Mambers 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It always bugged me to for my guy to flirt with other girls.
I'm a one man lady so I guess I expected him to be a one woman man, anyway , I couldn't handle it so it was- bye bye - go ahead and flirt.
2006-10-04 12:15:17 · answer #9 · answered by eviechatter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not necessarily cheatin juss yet but... ur pavin the way to it... it's not cheatin but its inconsiderate... proves ur not devoted n that he doesn'tmean all that much to u... i think ur the 1 @ wrong here because ur makn urself "available" to other guys... makn them want u and thinkn its okay to make a pass at you
u need to think first if you really care bout this guy and wat kind of ideas ur givin to the guys u do flirt with...
2006-10-04 12:20:39 · answer #10 · answered by ju5sm3h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋