okay so me and my boyfriend have been dating for over a year now and we have had sex countless times...my mom found out and i promised her that it wouldn't happen again, it's just so tempting with me seeing him all the time. i love this boy and it's not just "sex" for us...but my mom is so overprotective that i would feel horrible if my parents caught us. what should i do??
2006-10-04 12:07:22 · 17 answers · asked by GirlInMassachusettTOWN 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well she knows that your doind it, so why doesnt she just take you out, get the pill, talk about safe sex etc. Surely, that would be better than a 'slip up' happening when she wasnt aware of it and falling preggars. try explaining that to her, she would feel abit stupid then. You guys seem to know what your doing, what with been together for so long and alsready having sex. Your mum needs to wake up and smell the roses, support her daughter, with advice, protection etc.
2006-10-04 12:12:14 · answer #1 · answered by Ange 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that is going to stop you from having sex is you. If you want to, you will. If you try to stop for your parents, you will not do it for a while and then you will and you will feel bad and go through all kinds of guilt, shame, etc. Assuming that you are a reasonable age and not like 12 or something, your parents should get real. If you are already doing it, they should expect that you will keep doing it and deal with it. They should be more concerned about you not getting pregnant and that you are dating a good boyfriend rather than pretending that you are not human and are going to do what people do. (How do you think there got to be over 6 billion of us here?) I am not encouraging you to have sex, abstinance is fine, but if you are and your parents are not dealing with it, that isn't helping anyone.
2006-10-04 19:12:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well- tell you the truth- samet hing happened to by boyfriend of 4 years and me. The frist time we did it- we couldn't get our hands off each other for the next 2 years. Unfortunately- your mom is right. She's probably told you countless times that you could get pregnant even of your guy pulls out. I think you should wait on sex a little bit and instead do foreplay. If you feel so tempted and decide to do otherwise- your mom is gonna have to learn to live with it but- her finding out that you still keep doing it even though you promised you wouldn't can ruin her trust for you and used that against you next time you want somthing new or want to go out with friends. If you do decide to continue on having sex- get on birth control. Alot of clinics offer ot for free even if you're a teen. Your mom doesn't necesarily have to go with you but- go with a cousin or friend who's already on it so they can take you. I don't know if you still live at home with your parents but- if you do- don't risk pissing your mom off. I'm a hispanic 24 yearlold girl and in our culture- you're not supposed to have sex until you're married otherwise it's like a slap on your mom's face and the shame for the family. Be cautious if you decide to do it.
Good luck to you!
2006-10-04 19:16:02 · answer #3 · answered by mari 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mom that sex has become apart of your life and tell her it's better to have her know you do it rather than you doing it behind her back. Promise her that you will have safe sex. Get her involved with your sex life. Have her give you some birth-control if you haven't been taking it already. Have her provide condoms. Let her know that you're being safe with it and she has to be acceptant of you having sex instead of you having to be sneaking around to fufill your desires and there being secrets in your home.
2006-10-04 19:18:12 · answer #4 · answered by lolly679 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. Keep your promise. If he loves you, then he'll stay around if you choose not to have sex anymore until your mom says it's okay. If you can't do that, then go find help, because you may be a sex addict.
2006-10-04 19:12:26 · answer #5 · answered by Ladybug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to see each other less i have the same problem except i ha vent had sex yet and i am trying my hardest to not have sex
we have gotten close but i think if i see him to much it gets worse and try to go out in public places more often so it will be harder to have sex
good luck lol i might need some to
2006-10-04 19:11:49 · answer #6 · answered by carmelfude2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? If you are worried about Mommy than you're too young to be having sex. So, if its not all about the sex than your guy should support you when you say that you can't do it again until you're old enough. Hmmmm, makes me wonder if he would agree that it's not all about the sex.
2006-10-04 19:10:11 · answer #7 · answered by BlueSea 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you are needing your parents permission to have sex then its obvious you are under age. I don't think she is being over protective, just afraid you might throw your life down the drain by getting pregnant at such a young age. you have all your life to have sex, take it easy and slow.
2006-10-04 19:11:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, i hope youre having protected sex coz if you dont ten you can have a child or you can get a sexually transmitted disease. Oh yeah and by the way if you love him and he loves you then why the **** would you wanna have sex huh huh????
2006-10-04 19:12:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have protected sex without you mom knowing...How old are you?
2006-10-04 19:09:39 · answer #10 · answered by littlevae73 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋