kay, so i liked this guy since september of LAST year, and we became friends and such, he led me on and in feburary he eventually broke my heart. Its been 9 months since he broke my heart and one year since i've liked him. I try liking other guys but when i start it ends in only like a week because im still stuck on him, what can i do to get over him?? please help.
2006-10-04 12:00:22 · 17 answers · asked by Roxy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It took me a while to get over someone. I found I had to stay away from where he frequented. I had to come up with different interests. I had to do other things. I went out with some of my other friends. Remember that someone is waiting in the wings for you, but you have to fully let go of someone before he can enter your life. Think positive thoughts. Help someone who needs help in other ways. That always makes me feel better. As you do those things, your sadness will ebb away. Pray for God to take the feelings of sadness and anger and to dry your tears and to open your heart for someone else he has in store for you. Big hug to you. :)
2006-10-04 12:06:31 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I recommend focusing on yourself for a while. Set yourself an amount of time where you won't have anything to do with men and just enjoy yourself with your friends.
Your feelings for him will wear off and in the meantime, since you've banned yourself from guys you won't feel under any pressure to "replace" him and so won't have to keep feeling like you failed.
By the time a decent guy comes along you'll have a better idea of who you are and what you want and so it will automatically go better.
Also, consider the fact that at least now you know what you DON'T want in a guy!
2006-10-04 19:06:15 · answer #2 · answered by punk_tigger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off did you have sex with him? if you did then he got what he wanted and moved on to the next one.he used you for only that.men will tell women everything they want to hear wihich causes them to leave their guard down.then it becomes easy for them to get what they want.let him go he's not worth it.the next time you meet a guy and they start sweet talking you from the beginning beware,because most of the time it's not true what they are saying.so don't give in so easily and see how they react,if you don't give them what they want they won't stick around long.i'm not saying all men are like that but you won't know one from the other unless you keep turning them down.when the time is right you will know.when you say no they should say thats ok i don't want you to do anything you don't want to do.if they get mad when you say no let him go because he has no reason to get mad unless thats all he wants from you. good luck pete
2006-10-04 19:20:13 · answer #3 · answered by THE SHADOW 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, Roxy, he broke your heart, right? Do you really want to be with a guy that is capable of hurting you in that way?
You may not be missing the individual... You may be missing the relationship... and you will have other(s) in your lifetime.
Cherish the time that you have to re-build and nuture the relationship that you have with yourself so that your next relationship will be enhanced by what you add to it. And celebrate that your discernment of what is right and wrong and who is right and wrong will be easier for you to recognize.
You will love and be loved in a real way by someone who you deserve.
2006-10-04 19:38:19 · answer #4 · answered by Serendipity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have growth problems as you seem to be stuck at age 9. He breaks your heart and you want to go back for a second helping,Are you looking at what you wrote
2006-10-04 19:04:30 · answer #5 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the trick is 2 not look for other guys at all... the trick is to simply busy yourself with other things so that you don't have the time to think about him. i've been in ur shoes... n i was caught up over my X for a hella long time... Get ur priority straight... if you're in school... pay attention to school work... make new friends... join clubs, sports, go out. make it so that by the time you hit the pillows at night... u fall straight to sleep. i don't mean tired yourself out but you need to enjoy life instead of gloomin yourself over because of him.. if he toyed w/ your heart you know wat? he's an @ss and you should forget him... he's not worth your thoughts, care, and definitely tears... wen someone invites you out... go... if there's something excitin goin on.. participate... don't deprive yourself of these opportunities for someone like that... ur better then him... u need to realize that... he lost something good and now? he doesn't even matter anymore...
just... smile throughout your day... be with people you love and care for... it'll help... dont' be alone 2 wallow in ur thoughts...
SMYLE!
2006-10-04 19:06:49 · answer #6 · answered by ju5sm3h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time heals all wounds.
You should go out, meet new people or even get a new hobby just anything that will get your mind off it.
Focus on school, learn to play a new instrument, a new language... things like that.
I hope you get over him soon!
2006-10-04 19:03:31 · answer #7 · answered by Alida 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard, and it feels like there will be no end to the pain, but you eventually WILL get over him when your heart is ready.
I don't know if you're still in contact with him, but if you are, I would suggest you break contact and try to be strong in sticking to that.
Good luck.
2006-10-04 19:02:56 · answer #8 · answered by Dreamer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write a "letter" to him (you wont send this or anything) write everything out. all of your feelings saying how he broke your heart (BAD THINGS ONLY) after that rip it in peices and throw it out! This has helped me before!
Good Luck!!
"I know this hurts. It was meant to." - FOB
"Have you ever been in a situation where the best thing you could do was the hardest thing you've ever done? "
2006-10-04 19:05:48 · answer #9 · answered by xoxox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hang out with your friends 24-7. keep your time so busy that you have no time to think of him or other exciting things going on that could easily replace him. i always hang out with my gal pals and do something crazy... which makes me forget bout someone i think bout a lot
2006-10-04 19:02:48 · answer #10 · answered by buttons5 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋