i just lost my beautiful baby boy 3 weeks ago. it hurts so much and at times i wonder why it had to happen to me. he was my first born child, my fiancee' and i were very excited to having our precious baby. my baby went into distress, i went to the clinic for a distress test on my baby that day. my doctor wasn't there but he left me with another obgyn doctor. while there my baby had a heart beat and i had felt him move. the doctor and nurse that were with me kept coming in to look at the paper to see how my baby was doing. i don't understand why they couldn't see he was going into distress. the doctor thought my baby was sleep and she told me to go eat or drink something to see if he would move and when i came back there was no heart beat. i cry every day and when i see other women with their baby. i have to ask God to keep my mind and guide me as i go through the day because it hurts so badplease let me know if anyone else has been through this and what did u do to get through this
2006-10-04 11:59:10 · 8 answers · asked by hotgurl 04 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
my baby was due Sept. 18, but he died Sept. 8(inside me) and i had him Sept. 9. Thank you Vicky for the very inspiration story it brought tears to my eyes. i think talking about it with those who share this experience help me out a lot and help me to realize i'm not the only one who is going through this.
2006-10-04 12:30:17 · update #1
i am very sorry for your loss.. my heart and prayers go out to you!
2006-10-04 12:12:18 · answer #1 · answered by ♥cutemamma♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my baby girl 3 weeks ago. I was due Sept 20, the baby was fine on Sept 8 and she died in me over night that night. 1:33 am on Sept 9 I gave birth to a beautiful 6 lb 2 oz girl who no longer had a heartbeat. I still cry daily too. Just know that you are not alone. I have been making nice things to remember her by. Her baby book is now a scrapbook of poems and photos. I'm starting a yahoo group for people in our situation:
http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/judith_barry_infant_loss/
It's not fair. I should be holding her not making web sites or scrapbooks for her. This really shows us just how precious life is and if you ever need to talk, let me know because I'm going through it with you.
2006-10-04 13:26:43 · answer #2 · answered by Carolee B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My baby boy died during birth at almost 40 weeks. he went into distress and was delivered by emergency c-section but died. That was 11 years ago and I cried daily for 2 years I missed him so much and wanted him back. I have made a lot of memories for him and joined baby loss groups that have been an enormous help just being able to share and cry with other women that understand. I have been lucky to have 2 beautiful healthy children since he died that have given me reason to smile again. It's been hard. I'm sorry you lost your precious boy and wish you well
2006-10-05 01:29:51 · answer #3 · answered by cino_bean 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please hang in there, my mom had 6 children, 1 murdered by a nurse after 3 days old, and one of them drowned inside right before he was taken out!!! My mom was devastated, I'm the oldest so I was there for both mishaps.
There's nothing I can say that will make you feel better and I'm sooooo sorry!!! But what I can advise you to do to PRAY and PRAY. Find comfort in your mom or family, friends, your fiancee!!! Be strong and if you want closure contact other doctors and explain your story to them to see what they can tell you, if you find a doctor that's better than the ones you have...Try having another baby and have open options so if one doctor isn't there you can call another!!! Please be strong!!!
Another thing is, if you try again, please do not think it will happen again. Give your baby all the faith you've got and more because while inside, they are you and they know what you're thinking and they feel you what you are!!! Good Luck hun!!! Please take care and I hope you feel better!!! God Bless You!!!
2006-10-04 12:29:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear that but I know how you feel because this happened to me 3 yrs ago. I lost my daughter in my 5th month of pregnancy.. I was devasted because I already have two boys and I finally was pregnant with a girl and I lost her. I had to deliver her and I got to hold her and I was crying so much because it hurts so much.. They put a hat on her and the gave me a box to remember her.
I went home and I cried almost everyday and I was so upset.. My husband was very supportive, he said that we could try again. I was not motivated at that time to even try because I was not sure if I was going to have another opportunity to have a girl. But after 3 month's after loosing her I was pregnant again and I ended up having another girl. She is 3 yrs. old today and I am so happy.. By the way I am pregnant again, but this time I am having another boy...
You will be fine, look at me I lost one and I ended up having two more.. Everything happens for a reason and God is going to bless you to have other children. Just relax and pray and God will bless you.. Please do not be discourage, I know exactly how you feel and I never thought that I would be this happy now. You will too... (Good Luck)!!!!
2006-10-04 12:12:14 · answer #5 · answered by Vicky 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I lost a baby girl she wasn't due for two more weeks. I was at the doctors office the same day. I was having pain The doctor said this baby isn't due yet. She was still-born that same night. I don't think you ever get over losing a child but time eases the hurt.
2006-10-04 12:14:12 · answer #6 · answered by Dot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I haven't lost one personally, but my daughter has. She was o.k. up to the last couple of days before the baby was suspose to be born. However it didn,t happen . I can,t tell you what to do because you can,t forget it ,but you can go on living. As a grandparent it was very difficult for even me but you will survive. God bless you and help you.
2006-10-04 12:17:27 · answer #7 · answered by djsanner@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT HAPPEN TO ME 3YRS AGO WITH MY BABY BOY. I HAD HIM WHEN I WAS 6 MONTHS. HE WAS ALIVE FOR 8 DAYS IN THE HOSPITAL BUT DIE FROM SEVERAL PROBLEMS HE HAD. I STILL CRY MISSED HIM A LOT. BUT I AM STRONG BECAUSE FOR DAUGHTERS. I HOPE YOU WAIT FOR 6 MONTHS TO CONCEIVE AGAIN OK FOR YOUR OWN GOOD.
2006-10-04 16:21:20 · answer #8 · answered by LAMUNECA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋