Me and my girlfriend have been going out for 10 month now. At the beginning the sex was great and continued until about two an a half months ago. She's goin to get a ultrasound on her pelvic region because it literally hurts her for us to have sex. Along with that other issues have almost stoped our sex life completely. Now, sex isn't the most important thing in a relationship but it gets frustrating not getting it. She told me beause she can't satisify me right now it would be ok if I had sex with other women. Tough situation and I abruptly told her that it wasn't ok because I don twant her to have the same freedom. She said it is just because she doesn't feel she's pleasing me. What doyou feel on this topic Do i have sex with other women or not?
-To be honest, It never crossed my mind in this relationship until most recently to have sex with another female.
2006-10-04 11:51:37 · 14 answers · asked by jgadominate 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok listen ladies.
-First of all I love her very much. It is HARD going from having sex 6-7 times a week to cold turkey, masturbating isn't cutting it. Along with her problem she has had depression issues which kills her sex drives. She does oral on me, but like once every two weeks. I have been there for her since its happened, I dont even bring up sex anymore but as some people know it is important to have a healthy sex life. I haven't had sex with another girl, nor have I really pursued it. This is what it is, a question. no harsh comments because I have been nothing but faithful and have done nothing but treat her like she deserves to be treated. She'd tel you that.
2006-10-04 12:03:55 · update #1
masturbate. but be loyal to her
2006-10-04 11:54:47 · answer #1 · answered by saveitforthemoshpit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls aren't always straight forward in what they say. Remember there is always a hidden meaning behind it. She is telling you that you can look for other women for sex, but would she really be okay with that?
The reason she is suggesting that is only to test your love for her. She feels bad that she can't satisfy you as often. But she wonders if that is the only strong thing that holds you two together. If you can manage some other way than finding another lover, then she will know that you guys can work it out eventually.
Maybe the two of you can find other options for lovemaking. There are toys and other stuff you can use to enrich your pleasuring experience.
Or if you guys wait and figure out what the cause of the problem is, you will learn how to work your way around it. Good luck.
2006-10-04 19:00:58 · answer #2 · answered by denh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, great question.
Is there any reason she can't satisfy you any other way, i.e. orally? I think there are great ways to be intimate without having intercourse.
As for having sex with another women... it sounds like your girlfriend wants you to be happy and satisfied, and that's great and wonderful. But, be warned that your happiness will be at her expense. If you sleep with another woman, even with her permission, she will be terribly terribly hurt.
It sounds like she is over compensating for a situation she feels is her own fault. She needs to pull herself together, just because she feels pain during sex (not her fault) does not mean she is not deserving of a loving and faithful relationship.
2006-10-04 19:36:31 · answer #3 · answered by nutty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you cant do that! that is so wrong, you have to wait for her to get better, didnt you just said sex is not the most important thing in the relationship? if you have sex with other women then you will mess up the relationship, have you thought maybe she is the one who is cheating? im just saying cuz if i couldnt have sex i know i wouldnt tell my bf to have sex with other women that is just not right, what if you fall for other woman you having sex with? no no no i dont think thats right.
2006-10-04 18:56:42 · answer #4 · answered by its_me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't have sex with another girl. Bad idea. Because then she'll want you to stop and then she'll keep asking every time your out late "what are you doing out late F***ing another girl????" That would make you and her miserable. Masturbate there is good porn out there. Instead of cheating. Even with her permission its not loyal to the relationship.
2006-10-04 19:01:20 · answer #5 · answered by VMG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my opion is that if you have stayed with her for 10 monthes and now she cant have sex bc of problem in her region then you shouldnt go get some from any one else bc thats wrong bc you never know you mite have a problem down ther e one day too so.... if u do decide to get some from someone else that ur a selifish little son of a b/tch !!!!
2006-10-04 18:58:53 · answer #6 · answered by u_juss_wish_2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I UNDERSTAND YOUR URGE FOR SEX, BUT WHY WOULD YOU EVEN CONSIDER IT AFTER SHE TOLD YOU YOU COULD, THEN LIKE YOU SAID YOU WOULDN'T LIKE HER TO HAVE THE SAME FREEDOM, SORRY BUT WHAT YOU GIVE IS WHAT YOU GET, SO CHOOSE IF YOU STILL WANNA HAVE SEX WITH OTHER WOMEN, PLUS IF YOU REALLY LOVED HER YOU WOULD NEVER DO IT, I THINK IT IS REALLY MESSED UP YOU'RE ASKING THIS QUESTION..
2006-10-04 18:58:38 · answer #7 · answered by DRLE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well she is being thoughtful of you, im sure she didnt mean it but so i think u shud be thoughtful of her and be there for her bad times. so no sex with other women. sex isnt everythng at the end of the day, be wise
2006-10-04 18:56:23 · answer #8 · answered by ~ Helin ~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if your girlfriend says its ok and you think that it won't piss her off any then I guess it would be ok... but don't do it if you will have a guilty conscience or if it will make your girlfriend really mad and ruin your relationship and everything that you have together.
2006-10-04 18:55:48 · answer #9 · answered by jordyn_eckel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are other things that u can do besides having sex. and no she is only saying that to see what u will do ,, try oral sex it is great!
2006-10-04 18:54:48 · answer #10 · answered by michelle b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find it odd that she would make an offer like that, but if you love her, and you're willing to wait, don't do it.
aren't there other things you two can do sexually in the mean time?
2006-10-04 18:54:51 · answer #11 · answered by Bavmorda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋