he called and said that if the kids come back to me that he will give up his rights as their father....how can a dad do that...i agreed to let them move in with him for financial reasons he was having trouble making ends meet paying me child support....so in turn i let them go with him and paid him support...not as much as he paid me because he makes more than me,,,,now he wants to give up his parental right.....do you think hes just hurt and mad,,,or should i go ahead and agree to give him what he wants....very confused here
2006-10-04 11:47:24 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
the fighting was in front of my kids with his gf....and they tell me he drinks heavily and comes home at all hours of the night and they never know when hes going to be home
2006-10-04 11:48:34 · update #1
oh and i did get an order for temporary sole custody until court....we had joint before with open visitation schedule
2006-10-04 11:49:56 · update #2
you should never let your kids live in an abusive situation.
parental right or not, he still has to pay child support.
it sound like he is just trying to manipulate you and control the situation.
2006-10-04 12:11:13 · answer #1 · answered by Hannah's Grandpa 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely under no cicumstances should you let them go to their dad's for any reason. Boo hoo he can't pay child support. He needs to a get a job that will pay him enough money. He needs to be man. By accepting his behavior, you are telling him it is ok to spend grocery money and clothing money for the kids on booze!!!!! Let him give them up, if that is what he wants. He does not deserve them. You will never understand why he is doing this, this is crazy behavior you are not crazy. He sounds like he is trying to control you. Don't let him. Ignore this line of talk with him, if he is serious, he will go to court. If he continues to drink, he may not see the kids. What kind of role model do you want for the kids? You need to get it together, get your head on straight and decide this is not about you, but about the kids. What is the best thing for the kids? They need a dad? How many lesbian couples have children. How many widowed moms raise children by themselves. How many dead beat dads break the kids hearts daily. Do not down talk him to your kids. His actions will speak louder than words. Your kids will figure it out.
2006-10-04 19:34:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he is hurt or mad. I think he doesn't want to have to finacialy care for your children. I went threw this same thing. He took them because of money and now he is giving up his rights so he doesn't have to pay child support. Your kids maybe better off with out him, just don't let him fool you. Good luck to you, I hope everything works out for you.
2006-10-04 18:56:17 · answer #3 · answered by celtic925 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your children are not pawns. They learn what they live. That is not a emotionally healthy atmosphere for them to grow up in. They need to feel secure. No child needs the insecurity of a parent saying he will give up rights of parenthood. That's horrible. Get them out of that situation now.
2006-10-04 18:56:24 · answer #4 · answered by star 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So he earns more then you and can't pay child support?? But you let your kids live there and you pay him??
I think you should keep your kids with you and make him pay. He doesn't sound like a very good father.
2006-10-04 18:50:20 · answer #5 · answered by starlight_princess20 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he knows something about himself that makes him think the kids would be better off without him. You need to get a clear reason from him and if he can't give you one then maybe they are better off without him. Either way, you may need to sit your kids down and talk to them, only you know your kids and if they are going to need outside help to deal with this. Maybe they will, maybe they won't.
2006-10-04 18:54:26 · answer #6 · answered by TexanBrat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sad to say but the most likley the reason he wants to give up his parental rights is that someone has told him (in error) that if he gives up his parental rights he won't have to pay child support.
2006-10-04 18:52:41 · answer #7 · answered by setfreejn836 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's probably saying it as a threat of some kind thinking you couldn't do it alone or something. If I was you I'd take his offer, I've been a single father for 12 years with no help from his mother. She wouldn't help me from the day he was born I defiantly wouldn't want it now, she drank and acted stupid and it's her lose.
2006-10-04 18:50:56 · answer #8 · answered by Sean 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Get your kids out of there!
2006-10-04 18:52:34 · answer #9 · answered by pajaro 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your lawyer, under those circumstances you'll probably want the visiting right eliminated anyway.
2006-10-04 18:54:29 · answer #10 · answered by daisyk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋