my aunt told me in a rude way that its impollite to email a thank you card to her. When in return she emailed me , my aunt, her coworkers, neighbors, and my mom all E -vites.. now which is proeper etiquette
2006-10-04 11:34:16 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
It is never improper to render a thank you to a host, regardless of the event. Such courtesies of long ago should be reinstituted. I believe your aunt was out of line.
2006-10-04 14:38:53 · answer #1 · answered by Guitarpicker 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Where have all the niceties gone? For Pete's sake, buy a few blank cards at a dollar store, buy a few stamps at the post office and keep them on hand. Nothing is nicer then opening up a mailbox and finding a hand-written card or letter in it.
Unfortunately, we have become a lazy society and this is reflected in all manners of communication.
However, nothing is stopping us from picking up a pen and paper once in a while and making someone's day a little brighter...try it!
P.S. I'm pretty sure the etiquette "experts" would say it is NOT acceptable.
2006-10-04 14:17:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If the invitation came via the Internet, then the thank you can be sent the same way. However, if you already know that she finds it rude...then spend a few extra cents and send a regular snail mail card. It lets her know that you are a more sensitive and caring person. In your heart, you will know that you were "socially" right to be able to send the email, but that you wanted to show her respect that she feels she deserves.
2006-10-04 11:43:43 · answer #3 · answered by DinahLynne 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand that we live in a technological era. However, it is very rude and extremely tacky to e-mail any sort of thank you or other sentiment. The proper thing to do is to send a thank you in the mail, signed by you. It does not matter that your aunt used e-vites for the family barbecue. Most people just phone up when they do family functions.
2006-10-04 12:31:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
its not rude, especially if u add an online greeting or something because it is better than not remembering at all. its the thought that counts. however, it is nicer to receive a card in the mail, but its really insensitive for ur aunt to tell u that thats wrong
2006-10-04 13:07:08 · answer #5 · answered by renegade 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its very thoughtful to send any kind of a thank you! Next time send your aunt a hard copy of the email you sent to everyone else, see what she things of that rudeness
2006-10-04 11:37:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anne A 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd let this one go.. you run high risk of adding another 'log to the fire'. Could be a control thing she's got going on... menstrual.. who knows..and more importantly...does it really matter (tomorrow, next week, next year).
Next time... do what you want; send the thank you card and if someone freaks; use the good old delete key.
Remember... you can't please all the people all the time.
Good luck
2006-10-04 11:37:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people get highly offended if they receive thank yous by email, so I guess you really have to know the personality of the person. Me personally, i don't mind, at least they took the time to think of me and thank me is the way i would look at it. You just cannot please everyone, there will always be one who is unappreciative of your gesture.Good Luck and God Bless
2006-10-04 12:03:03 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Courtesy is never improper. I think you did the right thing, although a phone call might have been more personal, and that may be your aunt's complaint.
2006-10-04 18:37:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's perfectly appropriate to email a thank you to a function when you received an email invitation. But I wouldn't pursue it with her; just don't go the next time.
2006-10-04 11:43:05 · answer #10 · answered by stevewbcanada 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋