My boyfriend use to spend all of his free time with me. Now he never spends time with me. We live together... So, he just comes home, goes to sleep, goes to school, and then chill with his friends. I asked him to spend more time with me and he keeps saying he will but he doesnt. Hes never home. Im always at home by myself. I feel like we are growing apart because he is not making time for me. I miss him all the time. We never really talk or do anything together anymore. Hes always gone what should I do???
2006-10-04 11:27:30 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What you should do is find some activities that you enjoy doing that you can do without him. If he realizes that you have a life outside of him, he will be more eager to spend time with you. It is very important that you find somethings that you like to do. Nobody wants a doormat, and by waiting around for him to make up his mind about when you are worthy of his time, make him wait for when you are available. FLIP THE SCRIPT. And if his behavior doesn't change on it's own, then you may need to move on.
2006-10-04 11:34:56 · answer #1 · answered by Meesh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like growing apart.
If his friends are more important then time for you to move on. A lil me time is ok, or night out with the guys; but if never spending time, must be over then.
2006-10-04 11:48:07 · answer #2 · answered by Drojan W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like he's bored with the relationship or maybe just apathic - and has just forgot that he has you so near.
So, try to revive the relationship with something new and really nice, that you would both enjoy (heh, you know better).
Try to avoid the nasty feeling you're having. It will probably get you into a crisys. I know it might seem tough, but just keep doing your own stuff (maybe he realizes himself that the two of you are growing apart). And if he doesn't, there still are plenty of fish in the sea. Go fishin honey! :)
2006-10-04 11:35:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry that there is no spark in your relationship.Ask your boyfriend what can you do? What is missing. You may be surprised that he will think nothing is wrong, and there is no need to change, Then is the time to advise him of your concerns and what you want to see happen as well as the consequences. and stick to it.These decisions should have been in place before you moved in together. Please keep in mind neither of you are mind readers. so talk and get the problems out in the open and best of luck
2006-10-04 11:37:16 · answer #4 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you didn't live together, I'd say he is not your boyfriend anymore. Since you have a committed relationship, you must talk it out with him. He must put time aside to discuss his intentions about your relationship. If he refuses or puts you off, you have nothing or nobody to work with and you are single again. Take that as a green light to go separate ways. Sorry.
2006-10-04 11:32:08 · answer #5 · answered by farahwonderland2005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find out where he spends all his time and then go there. My girlfriend did this, and now I never go anywhere anymore, cause I know she will just do it again.
2006-10-04 11:31:30 · answer #6 · answered by imnotbtami 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say that he's probebly having an affair or he's lost interest in you. you guys should come up a schedule for whne your boyfriend could hang with his friends and spend time with you
2006-10-04 11:34:59 · answer #7 · answered by lbg l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him for a week. make him realize how important u are, make him miss u. just try it. sometimes guys can be bored and forget how important we are
2006-10-04 11:36:10 · answer #8 · answered by anonymous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably gay and is having some "on the down low" time with his friends.
2006-10-04 11:29:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
UNLESS YOU'RE HAPPY WITH THAT LIFE, LEAVE HIM. CAUSE HE DOESN'T KNOW HOW TO APPRECIATE YOU.
2006-10-04 11:40:59 · answer #10 · answered by DRLE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋