2006-10-04 11:17:15 · 22 answers · asked by miniboi6666 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
"Children will always love their parents" is false, they can TRULY HATE their parents.
The children is part of you, well I could say that is part of the other too, but that is false because is not part of anything, it is unique because is a MIX OF THE TWO. That means, if you love the son/daughter, it is not logical to hate the wife/husband of gave you the child.
2006-10-04 11:34:06 · update #1
"MY kids", only yours??????, maybe people are just selfish and low IQ?
2006-10-04 11:39:35 · update #2
I would agree with "it is a different kind of love". Not less than or more than, just different.
2006-10-04 12:39:06 · answer #1 · answered by emmadropit 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Loving a child is a different kind of love than loving a spouse...
When a couple has child(ren) it may appear that the child(ren )get more love than the spouse because child(ren) require a huge amount of time, energy, and dedication... That doesn't mean there is less love between the couple it just means there are only 24 hours in a day so many times parents needs/waants are shelved in favor of the needs/wants of the child(ren)....
Having child(ren) changes the dynamics of a marriage there are added responsibilities.... But a child(ren) also can bring added joy and love to a marriage when both parents understand and help raise the child(ren)...
2006-10-04 18:27:18 · answer #2 · answered by Diane (PFLAG) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm.... in my case, I do love my daughter more than her father. I left her father, who was abusive, when my daughter was only 4 months old. Since then, I was the primary caregiver, and her father had no contact with her. I can't say that I hate her biological father, but I am no longer in love with or care about him. She hasn't seen or heard from him in 7 years, and she has had a "Daddy" since she was 3, with my husband, who has adopted her as his own. In her case, she is much better off. I think the reason that people can love their children even when they don't love the other parent is that they see them as separate people. Yes, children are a mix of the two, but you seem to see only the characteristics you want to see. Even the person you no longer love has characteristics and qualities that you used to find attractive.
2006-10-04 20:43:54 · answer #3 · answered by dolphin mama 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Am I sensing a husband that doesnt quite get the attention that he used to? I dont think that it is that we love our children more, but a sense of responsibility, and a completely different kind of love. A child is someone new and exciting in a relationship. Just keep in mind, without you, that baby wouldnt exist. MAybe try talking to your partner about how you feel?
2006-10-04 18:19:58 · answer #4 · answered by nellieb_959 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plain and simple I love my partner dearly couldn't imagine either of us with anyone else and we both tell each other especially when our girls have jumped inbetween us on a sunday morning we make beautiful babies together but I believe it's the simple fact you can love you kids no matter what they do in life. it's the fact you know you created this little person who looks at you and loves you unconditionally because hey your their Mum or Dad. I've had moments when i feel i don't like my partner but that's because something has triggered that response out of me, an arguement for example. but even when my 2 and a half year old says I don't like you Mum, i always say well I Love you and I'm sorry you feel that way and i give her a cuddle. She usually then asks for a cup of tea and another cuddle. I LOVE MY PARTNER AND KIDS SO MUCH IT HURTS and I'd like to think I don't love any one of them anymore or less than each other.
2006-10-04 18:29:09 · answer #5 · answered by valentina c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a different kind of love. Besides, what if a woman got pregnant by a one night stand. She probably wouldn't love the father at all.
As horrible as this may sound, divorces happen all the time, but a child will always be your child, even if your spouse is no longer your spouse.
2006-10-04 19:19:16 · answer #6 · answered by LittleMermaid 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A child is a part of both the mother and father. they are also part of both sides of the extended family as well. I don't love my child "more" than my mate, I just love them differently. I would go to the ends of the earth for either of them.
2006-10-04 18:47:59 · answer #7 · answered by Easter Bunny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people only get married to have children. Their focus the entire time is on children. So when the children arrive the focus completely stops being on the spouse they married to get those priced children.
2006-10-04 18:27:17 · answer #8 · answered by lesbianmommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
children should always be more important. They are a gift from God. You could divorce your husband or wife for cheating or something any time, but your children will always be yours for your the rest of your life and you should always love them because they should be a better you.
2006-10-04 18:57:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i cant really explain it, i mean yes, your partner helped give you the child, but the child is part of you. its a really special bond that cant compare to anything else. and if you are a good parent your child will not hate you, yes maybe when they are teenagers they will say that they hate you but they really dont. im guessing that you dont have kids. if you do decide to have kids, you will understand the special bond. but until then you wont really understand.
2006-10-04 19:01:02 · answer #10 · answered by krystal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Bible, GOD, says that we are to put our husband/wife above ALL others except for him, but as mere humans it far more difficult for a parent to do that. A parent's first instinct is to protect their children no matter how old they are, that is just human nature. Could you truthfully let your small child drown and save your husband/wife as God says we should?
2006-10-04 18:47:28 · answer #11 · answered by Daydream Believer 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋