Guys how would you feel if you were dating a pretty, 21 year old girl who was a virgin and wanted to stay that way unitl she was married? Also would you continue to date her if she told you that she wanted to kiss, but not go any further than that?
It seems as though sexual inexperience and purity is not valued anymore and that guys just wanna "have fun" with the dirty girls but cringe if the girl wants to stay pure. Would any of you guys be able to tolerate only kissing and nothing more with your girlfriend? In theory a lot of you boys may say you can wait but that's not how it works in the real world, especially in our sexually charged culture.
2006-10-04 11:09:15 · 14 answers · asked by sweet kisses 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yep - that's sure a difficult one.
Us guys know you are doing the right thing
but we have an evil side as well
and needs . . . . . .
We all want to marry a virgin
but we all want sex on demand as well
What's the answer?
No one knows
2006-10-04 11:14:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd promote off him asap. If he likes yet another female and he or she him, WHAT ARE YOU DOING??? authentic love would not play video games or have wandering eyes, it really is dedicated and important artwork. you ought to work out this as a pink flag, a deal breaker, strike 3. Your youthful, i'm guessing, you could't also be thinking a extreme relationship that is going to reason you lack of self belief. have exciting, do not change into overly invested in this, WHAT? you could't flirt? flow on, the writing is on the wall and it spells worry. Do your self a choose and reduce the guy loose, no matter if it really is destined to be, it really is going to run it really is direction and he will be again. yet why you'll take him again only you could answer.
2016-11-26 02:57:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, sexually active girls are dirty girls? Maybe you should come down off your high horse when you are judging others. I am sure you are not perfect, but you present yourself as such.
It is ultimately the woman's choice to have sex or not. Most men will want to have sex, but forcing a woman is rape. So, if she chooses not to have sex with me, then I have no recourse if I love her.
Sexual inexperience is not valued because it has no value. How can I know if a woman and I are completely compatible if we abstian from sex until after we are married? Marriage is a strong committment that should be taken seriously enough to explore all aspects of our compatibility.
2006-10-04 11:18:55 · answer #3 · answered by Your Best Fiend 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If the woman is only 21 and just hasn't found the right guy to try sex with, or has been living in dorms and her parents house for the last 21 years, that's one thing.
But I would never date someone who has lived alone, independent as an adult and purposly decided to deny themselves the experience of sex until they are married. I personally think it shows bad judgdment and is a red flag for all kinds of problems.
The idea that you put forward in your question, that by choosing a partner that you have feelings for, and enjoying physicial intimacy and sex with him while you are both falling in in love, the idea that this will dirty yourself (you even used the word dirty a few times) is an extremely unhealthy view of your body and sex and relationships in general.
I personally don't think that most men and women are ready for a committed, serious relationship until they are at lest 25 or 30. Statisitcs prove this, as the liklihood of divorce is much higher the younger you marry. Therefore we are talking about people who have or want to remain virgins for many, many years. They have had lots of practice denying their own desires and years of practice downplaying the importance of physical intimacy in thier minds.
I would not want to be with someone like that.
Finally, it's our species, not our culture that is sexually charged. We are just as God made us, if those are your beliefs.
PS: Do you see how many of the people who support your idea are referring to you as physical property? You are a gift, a treasure, don't waste the gift, creatures like you are hard to find, I want to find another virgin like you etc.... You are not a commodity for the pleasure of men and neither is your sexuality. It is part of you and should be respected as much as any other part of you.
2006-10-04 11:15:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd sure like to know the answer to this one... I'm 17 and I want to stay a virgin til I get married. Sure seems like no guy wants to accept that these days. Once you find one that does, you know you have a real shot.
Good luck finding a guy that respects you and your choices girl!
2006-10-04 11:13:07 · answer #5 · answered by Green-eyed Nikki 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I'd find another girlfriend.
At that age (around 21), guys just want to get laid. I'm sure there are some guys who would tolerate the kissing-only idea, but the vast majority probably would not.
2006-10-04 11:12:30 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I commend you for wanting to do that in this day and age. Women are such different creatures then men. I would say have patience with men, and maybe date somebody a bit older who has been around the block and will consider waiting for you. Who knows, maybe you will find another virgin like yourself. I wish you the best of luck.
2006-10-04 11:17:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why would I date a 21 year old I'm only 13...
2006-10-04 11:11:39 · answer #8 · answered by Jesus Freak!!! 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would definitely be with her. A girl such as her is very hard to find. She is a rare treasure! If you like her, then you should respect her wish.
2006-10-04 11:12:50 · answer #9 · answered by Webballs 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You sound like the type of woman that's worth the wait.
2006-10-04 11:12:31 · answer #10 · answered by imnotbtami 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋