Sever Hemophilia - Bipolar - Mild Mental Retardation - XYY Syndrome - PDD Autism - Behaveral Autism. He is !5 and 265 lbs, 6'1". His Dad left in December to go live in Georgia and has made no contact with him since, & things have just gotten worse since then. Anytime he gets mad, he will take it out on me. Hitting, cursing, throwing things at me and other people I am looking for a Residental or Group Home for him for him
2006-10-04 10:56:58 · 21 answers · asked by Renee K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am not a professional social worker, doctor or developmental specialist, so please take my answer with a huge grain of salt. However, I am a teacher and a parent, so I sympathize.
If you cannot help him learn to control his violent behaviors, and I am not blaming you if you cannot, then a residential treatment facility may be the safest for the both of you (and any others who may live in your house).
I am a believer in treating disabilities aggressively: seeking out the best care and doing all that can be done at the earliest intervention point. Sometimes a parent is the best person to provide the care, sometimes not. In your case, you may best serve your son by being his advocate and helping to negotiate a plan for his care while he lives outside of your house. Again, I am not an expert.
Some treatmenmt programs require the child to not have contact with a parent for a time (weeks or months) when they start the treatment. This may be difficult for you, but I liken it to sending a child to college. You want your child to learn independence and to be able to function in the world when you are not there. These programs, if reputable, may be able to help.
i am so sorry that caring for your son has cost you the relationship with his father and seems to be taking such a toll on your personal life. I do believe that only when you take care of yourself can you be the advocate he requires. You do not deserve to be hit or mistreated physically by anyone, including your son.
I advise looking into residential programs and also contacting local and state agencies to learn about your rights when it comes to funding. If he is 15 (school age) the state may pick up the tab for a lot of the treatment.
Best of luck
2006-10-04 11:07:56 · answer #1 · answered by Lucky 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say that is the best bet, you will enjoy being his parent again! routine.....autistic and PDD kids like to have a routine. This means getting up at the same time EVERY day, eating at the same times, going to the same places....Routine is the key. It may even help alleviate some of the anxiety that comes with Bi Polar disorder and Autism. No surprises, just stick to the routine.
2006-10-04 11:00:34 · answer #2 · answered by rera1397 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've worked with people like this before.He needs professional help. Psychologists, social workers, direct care, doctors, behavior modification programs, recreation therapists,nurses and a day program that keeps him busy and makes him feel as though he is contributing to society.. Due to his disabilities, I'm surprised that you haven't gotten help for him through SSI or the state in some way, as he is entitled and so are you Try to help stabilize him and start him on a path to stability with people that understand his needs and for the main ingredient called respect and dignity as we all want in our life. He's entitled to all of the above and will get it but not without your advocating for him, as he isn't able to do that on his own. Get it for him soon...The respect and dignity is due him but the advocate is essential to implement any of this first.......
2006-10-04 11:13:59 · answer #3 · answered by silhouette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is probably hard, I have a friend who has a child with severe mental retardation who is also Autistic, and I have seen her go through hell, You should look into programs or help that can help
you deal with problems like these, sorry I am not an expert but
i wish you luck and god bless you!
2006-10-04 11:01:42 · answer #4 · answered by T agent 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
proper now your son is receiving out affected person medical care. Have any of the psychiatrists suggested in-affected person medical care? i comprehend he's in basic terms 6 whether it ought to be mandatory to 'leap initiate' the medical care in case you comprehend what I recommend. Has he been categorised as 06 (emotionally disturbed)? He would desire a point 5 software or in line with risk a point 6 software in college. If he maintains to hit the youngsters and instructors, he would be put in a point 5 software yet he needs the label first. locate out which colleges on your district have a point 5 software.point 6 courses are placed in inner maximum centers. Abilify is a wierd decision of drugs for him. this is many times used for youths. little ones do no longer respond properly to Abilify because it could heightens their aggressive section. i'll get a great form of thumb downs for this yet right here it is going: in line with risk you would be able to desire to concentration much less on college and extra on his psychological wellbeing. do away with him from college and concentration on on a standard basis psychiatric medical care or deliver him to an in-homestead psychiatric facility. refer to his psychiatrists approximately this. the faculty counselors are no longer allowed to make those techniques whether they think of it truly is maximum suitable. Being held back by potential of 12 months isn't the tip of the international so please evaluate this. If his habit would not strengthen, you would be compelled to make some complicated and painful judgements. i'm optimistic you already understand this. needless to say you may no longer enable your son to terrorize and threaten the emotional and actual wellbeing of his siblings. he will would desire to be faraway from the homestead and located in a collection homestead, everlasting wellbeing midsection or foster care. what's your husband's functionality in all of this?
2016-10-01 22:46:15 · answer #5 · answered by rotanelli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off u should pray for the strengh and guidence on how to raise and deal w gods angel. then u need to FIRMLY let that child know that they might have med cond but u r still the adult, mother, and father and they WILL respect u. dont let urself be abused, stressed, or weakened by pity, but love him more by showing and teaching him through tru love, understanding, and acceptance that no matter what he has to respect, understand, and love u bk. the same way as well as others.
god bless u and ur in my prayers.
2006-10-04 11:04:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are on the right track, and that a group home might be the best choice for him and you.
Here are over 200 websites found from a Google web search for "choosing a group home." I hope some of them are helpful to you.
http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&lr=&q=%22choosing+a+group+home%22&btnG=Search
Good luck, and stay strong.
2006-10-04 11:00:26 · answer #7 · answered by Jim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone who even thinks they can answer this question without completing a complete diagnostic assessment and formal treatment plan for your son is clearly not qualified to tell you anything. It sounds like you have a treatment team in place. Follow their reccomendations. I wish you well, this is clearly a very difficult situation.
2006-10-04 11:00:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say good luck with the group home mm and usaid he is how old tahts not good at that age i would say that he needs to be put in a home fo rthe handy cap but he is ur son u need help with hem just from the sound of things now he needs help with his aditude and u need to help im get help and good luck
2006-10-04 11:01:21 · answer #9 · answered by hotchick_8587 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact ResCare Or Outwood
2006-10-04 10:59:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋