i haven't seen my dad in a long time. last time i saw him, i was 3. now i'm 13(14 in 20 days). i miss having a father. but he was unfaithful to my mom, and was abusive. and i'm not sure if i want to meet him.
2006-10-04 10:55:30 · 10 answers · asked by sam 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
he hasn't tried to have a relattionship with me at all. all i ever hear of him is child support. it's sad that he fought to have custady over me years ago, and now he doesn't want to have a relationship with his first and maybe only child.
2006-10-04 11:12:45 · update #1
I think you could wait a few more years to meet your dad, if he hasn't been around all this time, and you don't know what meeting him will be like---if you're not sure, then just don't do it. It could just upset you and cause problems for you; wait until you're a few years older. Is he pushing to meet you? If so, then you might want to give him a chance, but take it slow, don't see him too often, and try to keep some distance--you don't want you or anyone else in your family to get hurt again. Good luck. If he's not pushing you and it's your idea, but you're not sure, I still say, wait.
2006-10-04 10:59:24 · answer #1 · answered by KJC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes meet your dad, the relationship he had with your mother has nothing to do with your relationship with him. People grow and change over time. so give him a chance, keep a open mind.
after all dont you want to know who made you and your other half?? How does your mom feel about it?? need more details.
do you perhaps feel like your being unfaithful to your mom by reuniting with your dad??
2006-10-04 17:59:53 · answer #2 · answered by sissybombay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the same thing happened to me but at a different age. My mom always talked bad about my dad and said everything was all his fault that they split up. My mom was never nice to me (still isn't to this day) so when my dad finally did call and wanted to see me, i did go. And i am so happy that i did!!!!! My dad is awsome and i love him so much. He did tell me the truth about what happened to them (years after we got back in touch) and everything my mom said was true but it was her that did the stuff that split them up!! You need to make up your own mind and find answers for yourself....if he is that bad then you never have to see him again but do go while you have the chance!! You might regret it later in life if you don't go now!!
Good Luck!!!
2006-10-04 18:05:58 · answer #3 · answered by polarbaby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Problem = You are trying to combine 2 relationships into 1.
Keep your mother and fathers relationship seperate from yours and your fathers. You should give your relationship with your father a fighting chance. You aren't being fair to yourself if you don't give it a fighting chance.
2006-10-04 18:08:29 · answer #4 · answered by ~Angel~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you that there are always two sides to every story. You are now old enough to make your own decisions about him. Meet him, and talk to him about everything that concerns you.
2006-10-04 17:58:03 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If ever in doubt, don't do it. If you don't feel comfortable meeting him right now, then don't. You can always change your mind next month or next year if you choose to do so.
2006-10-04 17:59:55 · answer #6 · answered by JB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah. I'd wait until you are 18, then you will have a better idea of what is best.
2006-10-04 17:58:22 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
meet him he might have change, but he also can be the same all i have to say follow your heart and you'll get your answer
2006-10-04 17:58:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
2006-10-04 19:04:36 · answer #9 · answered by jojo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, try to meet him, he might have changed an may not.....u have to try .........to know wht u'll be best 4 ya
2006-10-04 18:01:03 · answer #10 · answered by babyyocca 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋