I work long days and i start at 4:00 am and dont get home until something 5:00 pm.. So when i get home i just want to shower, eat, watch some TV with him and go to bed. Im generally in bed by 7:00 pm.. When i got our phone bill there was many calls to her after 8:30 pm.. They are for like 4 minutes here 2 mintues there, but like 5 total calls in one day.. We use to have our cell phones on each sides of the bed, mine on my side and his on his side. But now his phone is always on viberate and he leaves it in his pants pocket in the bathroom on the floor, or in the kitchen. I feel worried that hes hiding stuff.. I have looked on his phone for txt messages and calls to these girls, but i cant find any but the calls are on the cell phone bill..She text him one day when i was right by him and i asked him if they talk alot and he said no they never talk.. But now theres all these calls on the cell phone bill, in two days ill have the next bill. Do u think that they are more than just friends?
2006-10-04 10:42:08 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is a college student and I make all the bills(i forgot that part).. And i have asked him many times about this and he just says they're friends, they dont talk much, blah blah blah... And the thing is, even though they are short calls, could he be calling her where should we meet, what time etc, Because i would never know if he left! (left me know if you need more detail)
Background- we have been dating for 3 years... with no problems like this...
2006-10-04 11:10:10 · update #1
With all of the info you're giving, you have a right to be suspicious. I would say to wait until you get the bill in 2 days and if it persists, then definately confront him.
2006-10-04 10:45:10 · answer #1 · answered by Mimo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you need to sit him down and ask him to explain all these mysterious phone calls with the phone bill in front of you - not an unreasonable request as you say you are the one paying the bills. If he cannot give you a satisfactory reply then ask him to contribute towards the bills! Don't become his meal ticket! Secondly, it sounds as if you need to sit down with each other and discuss what you both want out of your relationship as it sounds like you don't have time for a boyfriend and he's bored. Don't fall into the trap of taking each other for granted. Maybe you can solve the problem of the inappropriate phone calls and secrecy in a manner where you both benefit form the outcome.
2006-10-04 13:39:10 · answer #2 · answered by Helen B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Id be very worried if I werew you hun - the fact that hes being cagey about his mobile phone is a sign of guilt as far as Im concerned - Id ask him to see his phone out of the blue - if he asks why tell him if he has nothing to hide he wont object to you going through it - if he does object and get odd - you have your answer right there.
I hope he's not playing away from home for your sake xx
2006-10-04 20:57:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your due to get a bill soon than why don't you just ring the girl and ask her what is going on . If you cant talk to your boyfriend then you shouldn't be with him . you should never keep secrets from each other. then only good relationship is an open and honest one.
2006-10-04 11:10:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't be very meaningful conversations if they are only lasting for a few minutes.......hours on end, you may need to worry! Why don't you express your concerns and explain to him why you are worried. Or maybe look at your relationship (meant in the nicest way) and see that you may need to spend a little more time together, maybe some smooch time or just make time to sit and chat. In this busy world we sometimes forget to look at how little time we have to spend on the one we love the most and need to re-evaluate our priorities. Good luck
2006-10-04 10:51:59 · answer #5 · answered by GalaxyGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hiding things from you is a form of lying. Not a good way to handle the relationship. I'd be very leary if I were you. It doesn't matter how many hours you work or what your sleeping schedule is. He's carrying on another relationship with someone other than you. Not a good thing.
2006-10-04 10:48:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
SNOOOP! Get a DICTAPHONE tape one under the bed under a table, behind the bathroom sink, or amongst dirty clothes (somewhere out of sight) & then scan them in private 2 get a definitive answer...
it does sound suspicious but then again he could be chatting to friends AND cheating on you, change your routine if you can, find ways to pick up signs...
2006-10-04 17:11:52 · answer #7 · answered by Can I Be Your Pet? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They maybe just friends, but you should look at all the pro's and con's on this.....and sorry to say that there will be more con's than there is pro's.... he hides his phone and puts it on viberate, which he hasn't done before, why would he wait until you was in bed to call her? if they was just friends then why doesn't he make the call to her in your presence,or she phone him whilst your with him? unless he has something to hide, at 8.30pm you are obviously well asleep by then, so he would make these calls to her at this time knowing or thinking you wouldn't find out by listerning to his conversation. the call is yours, but I speak from first hand experience, nip it in the bud now before you get hurt.
2006-10-04 11:02:55 · answer #8 · answered by ojay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there and done that and all I can tell you is to watch out... He is hiding something that he doesnt want you to see, text messages can be erased so there wont be a way for you to track them like the phone calls... to me and without being harsh on you, he is cheating on you.
2006-10-04 10:45:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Appreciate you work hard, but is this affecting your relationship?
He may be straying, but is that because the home life isn't working out for the two of you? Try and make some time to talk to him.
2006-10-04 10:49:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋