hey.. are you asian..?
cos I'm asian too.. I need your advice...
well.. the case is.. We just moved in... Like.. last May... I'm currently studying in the US as a 10th grader... I'm having problem making friends.. well.. I have some friends.. but you can count them.. Maybe because I'm shy... I dont speak unless spoken to.. But I can speak english very fluently... and they can understand me easily... (I came from an english speaking country)
1 of my problem is I get so shy during conversations... Or.. I'm not even that confident to say "hi"... I mean... back from my homeland... I'm super confident.. I have tons and tons of friends... I dont know what happened to me... or is it just natural in the first months?? and.. another thing, I'm super shy in our class participation... We already had like... 3 weeks of class and I have recited only 5 times.. I'm shy.. because I dont want to see people laughing at me specially when times like I make mistakes with my speech..
I would just like to know.. are asians viewed as... like...
"under" the whites or something...? well.. tnx for your advices!!! GODBLESS!!
2006-10-04 10:41:18 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Languages
yeah im asain too. it's not ur fault that u became shy, its natural, i think. the same thing happened to me. now i've got bunches of friends. only racists view asians as "underwhites"
2006-10-04 10:45:57 · answer #1 · answered by cloouvgeh 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry your expiriencing this.
No i am not asian, but maybe I can help a little.
Could your shyness be maybe some thing you heard about americans before you came here? I know to the rest of thenworld we are viewed as loud, and racist, and yes there are a lot of that. But not everyone. I hope the issue isn't because you get harassed at school, if it is, F**K those ignorant pricks. Persanally I would be very interested in meeting some one of your situation, The asian culter is amazing, and vast. And the fact that it dates back so far... well wow.
Maybe if you try in one of your classes to give a report about your cultur, and where you are from, it might open the door to some more people. I can say I would be very shy if I moved to asia. It's a COMPLETELY different culture.
Welcome to America, and I really wish you the best.
2006-10-04 10:50:39 · answer #2 · answered by danksprite420 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Haha, i'm Asian, and my father and mom continually tell me to "only date tremendous Asian boys that you'll marry, no longer only date for exciting". it really is been ingrained in my head when you consider that i became a baby (me being a woman *rolls eyes*) that I easily must have an interest in only Asian adult adult males. in spite of the indisputable fact that, i do not choose human beings by skill of race, as a lot as that pisses my father and mom off, and lots (yet no longer the final public, regrettably) of Asians i recognize do not both. i don't think of that there is a few thing especially that you ought to do in a unique way at the same time as coming near Asian adult adult males than you'll with a guy of the different race...yet in the adventure that they are so slender-minded that they don't evaluate you adequate for them because of your race, then they don't deserve you besides :D
2016-11-26 02:55:25 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's perfectly natural for you to be feeling shy, and unsure of yourself! You just have to learn to laugh louder than the other students when you make mistakes - then they won't be able to tease you about it, and you'll seem more like "a regular guy" type of person!!
As for racial stereotyping, that's an individual thing, and not really part of a culture (although if you were an Arab you'd be discriminated against!)
You'll find some people who think you must be super-brainy, and only want your help with their homework - and you might be unlucky enough to find others who think you're the scum of the earth, and your cousins eat cats, dogs, rats and even human foetuses. These are foul, disgusting, stupid people, and you should take whatever they say with a smile. Don't bother arguing with them, they're usually violent - stupid people often are.
Most of the people you meet will judge you by the way you behave, rather than by the country you came from! As others have pointed out, many Americans are outgoing - not ALL of them though - so maybe if you make that extra effort to NOT be so shy, make the effort to participate - and be prepared to make a mistake and laugh it off - maybe you'll settle down more quickly.
2006-10-04 14:01:35 · answer #4 · answered by _ 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Hey, no way are asians considered "below" caucasians. My husband is Japanese, and caucasians are sometimes considered "below" them in their culture. In fact, on their scale, Americans aren't even on it. I respect the asian cultures and eastern philosphy very much. Do not feel that you're a weirdo because you are integrated into a new country. You are a bright, articulate person and anyone who doesn't recognize your strengths is at a loss. Keep your shoulders back and don't be afraid to speak. You have a lot to offer. Show it!!
2006-10-04 10:54:14 · answer #5 · answered by gentle understanding 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's perfectly normal to be shy going into a new school...especially in a new country!
I'm not asian but my brother in law is and so are my nieces and nephew....
you'll eventually get over your shyness and make some wonderful friends...i'm sure of it.
;-)
I am white and the only people I think are under me are those who are ignorant with racial intolerance.
2006-10-04 10:53:39 · answer #6 · answered by chefzilla65 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have to overcome your shyness. i'm an asian, living in a european country and the people here are so racist...and i mean racist...they look at you up and down and think your a hooker...but if you let them see you in a way that you look like a hooker, they will put you down...it's a good thing that you know how to speak english and you are in an english speaking country, it's just easy...not like me, i have to learn there language so i could communicate to them...i'm also a shy just like you, but i have overcome it...be true to yourself and stand in what you believe in...making mistakes are part of life, we all make mistakes, we are not perfect, if they laugh at you because you made a mistake, sooner or later, you will also laugh at them because they also made a mistake...be strong!!!!
hope you got something from the answers above...believe in yourself...God Bless You!!!
2006-10-06 06:47:05 · answer #7 · answered by gracie 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I've never moved to another country so i don't know exactly what you're going through, but it must be very hard. I think you should see what you interests are, and try joining some after school activities and then you'll be with people who share the same interests as you and maybe make some new friends at the same time. Good Luck!!
2006-10-04 10:49:57 · answer #8 · answered by ME 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Truth be told, the racial stereotype (I disapprove of racial stereotypes) in America is that asians are superior to whites in terms of intellect and are distant towards whites. White people who hold this stereotype often alienate asians because of feelings of inferiority. Americans tend to be more extroverted than asians, so being introverted can be difficult (no matter what race you are). My advice is to just hang in there and be generally friendly. High school is hard.
2006-10-04 10:46:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Youre shy because youre new to the country. Its normal.
Whites think everyone black, asian, hispanic, are under them.
2006-10-04 10:48:57 · answer #10 · answered by juju 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋