i'm 20 years old. my b/f and i have been dating almost 2 years, but for the past like 6 months i've come to realize i dont love him as much as i probably should. he wants to marry me but there are so many things i dont like about him, like he has no goals or abitions in life to further his education. the thing is i'm scared if i break up with him i'll never find any one again, this is not fair to him but i dont want to hurt him. any advice on how to go about this?
2006-10-04 10:38:56 · 35 answers · asked by Nikki 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
their are so many men out their.. Why settle for less when you are not satisfied? Remember we are going to be gone from this world alot longer then we are here.. Life is to short, I promise you that you will not be alone forever. When the time is right you will meet Mr. right. Tell your current B/F that you need some space to refect on your life and where you are going. If he really loves you he will understand and back off, if he is selfish and insecure he will beg you to stay and all that drama they do,
Follow your head and move on. it is not fair to you nor him.
You are so young, love yourself and let go..
2006-10-04 10:45:23 · answer #1 · answered by sissybombay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Breaking up with some is always hard there really isn't an easy way..as far as you not finding anyone else , you will ,I've always heard there's someone out there for everyone...T he right one will come along , besides your very young,I wouldn't rush into marriage for several years..trust me when I say enjoy being young and single..And I say single because you really don't love your now boyfriend..Listen your going to have to be honest with him, if you don't love him like you should he needs to know..Yes it will hurt him but he WILL get over it in time..It's better to let him know now than to go on with this relationship and a couple of years down the road it gets worse and harder...Be strong and just be honest with him he does deserve that much...Good Luck!
2006-10-04 10:47:52 · answer #2 · answered by Just Dreamin' 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow you are only 20. Break it off sweetie. You will find so many others- believe me. Just tell him this is not going to work out and that you two can still be friends. Try to let him down easy, dont rant and rave about him not having any goals- this will only hurt him more. 2 years is a long time to dedicate, but definitly not worth losing yourself to someone you are not in love with or that isnt worth your time
2006-10-04 10:41:55 · answer #3 · answered by BeautyMark 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not happy tell him!! There is no reason that you should keep your feelings from him! There is always "more fish in the sea". I was married for 4 years, and about 3 years into it i realized just how unhappy I was. It was hard but you just have to be honest and tell them how you fell. Maybe he can work on the things you don't like, but if not ya'll are just hurting each other. Life's to short to not be happy. After my divorce I met the most wonderful man I have ever laid eyes on. Don't give up!!! True LOVE is out there!;)
2006-10-04 10:49:52 · answer #4 · answered by Kalyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend deserves someone who loves and accepts him the way that he is. Let him know that you are NOT that person for him, as much as you'd love to be. But, you can't change the person you are and you both need to move on.
You will find your special somebody, and when you look back at this moment, you will have no regrets. Love really exists, is the most wonderful thing in the world and anybody can have it if they're open and honest with their partner and themselves. Don't settle for anything less then the real thing.
2006-10-04 11:15:28 · answer #5 · answered by nutty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm going through a similar situations. i've been with this guy over 4 years and wish i got out earlier. Trust your instincts...you need to get out asap if you know for sure you are not in love with him. The longer you stay in the relationship the harder it is to get out. You are only 20 years old and you will find someone else. You are so young and don't need to worry about not being about to find anyone else. Some people only start dating around 20...so consider your self lucky to have started the dating scene early and be able to learn from your mistakes. I'm engaged and basically stuck because its just too comfortable for me now and not all that benefical for me to leave. It sucks a lot...don't just stay with him because your scared of not finding someone because you don't want to find the "one" when you are with this guy because it'll hurt him even more the longer your with him.
2006-10-04 10:43:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm this is hard just sit him down in person and tell him things have changed over the past 6 months and im moving on and your just laying back say i dont want my future liek this it can't be i need to make somehting of my life and you obv dont have those goals right now so it hink itd be better for both of us to go our own seperate ways and find what we want to do in life we cna still be friends and everythign but nothing more
i need advice on somehting liek this too read my boyfriend commited and also he is prob goign to the navy ina year in ahalf what do i do???do i just go on witht he relationship and deal with it when thetime comes i mean he told me i could stop him but i dont want to end up getting into the relationship too much if i have to give him up because iw ouldn't be able to do long distance so what should i do
2006-10-04 10:44:22 · answer #7 · answered by nickiejh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youll find someone again.
And you will hurt him if you stay with him just because he's there. People can tell when they're being used and if he doesn't realize it now, he'll realize it when he proposes and you say no - that's gonna hurt a hell of a lot more than you just telling him that you need to move on.
2006-10-04 10:42:04 · answer #8 · answered by abrennan01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the reason why u want to break up is because he has no goals or ambitions..then try having a talk with him.
tell him if he doesn't care about how u feel about his goals and ambitions..then tell him that he won't have a girlfriend anymore.
if he doesn't take u seriously..then s-l-o-w-l-y ignore him. his calls..etc..(then he should get the message)
he will be hurt--but hey...if he doesn't respect what YOU want..why respect what HE wants?!
but if he compromises--and will TRY to do what u want out of him..then maybe he truely cares and loves u and wants u to be his future wifey.
but if u don't see urself being with him at all--then just stick with plan A--and just ignore him. and tell him u like being single again.
good luck!
2006-10-04 10:49:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest and truthful. You have just spent 2 years with him and you probably should remain friends. Make sure you tell him you are not breaking up over someone new, so he doesnt feel like he has been over ran by another man.
You will find someone new when you least expect it. You are still very young.
2006-10-04 10:41:44 · answer #10 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋