my girlfriend and i are having some problems. she wants some time off and i understand that. its been 4 months and i want to get that spark back between us. i have no idea how to do it. anything would be nice.
2006-10-04 10:02:39 · 25 answers · asked by Trevor 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i had that problem in my relationship.do something romantic,flowers,candy,leave love letters on her car when shes at work.write her a poem.do something spontaneous.time off wont help,you cant move backwards in a relationship and expect to go forward again.put the spark back in.find out what made her fall for you in the beginning
2006-10-04 10:06:36 · answer #1 · answered by baseball_saenz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm.. i'd say the more Independent, Confident, Caring, and Responsible you are, the more "attractive" you will be. u sound like u are a great boyfriend, but perhaps she is not sure of what she wants...and u need to respect that. u cannot force a spark to happen again..but u can continuously work on Yourself to be just an Awesome Person, Man, Boyfriend, Student, Worker, etc... u have a lot of things in Your life that u can concentrate on. the more well rounded u are, the more u will be someone who is worth keeping. don't worry too much about your girlfriend, because u don't want to push her away. however, u do'nt want to ignore her either huh? :) i say do nice things like send her flowers once in awhile, or shoot her a nice text or email, but don't call or go to her house too often. just continue to work on things in your own life to be great.
then, later when she comes around, u can figure if the problem was Her, You, or just relationship problems in general. just make sure YOU are accountable, so that nothing is "your fault" :).....also, so that u are not so dependent on her that u can't take care of anything else. good luck!
2006-10-04 17:07:39 · answer #2 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your spark should still be white hot after only 4 months. You should find out what is the root of your "problems" are and see if they are fixable. You can be sweet and nice but if you never fix the issues the same crap will keep coming up. In general girls don't need a bunch of over the top stuff. Just listen without being judgmental. Be affectionate, appreciative, show her you care. These are the things you should be getting from her also ;)
2006-10-04 17:07:34 · answer #3 · answered by girlnextdoor409 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey man, i'm more or less in the same situation man... and i'll tell you what always works for me with my girlfriends...
money.. i know that may sound shallow or an easy way out, BUT listen up.. I think its NOT just about buying her stuff... like flowers and cards and teddies and pointless stuff... wat you have to do is completely suprise her and go totally overboard with stuff... basically blow her away...
wat i have done before, is as follows, and this is true, and it worked a treat... AND it didn't cost THAT much... which is obviously good...
took her for a nice meal at the Oxo tower in london, VERY nice, then when we were "about to go home" i told the cab driver to bring us to waterloo and brought her to paris for the weekend...
at first she was so startled that she couldn't stop laughing (always good) then she was in denial.. "i haven't got my passport, i don't have any clothes" which i had sorted... well not the clothes but the idea was for her to be able to buy what she wanted when we got there... and when we got to paris we went to a hotel and had a wondeful night there, (no details necessary) and in the morning had lunch, went shopping then headed up the Eiffel tower, another meal in the evening and then came back that next day... and i tell you now she f**king loved me for it!
of course there are cheaper alternatives that have the exact same desired effect... like booking a holiday for a week somewhere... because although that would be much the same price, you'd get longer out of it than a day.., or take her to a restaurant then to a hotel where ever you are... just something exciting and completely different to the norm basically.... hope this helps...
my fingers are sore now...lol
2006-10-04 17:12:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plan something romantic.
Or extremely fun.
Or just something that you would both enjoy doing.
You could do something really thoughtful too, like writing down all the things you love about her.
Just do something that she and you will both enjoy, and that's not too over the top. Call her before she goes to bed and sing her to sleep, and tell her you love her more than you ever knew you could ever love another human being. And most importantly, show affection for her. Walk with her when you see her in halls, walk up to her and kiss her, hold her hand, put your arm around her shoulder or waist, and make it clear that she's yours.
And don't take the break thing as a big deal. If she wanted to call it off, then she would've called it off.
2006-10-04 17:09:29 · answer #5 · answered by afskjdsgflhf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The frst thing youn eed to do is find out if there is someone else in the picture, whether its a man or woman you never know these days.
Secondly, you need to make sure this is what you want, feelings sometimes can and do change. If you just want a spark strike a match. If your love her your heart will show you the way.
2006-10-04 17:08:47 · answer #6 · answered by rlc120168 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since it's only been 4 mos that is good, i say just give her the space she needs before you get so wrapped up in each other that it's hard to break up (if necessary). if it's meant to be she will come back...if not then just find someone new and let her regret losing you.
Since obviously you care about making your relationships work it will not be hard to find someone that will appreciate you efforts and will be willing to work just as hard for a good relationship instead of needing time off from a relationship that is just 4 mos long.
2006-10-04 17:18:45 · answer #7 · answered by Arrrrrggggg! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send her a dozen roses and tell her that you miss her and want her back. If she says no, I think it's time to move on because 4 months seems like a long time for a break from each other unless she needed the time to like finish school or take care of a family issue or something like that.
2006-10-04 17:05:34 · answer #8 · answered by abrennan01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIrst off the two of you need to sit down and discuss what the status of your relationship is. If she has decided to move on, you may never be able to rekindle a spark, and I would hate for you to have wasted the time and effort. Talk to the girl!
2006-10-04 17:05:39 · answer #9 · answered by Jenyfer C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you take time off from a relationship?
What if you where married to her ? Then you can't just take time off . 4 Months to take off is enough and way to long !. If she has not yet wanted to get back with you ,then I'd say try to get over her and : Other mothers have pretty daughters too!
2006-10-04 17:07:05 · answer #10 · answered by silverearth1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋