what was my dad thinking?

Question

my dad asked me what i wanted for my birthday present. (im 23 and i dont see him that much but we do talk at least once a week on the phone)
i told him that i would like a pink PS2 as i have wanted a games console since i got my flat last year and the pink ones get released near my birthday or i would like some money to buy clothes with.

my boyfriend thought he would ask my dad what he bought me so if it was the PS2 then he could buy me a couple of games for it as birthday presents.

my dad told him he had bought me a portable dvd player. my boyfriend was confused as he has never heard me say i would like one so he told me what my dad had said.

when i next saw him i asked my dad if it was true. he got angry when i said u know i have no use for one as he knows i cant afford to go on long journeys that often so he shouldnt buy me one.

why would he ask me what i wanted and then get me something of no use to me?

Answer 1

Simple........ men dont think!!!!

Answer 2

Its a pain in the butt when people get you something you dont want -- especially when you told them exactly what you want. But come on, you're acting a bit spoilt if you go giving out to him for not buying you a PS2. From his point of view he prob wanted to get you a surprise - (parents always think surprises are great) and add to that he prob thought a portable dvd player was very new and hitech (again, dads seem to have a fascination with dvd's etc).

I think you're dad thought he was being very up to date getting you a portable dvd player and then when you go giving out, of course he's gonna be pissed. Cut him some slack - its parents being parents - I'm sure they've bought you lots of random sweaters too - its the way of the world.

Actually I bet you've bought him plenty of bday/xmas presents that youthought were great (socks, ties, random gadgets) and he's prob thought though "what the hell?".

I say, cut him some slack, pawn the dvd player (dont tell him) and buy yourself a PS2 - everybodys happy and he's none the wiser

Answer 3

the troubles of a spoiled generation..

A true gift your dad could give you was to allow you to experience a single day as a homeless person. Your perspective on life would be so more enriched. You know, an enriched perspective on life makes you wiser, and wisdom allows you to achieve in life so much more. So in the end, your Dad would have done you a big favour.

Of course, you can be wise by yourself. Tell your dad you thought about this and thank him for the kind thought and the trouble he went to get you the portable DVD player. Give him a kiss and tell him you love him as much as he loves you, no matter what. Ask him that you decided to donate your presents this year to charity and that you would really like him to accompany you to a volunteer centre for the homeless to do some voluntary work together for a day. Do this as a family strengthening and a father-daughter bonding activity.

You will both be so much richer and happier for it.

Give it a try ;-)

Answer 4

First off, don't be ungrateful! If your 23, you know better. A portable DVD player is a great gift - you don't have to go on long journey's to use it - use your imagination. If you always got what you asked for, where would the surprise be? I think you hurt your Dad's feelings something awful reacting that way - your not a kid anymore, there is no excuse for that. He may have asked you what you wanted to get an idea, but maybe HE felt you'd like this better. Reacting to him the way you did is acting selfish and spoiled. He didn't have to get you anything!!! I think you owe your Dad an apology.

Answer 5

Try to remember that this is a "gift". A person can give you whatever they want because it is a "gift". What you are talking about is a "demand". Even though he asked you what you wanted it was totally up to him what to bless you with. A PS2 is considerably more expensive than a portable DVD player. And a relationship with a Dad is a lot more important than a gift that will be forgotten later on. Be glad he loves you enough to "gift" you.

Answer 6

My girlfriend has the same problem. Sometimes dad's are just muppets. Her dad bought her a DVD copying drive for her pc when she said all she wanted was money as she was going on a walking trip in Morocco. The funny thing was that the DVD recorder wasn't compatible with her computer as it was to advanced. But instead of taking it back like any sensible person would he hassled her into buying a new computer! I wasn;t best pleased but her dad ended paying for the computer in the end I think he realised his mistake and was embarrassed - i also think this maybe why your dad wasn't happy as well

Answer 7

so you're throwing your toys because you got a portable DVD player instead of a playstation? sorry, but you need to step back a little and look at what's important here. a gift is never as important as the spirit in which it's given. besides which, i can guarantee you'll use a portable DVD player.

honestly, i think you're being a little childish here. nothing personal, but you're throwing a tantrum because you didn't get exactly what you want. welcome to the real world, and if it's really that big a problem, next time your dad asks you what you want, just tell him 'nothing'. that way you'll never be disappointed.

Answer 8

He might of thought you would like the gift he bought you.

A gift is just that - it isn't something you have a right to. You can't complain because it isn't up to scratch, as it isn't a commercial transaction.

Be grateful you have a dad who remembers your birthday and wants to buy you something at all. You might find that since you have acted like a spoilt 12-year-old over this present, he won't bother spending money on you again.

Answer 9

No offense but if I was your father I'd be taking the DVD player back and buying myself something maybe thinking about buying you a card. Your 23 yrs old and your acting like a child. It shouldn't matter what he buys you just say thank you. Someday he's not going to be there then what are you going to do?

Answer 10

How old are you? oh 23, you sound like a 7 year old spoilt brat... Never heard of you don't always get what you want. If you want a pink playstation that much, buy your own. Be thankful you have a father, wish my Dad was still alive .

Answer 11

he probably saw something else that may have looked better and thought....yes....she will like this....the thought was there when he asked you what you wanted, he may not have had enough money to buy to a pink PS2, so he's gone for a different option, you should be grateful that he got you anything at all, at least he got you something......