what would you do? and what if they did , would you feel responsible? Thanks for your respones...
2006-10-04 09:42:17 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanks for all your great responses....
2006-10-04 09:52:12 · update #1
i guess the next time i'll clarify that they might do somethnig to themselves....thanks again.
2006-10-04 10:11:29 · update #2
Get a restraining order!
2006-10-04 09:44:33 · answer #1 · answered by w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said "would you feel responsible"...so I am assuming they are threatening to do something to themself. ---I've had that happen and the truth
is that most of the time they are bluffing. They say stuff like that to get your' attention and make you feel guilty for leaving and by saying it, they are hoping you'll give in and come back. Don't give in. Those types of people can't stand to be alone and will find someone new very quickly once they know that you are moving on.
If, on the very small chance this person DOES do something harmful to theirself, it isn't your' fault and you should not blame yourself. That was a choice that THEY made. You are not responsible for maintaining someone else's happiness.
2006-10-04 16:57:36 · answer #2 · answered by Rebecca C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of the time when someone says this it is a ploy.They may feel like they would cause some harm to themselves.If you are really concerned tell them that you will get them some help,but that you still don't want to and won't continue to date them.If by some chance they do harm themselves,it won't be your fault.I can bet that they have used guilt to try to keep a mate prior to you.It's a way of manipulating people in order to get what they want.You should also inform them that that is the very reason why you don't want to date them anymore,because they are manipulating and WEAK!!!! Most times this will cause them to concentrate on fixing that problem and divert their attention away from you.
2006-10-04 16:49:13 · answer #3 · answered by girlqueen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not responsible for their actions. We are all upset at sometime in our lives. If they are that upset and you really feel they are going to hurt themselves, I would call the police so they could get some help. My best friend did that. She told him he had 2 weeks to get his stuff and to get out of her house. He threatened and took pain relievers. She called the ambulance. They came and he lied said she lied. They said she wouldn't have called them for something like that if he hadn't had done it. It was for his own good. They pumped his stomach and had him evaluated mentally. If you feel they would hurt you, call the police, just to let them know what they said in case they do follow through with the threat.
You do what you need to do. If the relationship isn't right, it isn't right and it is time to move on. They shouldn't make threats to try to keep you. That shows you made the right decision.
2006-10-04 16:48:57 · answer #4 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. that is hard but definitely leave that person. It's not healthy for anyone to be in a relationship with a crazy person. they might just be saying they'll hurt themselves as a way to have you tight up to them because they know that you have a heart and care and wouldn't want them to do anything dumb. You shouldn't feel responsible because it's not your fault that person is insane. Do what you think is right, and what makes you happy
2006-10-04 16:49:52 · answer #5 · answered by Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my personal experience the person is just trying to get your attention. They will say or do anything to keep you there even though you are both miserable. It's a dependency thing for them.
Most likely they will just get mad and be very nasty, but then get over it. Again, this is just from my past experience. And no, I would not feel responsible, I didn't hurt the person, they hurt themselves.
2006-10-04 16:48:55 · answer #6 · answered by skellington 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try to talk to their immediate family members, or I would try to get them to seek professional help. It it gets really out of control contact the local authority. It is against the law to commit suicide.
I would feel sad but not responsible. The only way I would feel responsible is if I led them on. Like I will get back with you soon, I still love you blah blah blah kinda thing.
2006-10-04 16:47:50 · answer #7 · answered by shughes2000_2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a situation like that, I would most likely get the law involved to protect not only myself, but also the other person. I think when people feel threatened or vulnerable they say things they don't mean. Just be careful.
2006-10-04 16:46:07 · answer #8 · answered by Maddy's Mom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would probably feel some guilt and responsibilty but in the long run I can't control them. I can't fill a void in someone else they have too. I think in the end I'd pity them that they couldn't be happy with themselves.
2006-10-04 16:45:54 · answer #9 · answered by Samantha O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a tactic of desperation to try and force you to stay in the relationship. Give him or her the number of a good crisis line. They are there to help in such situations. Good Luck! :)
2006-10-04 16:45:23 · answer #10 · answered by tysavage2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋