I firmly believe there is a drastic difference between knowing what you want in a mate, and simply being "picky."
Compromise can be both reasonable and healthy and I am willing to make healthy compromises.
I refuse to "settle," however.
I'm not looking for a perfect "ten" in looks and personality. I could be pleased with a "five" on both parts. There has to be a balance, though.
I wouldn't want a "ten" in looks, who is a "zero" in character and personality.
I wouldn't want a "ten" in character and personality, who I am not at all physically attracted to, although I'm sure we could be friends.
Is it wrong to know what you want and stick with it, even if the odds are against you?
Do you believe there is a difference between knowing what you want, and being picky?
Do you believe there is a differnce between healthy compromise and "settling"?
2006-10-04 09:35:35 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are SPOT ON!!! More people should know what they want and stick to it! I wrote down exactly what I wanted in a mate and knew what I would not settle for! I didn't compromise. I waited and waited and finally found the man of my dreams! I even forgot to put good looking on the list and managed to get that too!!! We've been married over 4 years and have a 6 month old son!!! Good luck, NEVER settle! Even if the odds are against you!
2006-10-04 09:40:54 · answer #1 · answered by favrd1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong in knowing what you want as long as you can compromise on some aspects. No ones perfect so always keep an open mind and you'll do fine. As for settling what's the sense. If you settle then you will most likely have regrets later on that could change and end it anyways. I say don't settle.
2006-10-04 16:43:21 · answer #2 · answered by Samantha O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not wrong, but you could waste alot of time and effort sorting through every piece of laundry..... You have to approach dating with an open mind and you need to relax a little. That doesn't mean you go out with everyone that ask's you.. yes be sensible, but not rigid.. There might not be anyone who measures up to your score sheet...in your mind.... but how do you measure up???
Knowing what you want is healthy, as well as knowing what you don't want. No one can force you into something that isn't right for you...
Settling is giving up... healthy comprise tells me you have a good head on your shoulders and can make decisions.....
Try not to keep score with everyone, that is a very shallow way to go about this whole thing.....Go out and have fun.... when the real thing shows up honey... You will swim to China and back without giving it a thought.....You never know when they might show up
2006-10-04 16:47:10 · answer #3 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is definitely reasonable to expect certain things. You might consider having certain things are absolute "must-haves" that you will not settle for less on, and then having another category for things that would be very nice, but not absolutely essential. That's how you can tell the difference between a good compromise and "settling".
2006-10-04 16:52:20 · answer #4 · answered by hillsdaleman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Knowing what you want and sticking to it when all, I mean "all" the odds are against you is simply stupid. You must have heard about trials, sometimes what you see is not what you get. Keep an open mind and give any body you meet a chance. You would be surprise how you would start seeing things you overlooked in the beginning.
2006-10-04 16:42:56 · answer #5 · answered by Bantree 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes a HUGE one. Never settle for less than you want. We should all be happy alone first and then we will be in a position to attract the type of person for us.
2006-10-04 16:39:44 · answer #6 · answered by Mike Hunt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If more people felt this way there would be a reduction in the divorce rate.
Stick to your guns
2006-10-04 16:38:56 · answer #7 · answered by patricia d 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋