We're both 18. It's been 2 and half months and we have done NOTHING "sexually" - only kissing and hugging and whatever. We were both best friends for 3 years before we got together recently and I know she'll never tell me she's ready unless I ask her about it - even if she's ready right now, she'll never say a thing, she's just like that.
Anyhow, I want to ask her how she feels about taking the relationship to the next step but I don't know how to bring it up. I also want to be deadly careful about making her feel pressured and/or forced. I respect her so much and I love her more than anybody in the world, so I want to know it's "OK" before I try anything but I also don't want to ruin anything by asking her.
In that sense, I'm kind of trapped. I fear asking her and losing her respect but I also fear trying anything without her hating me for trying something.
Any ideas on how exactly I can sort this out?
Thanks!
2006-10-04 09:33:14 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just ask her how she feels about being together intimately.Tell her you love and respect her very much, and do don't want to try anything that will make her uncomfortable. Tell her you are ready to take it to the next level if she is. If she is you are stoked! If not then just be patient it will happen. Good luck.
2006-10-04 09:45:13 · answer #1 · answered by CHERYL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How come sex has to be "the next step"? Sex should not be in your relationship until you are married. I think that hugging, kissing, and even making out is acceptable in a relationship, but you should never have sex until marriage.
Sex brings on too many complications. What if you accidentally got her pregnant (yeah, sex IS for that)? Do you love her enough to be the father of that child?
Also, 2 months is barely any time in a relationship! I've been dating this guy for a month, but I don't think I would be ready to have sex next month. I'm falling in love with him, and I really care about him, but sex can ruin a relationship. I don't want to ruin it with sex.
Here are 101 ways to tell someone you love them without sex. I thought this was really neat:
http://www.priory.com/paeds/101%20ways.htm
Read that. Maybe you'll find something there would be the better "next step."
2006-10-04 16:39:30 · answer #2 · answered by New mommy 2010! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it slow. You love her so you can wait for her. My advice would be wait for her to come to you I guarantee when she is ready she will show you. If you really don't think she will than just try new things really slowly. Take the sexual stuff one step at time. Start with touching and if she responds then stay there for a while and go a little further another time let her trust you.
2006-10-04 16:43:21 · answer #3 · answered by emma's mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, just tell her that. You love her, and YOU want to know if SHE is ready for something more. She will say yes or no, and she shouldnt get angry, b/c you nicely asked, and when she hears that you didnt want her to lose respect for you, she will be smiling, just knowing you were going to wait for her, and how much you love her.
2006-10-04 16:37:56 · answer #4 · answered by aryannmay7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to marry her after 2 months wow! that is awesome! My wife and I were married after 5 months and I asked her after 3 months. Just get a ring and get down on a knee and ask her.
2006-10-04 16:37:56 · answer #5 · answered by Allinwiththenuts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u could ask...ask her if she is interested in going further, but tell her there is no pressure no rush or anything, just tell her u want a simple answer, yes or no, and iam sure if u do ask her correctly nothing will be ruined..
2006-10-04 16:37:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, honestly I would take it slow. Try taking each level sex a step at a time, but as you go forward, ask her if it's okay or does this feel good, etc.
2006-10-04 16:37:44 · answer #7 · answered by priorsvcmarine 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yep... have her hop on the computer with you and you both go to the links below!!!
Then once you have read everything... talk about it openly and honestly.
You will have your answer!!
2006-10-04 16:42:08 · answer #8 · answered by .... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ask her does she wanna play hide the sausage
2006-10-04 16:36:46 · answer #9 · answered by *JC* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋