My bf and I are going through a lot of problems... he does so much for me and at the end he does one think that pisses me off like anything.... so I came to a desicion that I will just not be around when he is like that...so everytime he goes into one of the moods i leave to go to my bestfriends house... he thinks that i am ignoring him... which is not true... i just want to give him his scape and i don't want to be fighting with him and that is why i leave... pleawse help.... i love him and maybe one day we want to get married and settle down........ any suggestion i will take it
2006-10-04 09:19:26 · 8 answers · asked by Ramya D 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be honest with him and let him know that when he gets like that it upsets you and leads to an arguement and you decided that going over to your friends house would give him time and yourself time to let things die down a little so there can be a discussion instead of an arguement. There is usually always something between a couple that tick's the other off, but remember this, trying to change someone will not work as well. Compromise would be easier and help strengthen a relationship. Good luck.
2006-10-04 09:30:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is key.
Sit him down and tell him why you do not like whatever it is he has been doing (absolutely no shouting or anger in your voice -- guys' minds shut down at cattiness and he'll tune you out). Explain to him how you'd like for him to change his behavoir in this situation (Note, I said his -behavoir-. Don't try to change -him-) If he loved you, he'd be understanding and atleast make an effort.
Take it in consideration that he also has to put up with all your faults. Don't believe he has to be perfect only because you are not.
2006-10-04 09:38:06 · answer #2 · answered by Brittany 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are doing the right thing. Tell him that until he can control his temper and talk things out rationally, you will disappear and spend some enjoyable time with someone else. If he does not try to improve his behavoir, just move on! It will get worse! Good Luck!
2006-10-04 09:25:52 · answer #3 · answered by cadodevine 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Grow up. Stop expecting him to be the way YOU want him to be, he is a human being. He has his up times and his down times just like YOU do. Obviously you don't love him because if you truly did then you would accpet him as he is with all of his faults rather than whining about them
2006-10-04 09:23:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think the answer is simple. If you two were to get married, you would have to have this sorted out. Honestly I think you handle it fairly maturely assuming you have told him that the "one thing" pisses you off already.
2006-10-04 09:23:20 · answer #5 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Love is the answer to everything. All you ever need is love,
communication and understanding. That's what I figured out so
far. If you are down, you need to get up and start doing something with
your life. Don't need to be shy, be straight forward and allways say what
you want and expect from the others.
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2006-10-04 09:20:48 · answer #6 · answered by mihai m 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Mayb he needs u there2talk2?If he gets abusive,by all means jus leave.Buh u have2take the good n bad of the person u love.No1's perfect.
2006-10-04 09:23:40 · answer #7 · answered by soft heart 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell him how you feel
2006-10-04 09:27:50 · answer #8 · answered by Christina F 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋