Why is it that nowadays so many couples live together for years and may even have children, but have no plans to get married?
Sorry if I sound judgmental here, I'm not asking whether it is right or wrong but rather trying to understand WHY?
2006-10-04 09:11:36 · 6 answers · asked by Searcher 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its a good question. I am not really sure how I feel about marriage. I have been married before and it didnt work. I was practically forced into the situation and I didnt want to be married anymore than he did. It casued alot of resentment between the two of us. I am pregnant now and refuse to get married just because of the baby. Its kind of like If things arent broke, why try to fix them? I love my partner dearly and am completely devoted to him in every way. He is my significant other, not just my boyfriend or baby's father.
I think I will agree to get married again sooner rather than later. As I said, I respect and admire my partner. I know that he wants to be married and eventually we will be. He respects my opinions and reservations on the matter so he doesnt force the issue. With time, i will overcome my hang-ups and marry him because that is what he wants and I want for him to be happy.
I just do not understand the following....
Why do I need a license for marriage to love someone and be with them to support them in their trials and triumphs. If marriage, by definition is a religious institution, why do I have to obtain a peice of paper from my government before my marriage is legitimate? Why does society tell me that I need to be be married so my son doesnt become a bastard child? Why is marriage such a big deal anyway? Half of them end in divorce anyway? How can a couple live together as a family with children for nearly a decade and a month after their so called marriage end up seperated? Why does the idealistic definition of one word wiegh so heavy in reality?
To tie in the last two points, I dont need an ok from anyone to be there for the one I love, but if having a certificate of marriage will make him happy, I will get it because I love him and I desire for him to be staisfied in our relationship. Compromise is part of a relationship. He feels a bit more strongly on the subject due to a religious upbringing.
2006-10-04 09:23:24 · answer #1 · answered by Ally Nicole+ 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why would you care? If they are productive people, are not on welfare and are committed to one another, what is this government intrusion into their lives? Is it religious dogma, or social pressure? What on earth does a piece of paper do for you? It is a ridiculous and antiquated social habit. Where do you get off being so judgmental?
2006-10-04 09:16:17 · answer #2 · answered by finaldx 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Love is the answer to everything. All you ever need is love,
communication and understanding. That's what I figured out so
far. If you are down, you need to get up and start doing something with
your life. Don't need to be shy, be straight forward and allways say what
you want and expect from the others.
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2006-10-04 09:13:57 · answer #3 · answered by ema e 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
from a view of how God intended it: yes it is wrong
from a view of how Society has declined: it is acceptable
you aren't being judgmental, and shouldn't feel as if you have anything to apologize for. You aren't the one with the issue.
2006-10-04 09:40:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Pressures of commitment, responsibility play a big role in this, also people have less morals.
2006-10-04 09:21:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think mariage; the fact that you are commited to one person for the rest of your life really scares people.
2006-10-04 09:13:38 · answer #6 · answered by laura 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋