Is it ok if my boyfriend and I have sex?

Question

We have been dating for 2 and a half years and we are sort of engaged but he hasn't given me a diamond yet. We have done some things, but we want more and I want to know if it's ok since we are going to get married. We don't want to wait to get married because we have to wait to graduate from college. Is it still wrong according to the bible, even if we are going to get married?

Answer 1

If you're going to get married, and you've made it this far, you may as well wait!

I can't say whether it's wrong or not, because that's up to the individual, but I think it will mean more if you wait.

Answer 2

Yes it is wrong to tell you the truth. Just wait for your marriage.

Come on, after your marriage you have the whole of you lifetime to have sex, so just be patience and don't get into trouble if you come from a conservative, strict family then you will be trouble.
You will lose your virginity

I hope not, but there is always a chance that engagements don't end in marriage.

Wait, your patience will pay off. You have waited for 2 and a half years, the why not wait a bit longer. It is a sin and will make you feel guilty for the rest of your life

Answer 3

No offence but if you are a religious believer, then guilt will eventually overtake you.

Organised religions would outlaw sex if it wasn't our "only"* means of reproduction

The problem with organised religions imposing their dogmatic views on people is that it renders normal acts of nature to be sinful and wrong. It is another pressure tactic the power-hungry hypocrites use to have more control on people.

You shouldn't wait until you are married before having sex. I say this because so many relationships eventually fall flat on themselves simply due to bad sex... And unless you experiment a bit before you commit, you cannot know what is good sex and bad sex, and by the time you figure it out, it'll be too late; you'll be stuck in a less-than-satisfying marriage.

So it all comes down to your convictions versus your faith. You must choose between taking a chance you'll be stuck in a sex-less marriage or if you try it beforehand to know what you're getting into.

Hope this helps you a bit

Cheers!

PS: I am anti organised religion, in case my answer wasn't direct enough!

* recent technologies are making it possible for the human species to procreate "in vitro"; i.e. without sexual intercourse

Answer 4

The bible is not the almighty guide to life you and only you can make that decision, You know in your heart where you are in your relationship your thought on whether sex is something you should do now ? If it was such a bad thing to do this world would not exists, Im religious and raised catholic if I committed such a sin take me now , I think that the Lord watches us and protects us from some hurt and harm but if you love him keep him ,if he is the greatest man you have known bless him with a gift of you! god bless . Now dont ever have sex without protection think about the reprocussions of a unthought out plan.

Answer 5

Yes it is wrong according to the Bible, to have sex before marriage! If u have waited till you are engaged why don't you just continue to wait and endure till you are married. That is what i believe. It's worth it. Good luck as you make the right decision. God Bless you.

Answer 6

Since he has not committed to a formal ingagement,i.e. no ring yet, be aware that something might be a bit off kilter-ask him about that.If you are afraid even to ask, ask yourself "why?"

As to sex before marriage-it is one of the most precious thing you can both bring to the marriage-waiting until you are married in the sight of God and man. You have waited this long-and in this day and age, that is awesome for couples to abstain! Don't ruin it now-the bible is definate on it-keep yourselves for each other til married-and,if heaven forbid, you break up instead, you will still have yourself to give when you do find "Mr. Right".

Answer 7

Of course it's okay, if it's what both of you want and you're adults.

As an aside, many marriages fall apart because of sexual dissatisfaction of one or both partners, or issues of sexual compatibility. It is, in many ways, a better basis for a sound, lasting marriage to have learned about each other and above all yourselves sexually before marriage.

As an aside, the Bible has no one consistent message on human sexuality. It is hard to reconcile the Song of Songs with Leviticus.

Answer 8

yes it is still wrong. Since when are your morals flexible to include doing what you want to do anyway?
Unless he proposes, gives you a ring, you announce your engagement to yoru families and friends, and you set a date, "going to" is meaningless. There's no such things as "sort of engaged enough to have sex."
You need to make a choice: following your morals, getting married, finishing college, or having sex.

Answer 9

Love is the answer to everything. All you ever need is love,
communication and understanding. That's what I figured out so
far. If you are down, you need to get up and start doing something with
your life. Don't need to be shy, be straight forward and allways say what
you want and expect from the others.

=======
If you have the time, and you are looking for someone, complete this simple
form and start dating.
http://**************/go.php

Answer 10

Yes it is wrong. The bible says you should give your body to your husband. This man is not your husband, no matter what your intentions are.

I was engaged at one point to, and it didnt work out. Wait until you committ yourselves to each other and then give him the greatest gift he will ever receive in his life!