He has no confindence what so ever and is realy realy shyyy. He has low selfisteam, he tries to hide it but dosent dont do a very good job. All i want is to make him fell good a smile more. How can i as a friend do this. {{{thanx}}}
2006-10-04 08:56:19 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
YOU can't. The last thing he needs is a female friend to tell him how great of a guy he is. Here's why... by you telling him that he's... [insert compliments here]... you will build up his confidence. Which is good, BUT... he will then proceed to ask you out because now he believes that you really like him. Then what? You turn him down and now he thinks you were just lying. So what good did you do him? NONE, you made things worse.
2006-10-04 09:03:07 · answer #1 · answered by tbayxxxv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm afraid there is nothing you personally can do. Some people are shy and grow out of it, like me, I just realised that I did not have anything less or more than others, but some people are shy by nature.
The main thing is to respect their shyness and let them know they are okay the way they are.
Attempting to change someone can also be destructive rather than positive.
Let him be who he is. He is fine that way. He'll come out of his shell when he is ready to face this cruel world.
2006-10-04 16:02:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that there is nothing wrong with him. Show him someone else who is very forward and active and ask him 'in what way are you different or lower than him'.
Tell him that everybody makes fun of everybody and everybody including the great leaders and religious leaders have all been laughed at and insulted but that he should do what he thinks is right and talk what he thinks is right.
2006-10-04 16:04:28 · answer #3 · answered by Mr Business 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is the answer to everything. All you ever need is love,
communication and understanding. That's what I figured out so
far. If you are down, you need to get up and start doing something with
your life. Don't need to be shy, be straight forward and allways say what
you want and expect from the others.
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2006-10-04 15:59:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him to read some Neil Struass
2006-10-04 15:58:12 · answer #5 · answered by gauthier613 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just show him love..Take one day at a time
2006-10-04 16:03:06 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
O'' Yes he will fall out of that shyness. give him some time.
2006-10-04 16:00:26 · answer #7 · answered by shortnsassy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
compliment him.
2006-10-04 16:04:37 · answer #8 · answered by Kay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jokes.. that's all u need..
2006-10-04 15:59:10 · answer #9 · answered by bäwЄŁ Ļoĕ ® 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋