I know what we have is real. She is caught up in some weird spot because of some baggage she has got from past relationships and I'm sure I've got some, too. I know I need to just chill and let things happen but it's so frikkin hard 'cause she shies away everytime we start to get close and has started working a lot. Everytime I am with her I have no doubts about us and want her to feel the same way but know she has to come to that herself. Any advice on keeping myself occupied while she sorts out whatever she needs to? I want her to know I still want her without burying her or ignoring her.
2006-10-04 08:37:39 · 9 answers · asked by randyken 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
give her some room she may just be re-evaluating her feelings for you and if i am right show her that you really really really love her like tell her that because she really wants to her it! sometimes the simplist things are what pleases her the most but i don't know her so i can't say for sure if so do something simple and nice for her she will really appreciate it. Otherwise give her some time don't push her because when she is pushed she will slip away just like grabing the fish too tightly when bare hand fishing lol (jk) i hope this helps and good luck!
2006-10-04 08:44:22 · answer #1 · answered by confused 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should suggesting "taking a break" from the relationship while the two of you sort out your problems.
Spending time apart can also give you a new perspective on things.
If you spend some time with other people, and you start to think differently about her & the relationship, then she is NOT the one.
2006-10-04 15:41:33 · answer #2 · answered by Randy G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had that problem with a girl who was hurt in the past
whenever i will pull away she will do something to lure me baxk
and when i started to get close she will push me away which left baffled but i tried for a few months but i couldnt take it
it had me all depress and all and believe i kept myself occupied i was having so much fun in the meantime but everytime there was contact (bad and good) it just got me depress because the girl was stuck
i dont know what to tell u
if u want her badly wait for her and confront her and prove to her u r the one for her
good luck
and i hope this girl u r talkin about is not my x
2006-10-04 15:42:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has sick baggae from the past.
She shies away every time you get close.
You have no doubts about the relationship?
You got yourself a damsel in distress. You are getting involved with the wrong woman (weak, flaky, damaged, needy, desperate, stupid, untrustworhty, immature etc.) because you think your love will save/transform her. It won't.
2006-10-04 15:45:25 · answer #4 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever heard the saying if you love it you have to let it go and if it comes back its meant to be. I know its going to be hard but maybe that's what she needs.She may need some clarity in her life. Give her some space as much as you love her and you think you are helping her she my be holding you back.
2006-10-04 15:45:38 · answer #5 · answered by roni_lane81981 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be their for her when she needs you but back off when she does not want ur help and remind her everyday that you care alot for her and are their for her.
2006-10-04 15:41:17 · answer #6 · answered by darkvamp4542 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should tell her everything you just wrote, let her know that you want her and that ur willing to wait for her...just comfort her, let her know she can trust you
2006-10-04 15:42:05 · answer #7 · answered by okay. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Huh??
2006-10-04 15:41:33 · answer #8 · answered by Jookemgood 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good luck
2006-10-04 15:39:37 · answer #9 · answered by Donald M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋