They don't have any real reason to disapprove. It's just their beliefs are different than mine. Should their ignorance influence my decision??
2006-10-04 08:37:18 · 11 answers · asked by L J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok - let me clarify. The reason for their disapproval would be his race.
2006-10-05 03:16:19 · update #1
I have. At the time, it seemed like their reasons for disapproval were stupid, so I ignored them and saw him anyway. It turns out I should have listened to them, because I ended up getting hurt.
It may seem like your parents are just trying to rain on your parade, but they most likely do have your best interests at heart. Ultimately, this is something most of us have to learn for ourselves - the hard way.
I don't know the whole situation, but I suggest that before you just dismiss their disapproval, think about whether you're just not listening because it's not something you want to hear.
2006-10-04 08:43:20 · answer #1 · answered by Deleted 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one thing, your relationship with your parents is obviously not a great one, because you really shouldn't consider your parents ignorant. In fact, the opposite is true. Try considering that they have been there..done that - they know exactly what they are talking about.
I myself dated a couple of different people I knew they wouldn't have agreed with, then I married one lol. As much as I do love my husband, I understand now a lot of what my mother was always trying to tell me, and while I will make the best of it and continue to make every effort, I realize it might have been a tad easier on me if I had really taken what she told me to heart and followed it. She didn't want me to have to experience the difficulties that she did. But I did what I thought was right - because I thought I knew better.
It just doesn't work that way. I do think some beliefs might be a little extreme - that of course is religion specific. But there are certain facts that older people come to realize, and it is part of their job to teach this to their children - no matter how old they get.
So, while you may not precisely follow what your parents are telling you, keep an open mind and tread carefully when they are putting up warning signs.
Someone else might be seeing something that you aren't. Love really is blind - and it can blind you to something that is going to come back and bite you in the butt later.
If its only their religous beliefs, then you need to simply sit down with them and explain to them that you just don't believe the same way that they do. You only insult them however by saying they are ignorant in what they believe.
Insulting your parents is never a good idea lol. So if you want to keep the relationship with your parents, then talk to them about the decision you have made. They may not approve, but they don't want to loose contact with their child either.
There is a difference between acceptance, and understanding. Like my mother always told me, (no..not a box of chocolates)...'I don't agree with what you are doing, but it is your choice and I have to let you make your own decisions'.
Its more a matter of respect. Don't expect other people to just sit back and accept what you are doing, they certainly don't have to. But fighting everyone certainly won't win you any fights.
Good luck.
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2006-10-04 08:39:34 · answer #4 · answered by alla a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you reall love him... and if you think it is worth it for fight for him... then be with him... I am an indian dating a phillipino guy an dtrust me its not a fun ride for my parents..... we are living together and they did know until they gave me a suprise visit one morning but,,, i just told them that i love him and no matter what i iwll be with him... in the beginning they are pissed but hey.... they got used to it... and you know what if my parents can live with the fact that i live with a guy before marriage then any parents can live with a little disapproval
2006-10-04 08:52:59 · answer #5 · answered by Ramya D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I found out the hard way that sometimes parents know best. And I am 30 years old and wish now I had listened to them. At least think about what they are telling you
2006-10-04 09:49:57 · answer #6 · answered by angelae93 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
2006-10-04 08:42:53 · answer #7 · answered by ericscribener 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
quick note: your parents never really approve of anyone you date....just thought i'd share that with you.....now make your decision...
2006-10-04 08:40:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show your parrent how nice he really is and show him his accomplishments, then there should be no way the can provw him bad! =]
2006-10-04 08:39:40 · answer #9 · answered by Morgan<3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
has happened many times. tough decision.
2006-10-04 08:39:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋