My friend is a Vietnam Vet. We recently went on a cruise, it was wonderful. We were even planning other trips.We been together about 7 months. Night before he said he loved me, last night he started a fight and said he was leaving and never coming back. He said forget about him and he wouldn't talk to me. I don't know what to do. I love him and I want to help.
2006-10-04 08:28:28 · 8 answers · asked by wondering44 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Let him cool down, he will come around!
2006-10-04 08:37:40 · answer #1 · answered by Gothic Martha™ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi hun! I think if you want to help your friend, then maybe just being his friend right now instead of a lover would prove to be more productive. Tell him you are going to be there for him if he needs to talk. Tell him you will give him some space to try and work out what is bothering him, but that you would like to help if you could. PTSD has a way of confusing a persons mind. Is he on meds? If not maybe it is something he could look into if he wants too. Only he can make this dicisions. You can only make suggestions. Every person makes their own life what it is. You sound very kind hearted, I wish you the best. Take care! Hugs! Von
2006-10-04 21:10:20 · answer #2 · answered by bry7josh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your friend know that you are always there for him and if he ever wants to talk you are there to listen. He may be going through a rough time right now and is afraid of commitment. Tell him you will give him space and time to figure out what it is that he wants to do. Do not crowd him or try to coddle him it will only make things worse. My late husband had PTSD and the more I tried to make things less stressful for him the farther away he withdrew. Just be a friend and let him know you care about him and that you will always be there for him when he is ready to talk he will.
2006-10-04 15:39:51 · answer #3 · answered by miamac49616 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to be with someone who can't commit past a fight? Think rationally! Give him one call. Say, "I know you were just angry...Call me when you cool off. Do you really want to sacrifice what we have together?" NEVER CALL again. That puts the ball in his court and honestly, you are giving him a chance for reconciliation on your terms. You're better off without him and you should move on...but if he does come back. Don't be so grateful that you forget about what YOU really want. Make sure you have an honest discussion about what happened.
2006-10-04 15:36:49 · answer #4 · answered by Chit P 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should give him some time off. Don't take too much distance though as you will be sending the wrong signal i.e you don't need him.
I'm sure your friend is confused and will soon realized how much he misses you and how wonderful you are....
p.s. send him a picture of the place where you went (on the cruise) and on the back put: Miss you and we'll be waiting for you....
ciao
2006-10-04 15:32:39 · answer #5 · answered by Valerie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should take him out in the forest and throw a party for him. Lots of firecrackers, and have your friends surprise him by jumping out from behind bushes wearing camo. Maybe fire some paintballs too. That will help calm his PTSD and make him cool again.
2006-10-04 15:55:05 · answer #6 · answered by schamm45 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should give him some time out when he wants to talk to you he will just give him space but let him know your there for him whenever he wants to talk to you good luck i hope it all works out for you.
2006-10-04 15:34:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get professional help!
2006-10-04 15:30:57 · answer #8 · answered by lisette 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋