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My uncle is marrying his GF and he's inviting only 1/2 of the people in his office
2006-10-04 08:28:08 · 36 answers · asked by FavoredbyU 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You work to have a job, not to have friends. But relationships do develop, I would be slightly hurt if I interacted with the person on a daily person and we were friendly. But, if I did not normally talk to them, I would be OK.
I got hurt, though when my brother in law got married. His bride, whom I had known just as long as I had been married to my husband, wanted my husband and my kids in the wedding. They also had all the other brothers, and one brother's ex girlfriend. I was not in the wedding. I thought that was strange, and I was a little hurt by it.
2006-10-04 08:48:02 · answer #1 · answered by Gothic Martha™ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your uncle is in a very difficult position. He has three choices:
1) Invite everybody in the office whether he likes them or he doesn't - this will cost a deal of money in food etc.
2) Invite nobody in the office. This will seem unfair to good friends he has there...
3) Invite only those people he feels closest to, and let the chips fall. After the wedding, he might consider taking everyone from the office out for a celebration dinner to a Chinese buffet or something to make everyone feel included in his celebration.
2006-10-04 08:32:35 · answer #2 · answered by Clarkie 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If I was friendly with your uncle around the office and I was not invited but others were, then I would feel kind of bad. But if I was not friendly with him then I really would not care. Perhaps your uncle chose just the folks that he socializes with. It also depends on how large the office is. If he has 5 or 6 people in his office then maybe he should have considered invited them all. If he has 25 or something like that then I can see not inviting everyone.
2006-10-04 08:32:04 · answer #3 · answered by PT&L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think if you are his neice, if he invites you the rest of the family may be mad. Do you two get along, if not, then I can see why. Maybe the 1/2 he is inviting are very good friends. If he was my uncle I would ask him, he can tell you why?
2006-10-04 08:38:56 · answer #4 · answered by livlafluv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That happened to me at my last job. I didn't take it personal. I was friends with the woman but she had a big family and I was the new girl and I knew it was costing her a pretty penny. So to invite me and a guest would be a little akward because she only knew me for a short time. If your uncle is not close to those in his office I don't see why he should have to invite them. He has to pay for it he should be able to choose who he wants to be there.
2006-10-04 08:31:36 · answer #5 · answered by NICOLE J 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well when it happened to me I was a bit pissed. My boss and I worked together for about 2 years between two different places.
(When he left his assistant manager position for a management position I went with him and became an assistant manager working for him). When he got married he invited all of the upper managment, CEO, Directors, etc. and not me. I was a little hurt. Considering I had been friend with him longer than anyone in the company. Sucks but you know life's not fair. After that we really didn't get along anyways because I think he resented his wife, and I reminded him of her...
2006-10-04 09:08:45 · answer #6 · answered by kristina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I'm old school--I believe you should either invite everyone (knowing that only the people closest to you will say yes) OR don't invite anyone...all or nothing, that's how it should be.
I've been in the situation where some of my co-workers were invited to a wedding and others were not (I was one of the not-invited people). It hurts, I felt like I had done something wrong or the person didn't like me....It's not a nice feeling.
2006-10-04 08:32:47 · answer #7 · answered by Penguin Gal 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Etiquette deems that if you are inviting people of a commitee or group (including the workplace) that you are NOT required to invite all members, however to be courteous ALL invitations (even those going to people you see everyday in the office) should be MAILED not hand delivered.
2006-10-04 08:37:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has every right to only invite the people that he wants to. I can honestly say I would only invite the ones that I felt the closest to. It may cause some tension in the office, but I'm sure it's nothing he can't handle.
2006-10-04 08:30:40 · answer #9 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I really wouldn't be offended. It is always nice to be invited but sometimes it is more of a hassle -date, gifts, hotel, booze, outfit, the list goes on. If it is someone only in the office, and not a close pal, it is perfectly fine not to go to their wedding.
2006-10-04 08:34:20 · answer #10 · answered by DBL L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋