hey well my problem is when i am with my friends or family i find it very easy to start up conversations, you could say i never stop speaking. BUT when i an with my boyfriend i never know what to say, i cant seem to start conversations with him and it is putting alot of pressure on me and strain on our relationship.
how can i start conversations? what things can i talk about?
please help i am scared this could ruin are relationship
2006-10-04 08:22:48 · 15 answers · asked by sensual 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It can be scary. How about starting a conversation about how you find it difficult to talk with him? Just be totally honest, and tell him the truth.
That can help in two ways; If you talk about your fears out loud to him, they may ease somewhat.
Plus, he may say some things that make you feel better.
Good luck!
2006-10-04 08:34:54 · answer #1 · answered by LittleBitOfSugar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom always told me that you can tell how well a person is matched to you by how comfortable you feel when there is silence between the two of you. While you do need to talk and would hope to be with a person that you can talk forever too, there are also times where you just feel like being quiet. If the silence bothers you or there is too much of it, maybe you are not with the right person for you. Once you find that person that makes you as comfortable as you feel with family and friends then you will be able to talk freely and when there is silence it will not bother you.
2006-10-04 08:42:27 · answer #2 · answered by M C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you start the conversation, take a deep breath and relax. If he really understands you, he will understand that you are nervous and under pressure. Think about what he likes or ask him about his day--good starters to begin with. Just relax and act as if you're talking to a good friend. Good luck!!
2006-10-04 08:26:36 · answer #3 · answered by Squeaky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him exactly how you feel - I am willing to bet he probably feels the same way you do. Afraid to say something that might come out wrong.... Don't want to bring up the wrong subject.... Shy.... Just relax and let him know in a sweet way that you want to be able to talk to him but you don't know how. There is no harm in admitting that you are nervous and anxious when it comes to intimate conversation with him.
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2006-10-04 08:30:08 · answer #5 · answered by alla a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you either really like him or you feel very uncomfortable around him.
If you really like him and are too shy to talk around him let him do most of the talking. Ask him questions about him and listen to his stories. Most likely the more that you get to know him the more you will find things to talk about.
If you feel really uncomfortable around him than you can try the technique above, but if you still can't talk to him after that, I would suggest finding someone that you can be comfortable around.
Hope this helps.
2006-10-04 08:30:55 · answer #6 · answered by pilotjeannie89 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On thing there should be in a relationship is communication... It should never be difficult to speak to your other half..... You can always start by asking how his day went and talk about yours.. You can talk about goals that either one of you may have... There are many things to talk about, you just have to stop being afraid....
Good Luck!
2006-10-04 08:26:33 · answer #7 · answered by Torres 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find this strange, but a truly easy fix.
Ask questions.
For example, you know of something he is interested in. Ask him a question about that. When he responds, fire off another question based on his answer. Take his next response and compare that to something you are interested in. Rinse and repeat as needed. If you must, start asking sports questions or something. No worries on this one.
2006-10-04 08:31:39 · answer #8 · answered by Morty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its all about comfort level. of course you feel comfortable with your family. if you dont feel comfortable with a guy, then you need to find someone more easy-going. someone who doesnt require you to lead the conversation. if you feel at ease, then youll be more able to start conversations. it requires interest as well, and you may just not be interested enough.
2006-10-04 08:26:45 · answer #9 · answered by man_hands542 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babe, if you started dating it is going to take time. If you are one of those girls who gets nervous around boys, it's gonna take time. Me, I'm not nervous around boys at all. It took me about 3 years to get over the nervousness, but it is gone.
2006-10-04 08:26:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋