i have been wooing this girl for the pass two months now.yesterday was her birthday,I bought her a birthday cake and birthday cards. We went out to an e-tree. we had great time and fun.Infact i was really happy that atlast i have finanly gotten the girl of my dreams.just for her to start saying words that really break my heart.She said she likes me very much,and that she even told her friends that she likes me very much and also that she cannot forget me in her life.she said she is in love with some else. that same way i am feeling for her, that how she is feeling for that guy.that she is really in love with that guy.And that she wish I was the first.Infact i felt very bad. becos she is all i have ever wanted in my life. what will i do! forget her and move forward or still keep puting more effort. But one thing i am sure is that i am really in love with this girl.Also i had sleepless night that same day.Please should i continue, i need the best advice
2006-10-04 08:12:27 · 18 answers · asked by samuel B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you really loved her, you'd want her to be happy even if it wasn't with you. If you love her, let her go. It'll be hard and will cause a lot of sleepless nights, but if you keep putting forth effort, she may start resenting you for the fact that you'd sort of be coming in between her and the man she really loves.
2006-10-04 08:15:12 · answer #1 · answered by Rose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally i have been through the same thing but i have learned that it is better to lock it inside your heart because if you leave it there it will hurt you more......and if you really love her then you will always be there for her and hope that someday she will change her mind.......in my case it was not possible because the other part moved.........so what i am saying is that keep trying she will see that you are better than the person she is "in love" with right now because you are there when she needs you some times it just takes time and if you have it then wait but if you don't then put your feelings for her inside a little pouch and lock it away. If this is true love that you have for her, you will always feel it and it will never go away......sometimes at night it will occasionally come back and you will still feel it hurt to let her go............lol best wishes.......... : )
2006-10-04 15:27:33 · answer #2 · answered by confused 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would love to tell you that you'll get the girl. But I don't think that is what is going to happen. I hate to be mean, but she wouldn't have said it if she wanted you more. The probability is that it won't work out with the other guy; but right now she's not going to go for you. I suggest you tell her how you feel, but add that you feel that you have a strong connection and just want to be with her, even if it's just as friends. Let her come to you when times with this other guy go sour. A man who really loves a woman will be the one she can always come to...the one who will always be there for her, even if it's just as friend. If you really love her, you'll get your shot...but I don't think it's love. I think you'll find that someone who you love MUST love you back as well...otherwise, it's more an obsession than love. These things can't be forced. The probability is that the man she thinks she is in love with isn't the guy she thinks he is. Likewise, she might not be the girl you think She is.
2006-10-04 15:23:18 · answer #3 · answered by Chit P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will always love her, but she doesn't really love you. At least she is nice enough to be honest. Move on dude! You will never forget her, but you just have to continue living. Don't listen to sad songs and stay very busy especially at night. I am still in love with a girl that broke my heart when we were 15. I am 44 now and on my second marriage in 24 years. I think about her all the time, especially when I drive by her parents house. They still live there. It will get easier. Try to spend time with friends and stay busy until someone else comes along. Good luck!!
2006-10-04 15:22:16 · answer #4 · answered by TK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it is true love. You really will never get over it... Even though it hurt you, be grateful that she was honest with you.... I think that maybe you should just give her some space. Try and understand what she is going through, because you are going through the same thing.... She needs time to heal from her hurt...
Continue to be her friend. You never know what the future may hold... In the meantime, I would suggest that you keep yourself busy and go out with friends and family... Concentrate your life and the goals you may want to accomplish....
If it's meant to be, she will come back to you... Sometimes in life we need to go through this type of heart break in order for us to become stronger people..... So, that we may be able to deal with what may come in the future....
Eventually the right person will come into your life......
GOOD LUCK AND GOD BLESS!
2006-10-04 15:19:15 · answer #5 · answered by Torres 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back off-- if you push at this point it will drive her to the other guy for certain. Bide your time and see if things work out for her with the other guy. Remain friends if you can so you can get updates on how their relationship is progressing. If they work things out and rem,ain together then you'll have to forget her and look for someone else. But remember, any interference between her and the other guy will not earn you points should they eventually break up.
2006-10-04 15:17:18 · answer #6 · answered by Coo coo achoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here a true playa secret:Play it off nonchalantly like okay, then ask to date her friends, make her friend fall and brag about you the whole being "just friends" with her, she want you faster than a Prada purse! It works all the time, I call it the "Bait N Stick".
Sorrry ladies who reads this.....he's a sweet guy and she's too dumb to know what's good for her, all's fair in love and war. You women have your "tricks" and here's one of ours.
Good Luck
2006-10-04 15:17:04 · answer #7 · answered by asajous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is in love with someone else, there's not much you can do. I know it's hard to forget the one you love, but you've got to move on with your life. The more you keep trying to win her love, the more you get yourself caught up, and the harder it will be to move on. Best of luck. If you love her that much, let her go... and if she comes back, then at least you know then, that she loves YOU, and ONLY YOU!
2006-10-04 15:15:23 · answer #8 · answered by marypaz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cannot force anyone to love you trust me. ia ma going through the same thing shes going through right now. i am in love with someone else who i had a relationship with buit i have someone who i like but i cant get over the ex. you mgith want to give her her space and just leave the situation alone for now until she finally decides who she wants to be with. dont put yourself through heartache when you can find someone else who will love you the same way you love them. easier said the n done i know but you will and you can
2006-10-04 15:16:12 · answer #9 · answered by BabyDoll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you keep someone you feel that strongly for as a friend???? If ya can, than do that, but you have to move on. She loves someone else, and nothing you can do can change the way someone feels. Be her friend if you can handle it. But remeber, you'll have to hear all about her BF and what they do together and see them together and watch them together....so...If you cna handle that, be her friend....or move on and find someone who truely loves ya!
2006-10-04 15:17:05 · answer #10 · answered by OTNEB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋