I have been dating this guy for like 8 months. I can't get him to commit. He says he want's to finish school and then he will be able to concetrate and be ready for a future with me. We don't even have intimacy and it's driving me crazy? I have so much fun with him and we enjoy each other. What do I do?
2006-10-04 08:12:23 · 7 answers · asked by Cynthia F 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You know....a better relationship is one that is based on a friendship. You hear all these stories about whirlwind courtships, etc - and their marriages are just as quick. Taking time to really put the effort into the relationship, something to build on, really getting to know each other without sex being an issue, means you have something that could last longer than 5 years or so.
The quality of your relationship should be important.
I think its nice that a man for once would actually want to hold off until he can actually concentrate on the relationship - which means he is more interested in something lasting longer for the two of you. To me, I guess that says family man.
While its understandable that you wouldn't want to keep waiting, you might be getting a tad impatient and too frustrated, which could potentially damage the relationship. Keep having fun, get to know him, create that deeper relationship, you never know - he may change his mind down the road.
Patience and communication really are the keys to a strong relationship.
Best wishes for you both!
2006-10-04 08:20:53 · answer #1 · answered by saintlyinnocents 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you are asking this question then it is enough. I was in a relationship and I asked the same thing "when is enough , enough" although I asked my question for a different reason. I think you two are at a different stage and it is not working. I live by: If you are not happy, make yourself happy, and if it was meant to be it will be. That is advice that I find hard to follow sometimes, but I do believe it.
2006-10-04 16:08:32 · answer #2 · answered by darkangel9076 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, cool your jets! He sounds like an intelligent guy who's not all about the lack of impulse control. He has a plan for his future, he has ambition, and he's fun to be with. Relax! You've found a good one, so don't let your impatience ruin this.
2006-10-04 15:15:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First,you don't want to give him an ultimatum,coming from a guy with tons of experience in this area.Just tell him you need some indication of where you two are headed.Then,ask him what his particular intentions are as far as the future is concerned.
2006-10-04 15:15:44 · answer #4 · answered by gibbyguys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to go with the flow... It is obvious that this guy is responsible and wants to do things by the book... You should respect that..... You have only been dating him for 8 months...
It's hard to find decent men in this world... Don't mess it up..
2006-10-04 15:29:13 · answer #5 · answered by Torres 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
where do you girls find this guys that don`t want to have sex???please tell me cause I have never ever met a guy that wouldn`t want it....well...you must try to "convince" him to commit...maybe he is a virgin...and that would make your work harder...just be sexy and sensual...you will make him wanting to go to next level...
2006-10-04 15:20:09 · answer #6 · answered by donatella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
EIGHT months?? Don't waste your time any more, dear. Be satisfied with the "just friends" relatinship, and find someone else to date.
2006-10-04 15:15:11 · answer #7 · answered by northernbornsoutherner 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋