Ive recentley started haning around with a new group of friends...all was goin real well and we were gettin on great...but 4 some reason 1 guy(a pretentious bastard) stated to pick on me and hes slowly turnin the rest of the group on me..wat the hell can i do!!!!...if i loose these friends coz of this god knows what ill do
2006-10-04 08:12:22 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
YOU ARE WORTH MORE THAN ANY FRIEND. Friends are expendable and you can always always make more. Now that that is said lets see what we can do.
If you are week, you get picked on plain and simple. It has been this way since the start of time. You must get tough and realize you are worth the fight. Sounds like this guy is a bully. People tend to side with bullies since they like the power and since they are also afraid of them whether they show it or not.
You can either say away from them and show them you don't need them (and they will try to get you back)
Or, you can stick it out and push back. Tell the bully you like them (even though you don't) and tell them that you are overlooking their faults and name them if you must (like a big nose, fat bely, or red hair or bald spot) even though you may have to make it up. Don't be afraid of them. Also ask God for the strength to confront them.
No matter what they tell you turn it around to make them look inferior. It is amazing how others don't want to be viewed badly.
If this does not work, remeber you are Gods creation special and one of a kind. You don't need friends who treat you badly. They are the ones who will lose out. But it sounds like they are not as good as you right now so why do you need them?
2006-10-04 08:22:11 · answer #1 · answered by Nevada Pokerqueen 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What? You are afraid to lose friends who are "turning against" you? What does that say about you? If they're mean, dump them. If they're just picking on you in a fun way (and there's a fine line there) then maybe you need to learn to laugh at yourself a little. Either way, you need to evaluate what is important to you - having friends no matter what the cost, or going it alone for a while and finding good quality people to hang with. Your choice.
2006-10-04 08:17:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, this is not a hard decision to make. Friends are the people who mostly treat you with respect. You should think about what type of friends you have and if they are considered "real" friends.
Just because you hang out with a group of friends doesn't make you cool.
Honestly, if my friends had picked on me for atleast 4 or more days, I wouldn't be their friends anymore. True friends are people who don't make fun of you and pick on you, they are there for you.
You should think about it...
The world is filled with many other friendly people. There are many people who are waiting to make friends too.
You should think about if your friends are true friends. Why would you want to hang out with people who pick on you? I don't deal with disrespectful people either, so if people are gonna be disrespectful, I'm not going to take it from them.
I hope you make the right decision.
2006-10-04 08:22:05 · answer #3 · answered by Y!User 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have two options...call this guy out if you can, or shrug it off and attempt the "kill them with apathy" attack. personally, i think standing up to him and rallying the others in the group is the best way. good luck, buddy.
2006-10-04 08:15:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? If you think your life would be over because you think these people are your friends and that life is over if you lose them, then you have to be a young kid.
Get new friends.
2006-10-04 08:15:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
pick on him, be tough, slowly turn the rest of the group on him, beat him up, if you just stay quiet, he will treat you badly, so speak up.
2006-10-04 08:15:31 · answer #6 · answered by themysterious 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask him what happend and why is he treatin you like that. if he cant give u a reason hes prob jelous of you. just keep being u and the others will like u or not.
2006-10-04 08:14:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try talkin to him. if that doesn't work out then leave it alone. you don't need all that drama in your life. if he can turn the others against you then they're not really your friend to begin with.
2006-10-04 08:16:50 · answer #8 · answered by msaechao 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
punch him in the face
2006-10-04 08:17:35 · answer #9 · answered by mackley222 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
return the favor to him let him know how it feels then maybe he would stop.
2006-10-04 10:19:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋