Scenario is as follows:
I hang out with guy who has been checking me out and vice versa at my gym, we hold hands, he has his arm around me, make out..everything is good. He tells me how intimidated he has been by me, I tell him the same. He suggests hanging out the next weekend, we text a few times and he says how great it would be to hang. Saturday, the day we are suposed to hang out, I text him to see what we're doing, he says he's slammed with work and will let me know in a couple hours. Then texts me 3 hours later and says he's staying in and will call me tomorrow, apologizes for late notice. He DOES call next day, leaves a sweet msg, i call back, lv msg, no call back from him. I see him at the gym the next day, he comes up to me the minute he sees me and says he's been head under water with work and will be around more in the next 2 days. He's not married, no GF, very awkward and shy, sorta weird. Maybe he's just downright strange to begin with but is it me or was I blown off?
2006-10-04 08:07:09 · 46 answers · asked by trickyandmysterious 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think unless he has given you reason to believe he is out right lying then give him the benefit of the doubt, maybe work has been that heavy. He sounds like he likes you so give him a chance. If you find out otherwise then blow him off.
2006-10-04 08:20:49 · answer #1 · answered by the_news_junky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this stage in the game, I would take him at face value. If he has a kind of job that requires him to work on a project or something until it's finished then he was being straight forward. Try to get together another time. If it happens again then he might be so insecure that he doesn't know how to deal with it. I'm like that but I have never backed out of a date... but then again, I don't have a job that requires me to work past my 40 hours.
Give it a couple more tries before you 'throw in the towel'.
Good luck and have a great day!!!
2006-10-04 08:12:53 · answer #2 · answered by Coo coo achoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is just strange to begin with. Who does work on saturdays? Unless he is a lawyer or something long those lines, but it is still strange activity. I would say you werent blown off, but dont expect anything different from him once you do start hanging out, common sense says you treat a girl extra nice during the courtship period, then you kind of let yourself go. If this is how he treats you know. good luck lady
2006-10-04 08:11:14 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. Kimmy Gibbler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think so. If a man's really interested in a woman he'll either come on too strong (especiall if he's shy/awkward) and make absolutely sure to be in touch with a woman or be very aloof and not make excuses (a means to keep you interested / intrigued).
He's being a bit aloof, but not in a way that would keep you interested. He may just be bad at the "hard to get" schtick, but more likely is that he's lost interest and is trying to keep your incidental contact (at the gym) from being too awkward by making excuses and the like.
2006-10-04 08:15:32 · answer #4 · answered by ratboy_wustl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
someone gave me these rules and now i live by them!!! with dating.... so here it goes.
Dating rules!!!
1) Always date more than one guy at a time in the initial stages.
2) Never act desperate around a guy.
3) If you dont like something abt something he has done, go ahead and create a huge scene. Dont try to act all "understanding and sweet".
4)Be considerate of your needs as well.
5) Always act emotionally secure by giving attention but not dropping everything to just be with him.
Try these, and once you have attracted the right person, remember you must always come first. Love him, care for him but never compromise on your needs to satisfy him.
2006-10-04 08:27:45 · answer #5 · answered by thought 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he intentionally blew you off, but I would wonder where you stand on his priority list. I would back down a little bit and not get sucked in to persueing him. He has some making up to do he he really wants to go out with you. Let him know how it really made you feel and tell him he should not have made plans with you if he wasn't sure he would be free. In the meantime keep your other options open.
2006-10-04 08:14:59 · answer #6 · answered by kathy r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, some people do let work rule their lives.
If your sure there's no wife or gf, then hang in there and let him make it up to you.
Stop and think.............have you ever made plans and just couldn't follow through with the plans? Sure you have, we all have!
Give him a chance.
Just because he's shy doesn't mean he's strange!! Being shy can be a turn on to lots of people!
2006-10-04 08:12:15 · answer #7 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt jump to any conclusions just yet. I think you should tell him that you are interested in dating him and want to know if he feels the same because you feel like you were blown off. I know this may sound strange but we (men) like an honest to the point women.
2006-10-04 08:11:09 · answer #8 · answered by Got2seeit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy has issues. The underlying message here is this: "my work is more important than you". Seems like he can make time to make it to the gym and string you along but he can't reply to your messages or phone calls? Don't waste your time. Next time, play his stupid game and blow him off the way he did you. If it touches a nerve then mission accomplished. Then you can say to him: "Okay, now that we've got the game bullshit out of the way, when can we get together"?
2006-10-04 08:12:52 · answer #9 · answered by Doodlebug 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Given the amount he communicated with you, it sounds to me like he was being sincere. Sometimes work does take over on the weekend, and after putting in several hours on a Saturday, you just want to veg. Think of it this way: you may be about to embark on a relationship with a man who has ambition and earns lots of money!
2006-10-04 08:10:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋