We've talked on the phone, chatted online, so when do we meet? We live 100 miles apart. Do I meet him halfway or let him come to me? I am leaning towards him coming to me. Then, is dinner okay in a public place. I wouldn't feel comfortable inviting him to my home early on. Advice?
2006-10-04 08:02:55 · 14 answers · asked by intentionalmasterpiece 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I advise anyone not to meet anyone on line but if you do,,let him come to your town,,do not tell him where you live,,ever! And be sure that you & he have another friend along in a public place & have your own veicle.Do not ride anywhere with him.If he makes you feel bad about your rules,,oh well,,cya.And,,if you are not an adult,,do NOT go.
2006-10-04 08:06:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The way the world is today, I would take some time and talk with friends and loved ones before you make a move. How sure are you that the person you are talking to is who he says he is? You don't want to make a mistake and something bad happens. Be sure if you do meet in a public place to let someone know where you will be at all times. You have to feel safe and comfortable with that person. If you don't feel that way then he would understand if you want to leave...
2006-10-04 08:15:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meet as soon as possible so you don't start developing a false or fantasy impression.
A gentleman must come to the lady - don't meet half way. A double date is a good idea. Public place. Tell people where you're going. Bring a cell phone. DO NOT invite him to your home no matter how romantic the night is.
And get his last name, home phone number, etc. before meeting him. If he won't tell you some basic details, don't meet him.
2006-10-04 08:07:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a good idea for him to come to you and have dinner in a public place... be sure to meet him there so that you can make a quick exit if necessary... it is also prevents him from finding out where exactly you live... but if he has your phone number he probably has your address too... unless your number is unlisted... you can find anything on the internet... It might also be a good idea to have a friend or two go to the restaurant and dine in your general area so if he gets out of line you will have your back up handy... Good luck...
2006-10-04 08:11:16 · answer #4 · answered by MsBusyBody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
meet him half way, and get to know him before you take him home...you may not want him there when you get there.
As far as how long to wait...that is up to you, and your comfort level. The people you meet online are for the most part just like you...people, with an internet connection. So be just as careful meeting him as you would be with some total stranger you see at a mall.
2006-10-04 08:08:37 · answer #5 · answered by Joe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dinner would be nice. I met my ex online also. He lived like 1 hr away from my house and he took the initiative to come see me. Dont make the move, let him make it. Dinner would be nice at a fast-food restraunt. You dont wanna start off big and then be wrong about him. Wait a couple of mths or so before meeting him online.Found out everything you can about him. DONT bring him home. Thats the wrong thing to do. Then you can take it from there. Pray about it first before deciding. Good luck hun!
2006-10-04 08:07:00 · answer #6 · answered by starlette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are comfortable meeting him then that is the right time, but do so in a public place only. If he cares for you he wont have a problem with your wanting to be safe, if it goes well then move on making things more intimate little by little.
2006-10-04 08:10:33 · answer #7 · answered by toogoodtobebad2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dinner id perfect in a public place because you dont want ot meet someone and hes some weirdo and he tries to kill you and if your not where some other people are hell try something funny. and if you guys have talked for a while you will know when the time is right to meet it will just flow naturally. GOOD LUCK!
2006-10-04 08:08:06 · answer #8 · answered by BabyDoll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone told me that you should set up a place to meet (in public) and tell him you'll be wearing a...red dress, but show up in something else. That way you can check him out and if he doesn't meet your expectations, you walk away. You could even take a friend.
Be careful! Do not invite him to your home!
2006-10-04 08:08:54 · answer #9 · answered by seeya 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a good idea. No, do not take him back to your place, because you may think he is a tossa by the end of the luncheon and may not want to see him again.
Enjoy the date.
2006-10-04 08:07:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋