me and my x-boyfriend has been off and on for years, but now he has a girlfriend. but that has not stop us from see each other because we still love each other. but we can't be together because we have this problem with getting mad at each other a lot.I don't know what to do move on or leave. but don't forget we have been knowing each other of some time
2006-10-04 08:00:18 · 32 answers · asked by ga_cutiest_07 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
...and the person he going out with (his girlfriend)? doesn't she matter. His your x-boyfriend, so move on....
2006-10-04 08:05:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a similar relationship for about 8 years in high school and my early 20s. We dated on and off (mostly on) and had anger and jealousy issues. We thought we were in love with each other but I think looking back on it we were more obsessed with what we thought each other COULD be. I'll tell you this, these on/off relationships that center around anger while you are with each other are simply no good in the long run. There will be lots of other people out there you get along with a lot better. time to move on.
2006-10-04 08:04:53 · answer #2 · answered by ry_guy_621 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long is a long time. And does the length of time really matter? He does not really love you if he has another girlfriend. Stop thinking about how long you've been together, on or off. Think of it more in terms of how much OF YOUR LIFE you're wasting!
Why would you want to be with someone that you constantly get mad at and he at you? MOVE ON. And I suppose you are very young so in reality what you perceive as being with him a long time and someone else who has been in a real relationship perceives it are two different things
Give your self some credit, be smart and do not waste one more second of your life on someone who doesn't treat you as you deserve to be treated.
2006-10-04 08:03:15 · answer #3 · answered by BlueSea 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because it's been a long relationship doesn't mean it's a good one. Constant fighting is a bad sign, and the fact that he is cheating on his present girl-friend is also bad news...it indicates that he would also cheat on you...not the sort of qualities that most girls look for in a guy.
You will be better off moving on..there must be someone out there that you can get along with without fighting, and who wants you, and only you.
2006-10-04 08:04:13 · answer #4 · answered by Joe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm...the way I see it you guys still like each other a lot!, and are getting stopped b/c you both get mad too easily, is that it? jeje ok well if you have tried it enough to know that there is no solution whatsoever to that problem then move on but if you think that there might be a slight chance of change and peace then you stay and go for it!!;) hope you do well!:)
2006-10-04 08:04:53 · answer #5 · answered by Delilah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said "we still love each other" and "he has a girlfriend". I am a little confused, if he loves you then why is he with her? I think this is a classic example of having his cake and eating yours too. Why buy the cow when you get the milk for free etc... He may tell you he loves you but he would tell you he was an alien if it meant he can still tap it whenever he wants. Wake up and quit letting him use you, have some self respect.
2006-10-04 08:07:59 · answer #6 · answered by Got2seeit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave the guy alone. I had the same prob with my ex, we would be on and off all the time because we would always get mad for no reasons. We tried the best we could to make it work but it just got worse cause we were used to it. Leave him now, he ended up cheating on me all that time. When it gets to the point to ask advice for your b-f, theres something wrong and not right there. Think about it hun. Imagine if you guys get married, its gonna be worse but then he'll be cheating on you when both you guys get mad. Pray about it and let God lead you.
2006-10-04 08:04:15 · answer #7 · answered by starlette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in this situation before. I think that you should sit down and talk about what you guys have in a relationship, because obviously you love him. Sometimes it is not always best to listen to your heart, but to listen to what your head tells you. He has a girlfriend and this may put things on hold for a while. When you see him does sex involve in this because if it does, then this is cheating. Do unto others as you would want them to do unto you.
2006-10-04 08:08:11 · answer #8 · answered by unknown 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age old question. That's why relationships are hard too get into with any real substance because it means letting the other person know your buttons and trusting them not to push them. You know each other too well. If you have pushed each other already, you will do it again. You have to let it be.
2006-10-04 08:06:05 · answer #9 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand that you've know this man for years but if he loved you would he be with someother girl? i would be you and trying to work it out. i'm sure there are ways to work on problems. if you guys get mad at each other so much the why are you still playing around? move on.
2006-10-04 08:02:59 · answer #10 · answered by samlha83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should move on, it seems like he is trying to since he got a new girlfriend. And because you said you guys get mad at eachother alot I think you should take a break for awhile.
2006-10-04 08:02:39 · answer #11 · answered by Abigail S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋