The father of my son and I broke up after this past christmas because he was cheating on me. We are unmarried, but lease a house together. I gave him the opprotunity to leave, but he stayed. I left and he had the girl he was cheating on my with staying there for days at a time.
He stopped seeing her and I moved back in in March, because our house IS 1/2 mine, our son had his room there and I was due in April.
I have tried hard to forgive him, and he is a wonderful father now that our son is born. I still think of what he did, and how he chose her over us... I also think of what might have happened if I just stayed away... Does anyone have some advice about what to do? He is a wonderful father to William but our relationship is still broken, what can we do to make it better?
2006-10-04 07:42:42 · 7 answers · asked by allisonbowler 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am 22. I grew up with out a dad. my mom did the best she could with little child support and help with my family. She did a good job for a 18 year old mom. I looked up to see how old you were but you didn't say, I also notice you asked Internet Dating for a new mother... is there a better alternative? Which may suggest you are looking for, and there is no other father figer for your new born to grow up with. I wish I could just tell you Take Every Thing for what it is. Past behavior is a good indicator of future behavior. Most of the time. But its not that simple and is not that easy for a mother or a kid to go on with out a father there. In my couple hundred answers I never gave one an awser influenced from the bible but I never cared so much about answer ether. But you might know the biblical story about turning the other cheek. I read this story (not in the bible) were this black guy who was a big ex-boxer and a real nice guy that minded his own business move down south. He was harassed by his nabers, they did realy F upped **** to his house and wouldn't let him go to church. He would study the bible all the time. One day some guys came to his house looking for a fight and he would not retaliate because he was a Christian or some thing. Then the guy punched him in the face and asked him "what would Jesus do"? He replayed turn the other cheek, and he did. The man hit the black dude again. With one punch the black man knocked out the guy and said "Jesus dosnt give any further directions."
I would do the same. Sit your baby's father down maybe at lunch or some thing and let him know how close he was to throwing some thing very special away. But instead... for your baby's sake, your going to do your best to let it go. Tell him you have zero tolerance for any thing that could seem as though its intent may be an act of disrespect to you or your baby. Be stern and clear. If he disrespects you then you must follow though. But for your baby's sake do the right thing and try to start a family. The baby's dad may not be worth it but your baby is. God Bless You I for real I will pry for you and your baby I hope evert thing works out.
2006-10-04 10:49:06 · answer #1 · answered by rebel_slash_hippy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch betrayal is very difficult to overcome. How about some councelling? Look through a local church for free or in-expensive options. Obviously you want to try and work it through..and I dont beleive in the 'once a cheater always a cheater'...do you think he would hurt you again? You really need to work on being a couple again..as well as adjusting to being new parents...quite a lot to take on I know but you have to try. Try literally dating all over again...find somebody to watch baby and go out..even its just for a walk...for a coffee...try to re-connect on an emotional and physical level. If time goes by and no healing is done...you do need to look at other options and move on with your life. Good luck
2006-10-04 07:47:49 · answer #2 · answered by Lynne B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Exact same thing happened to my best friend and her hubby, you have to decider how much you can handle. Him having her in your house in unacceptable, but if you're going to fix you guys together, make sure that you find you and fix you first, otherwise there's no point in working on a relationship, because you can't love him, if there's something broken in you. My best friend worked through it, and spent some time without him, and found herself, and then fell back in love with her man and now they are happier than ever. So take it one day at a time, and remember, time helps, but it's your decision to heal.
2006-10-04 07:48:04 · answer #3 · answered by Me It's a Secret 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She would have the intelligence yet she continues to be a baby. Tantrums are typical toddler habit, nonetheless it is going to continually be dealt with. proceed to tell her that tantrums are actually not the thank you to get your way, lol. tell her she is often occurring with the thank you to communicate and to apply words rather of having a extra healthful. She isn't too previous to be throwing tantrums as your in-rules falsely have self assurance. even nonetheless she will communicate for sure and nicely, a 2 year previous continues to be a 2 year previous. in specific circumstances I walk removed from my 2 year previous's tantrums and she or he gets the assumption. different situations a nostril interior the corner until eventually she will behave and tell me what she needs extremely than scream approximately it works wonders. or maybe nonetheless there are situations I even have given a solid swat on that diapered in the back of to enable her understand i for my area mean enterprise (uncommon, even nonetheless it happens). considering the fact that she is progressed she would not have the excuse of not being waiting to communicate in any different way, yet she nonetheless has the mentality of a youngster (because of the fact she is one). Firmly enable her realize it is not perfect to act that way and supply her a results of a few form. over the years, with consistency on you and your husband's area, she will study that tantrums are not getting her what she needs. superb desires and that truly is staggering how developed her speech skills are! it is marvelous!
2016-10-15 12:38:10 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing you can do. He was already drove the stake into your heart. The pain will never leave cause he cheated once and there's nothing to stop him from doing it again. To his son, being a father just doesn't mean playing with him. It also means being responsible person which he's already shown he isn't.
2006-10-04 07:50:54 · answer #5 · answered by quiet times 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey if it were me I would have stayed away from him. I mean if he is good to his son then fine but you don't have to stay with him just for the baby. You can still have a relationship with him but it doesn't have to be anything deep. I'm goin through problems myself so I hope I helped you some! Good Luck sweety!
2006-10-04 07:48:54 · answer #6 · answered by Tina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me think, uhhh, nope. no respect, neglect. Hell naw
2006-10-04 07:45:56 · answer #7 · answered by Hello A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋